But every girl wants a nice guy... right?

So why is it so hard for nice guys to find a NORMAL girl?

I've got to be the most compassionate, kind, and caring guy there is, but I've only been able to find horrible girlfriends; girlfriends who cut themselfs, are "clinically depressed", have "issues" in general...

I think I'm just too nice... really though. I need to start "not giving a ****" about people... like other guys... they seem to be able to get good girlfriends.

Meh.

Just venting.

What do you think?

Sounds like you are picking from the wrong group of women...

I think you're right.

It doesn't pay to be helpful, attentive, considerate or supportive. It doesn't matter if you're smart, or creative, or talented, or anything. I've been through dozens and dozens of bad relationships, and always tried to be the "good guy."

"Good guy" don't cut it. "Good guy" gets stepped on.

OMG, this is gonna turn into another one of those threads! Guys...good is okay! Good GIRLS could have the same complaints...it's about finding a more diverse crowd & people who aren't jerks.

If you are getting stepped on it's about something else...that goes for me, you, and everybody else... really...

don't confuse being nice with being a wuss

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it.

Lex, ITA with you..Good girls don't cut it either....Been a good girl for far too long and have been stepped on more times than I can count, and have been through numerous bad relationship where I let people run all over me.....It isn't just exclusive to the guys...Nice girls deal with the same things...
Becca

I think the better question is, " Why am I pursuing women that have problems that make them emotionally unavailable to me?" Do you perhaps have a desire to feel needed?

your picker is broken.
happens to a lot of women too.

But it's so much easier to blame everyone else rather than stand up straight and figure out what "they're" doing wrong..

Maybe you should look more towards the inside of a woman and less on the outside. If you see more of the inside you will know alot sooner whether that person is "unhinged". Just a thought...

I have to agree with the ladies here. We nice girls have the same problem. I propose that we start a matchmaking game in this or any other thread like this one that matches nice girls with nice guys.

once we realize that we can't make another person whole and we need to be whole oursleves, we will start to see the warning signs ealier. it doesn't discount the fact that all people have issues its the state of our own mental health that will overcome the little character flaws that we all have. sometimes others defects complete us we all have them and they can be used to strenghten a relationship rather than kill it. i guess its all how ya look at things. then again maybe i'm the one thats a schitzophrenic psyco...:

scott

The whole concept frightens me. If I ever met up with someone who treated me half-decently, I might end up in a relationship that lasted more than three months, and I'm pretty sure the world would explode.

Oh...and THERE is the real issue for both good guys and good girls! Real relationships are scary as hell if you've ever been burned! OUCH!

I'm just gonna come right out and say this, and yes, I am gonna vent now.

Nice guys are p*ssies. You try so hard to do everything right, to be the guy that a girl wants you to be. If it doesn't come naturally, if you are not genuinely nice and have a ballsac, you will never get the girl. End of story. Period.

Here p*ssy, p*ssy. Now I am gonna sit back and wait for all the nice guys to come running.

Hey Goof! How are ya?

The "natural" part is the right thing...you either are nice enough for whomever you are approaching or you are not. Fake stinks, either way!

I'm well. I just get pissy at "Nice guy" threads. Lemme down a line of smack and all will be well.