One of my co-workers and I were talking and says he is seeing a woman that he says "wants to take things slowly". I told him that maybe she meant that she wants to get to know him better before making things official. However, they have already had sex together and he is thinking that it means they should not talk or see eachother as much. At this point I have no idea what to tell him to do. I was just wondering does this mean the same thing to everyone or could it just vary by the situation?

Taking it slow to me means that the sex hasn't happened yet.

Maybe they were moving too fast and she wants to slow down.

It sounds like she feels guilty because they probably rushed the sex. Maybe she thinks he has the wrong impression of her and she now wants to get to know him better.

to me taking it slow means no sex yet...it could be that she feels bad about going that far that soon...she may want to make sure he is truly interested in her and not just for the sex

Cuz it wasn't that good for her. Now she wants to go slow. Keep him at a distance, until that distance gets further and further apart.

Whenever I am taking it slow......means I wind up sleeping alone.

It sounds like there is some chemistry and it's a little scary...wants to "slow down" to manage that.

Now that I have some further insight to the situation I can say that she might be feeling like she is always rushing into relationships and things never workout. He said she wanted to take things slow before they had sex and he said they were hanging out and had moment and he went for the kiss. Then they were in bed together. According to him they have been friends for a while and kind of want to take things further.

Its not the sex that kills relationships...its the not getting to know one another well enough before calling it a "relationship".

Coworkers are a great source of information. I have this one coworker who comes on hot at times then cools down. She made sure to kiss me in front of all my friends where I work who are coworkers. So all of my coworkers are thinking we are having a relationship. One even asked if we are living together. But it all ends as soon as the coworker and I get off work. She goes to her house and I go to my house and basically we don't see each other to we come back to work. Some of the coworkers ask me aren't you two a couple. I have heard of taking it slow but this turning it off then turning it back on at her will really shows control to me. We haven't had sex so to me it is a friendship. I am beginning to think she is just a tease.

No dating coworkers is one of my two dating rules...the other is no dating married men.

Messy, messy, messy...I mean really...rarely do you see either scenario work out well. Possibly the first but even that is rare in my observation...