I created a post earlier tonight entitled "Question for the guys".

I asked how the men would propose and was sooooooo sad to discover that a lot of men out there have a serious aversion to getting married

OK, the guys that feel this way have been married at least once.

Here is what i'm wondering. Why are they on a dating website if they have no intention of ever getting married again?

And what has made them so not willing to get married again.

Was so surprised to find this out. Just wondering

I couldn't give away my secret...though marriage is a long way from me, if ever.

simple cause of our past experiences we refuse to get married.

There is no marriage inevitability for people who date ... or even for people who share their whole lives in a committed relationship.

I don't think men are saying they don't want the intimacy and companionship ...

Many women don't plan to get married either.

I have been married before and I would do it again ... but I don't 'have' to ...

Whats wrong with just dating?

I was just having fun with you other post. I am not opposed to getting married again But when you have been married and divorced 3 times you have to laugh at yourself and get over it. I would marry the right woman and I am being very picky this time having been maried to 2 alcoholics. My proposal to my lady is a private thing between her and I OK no offence to you

Oh for cripes sake, women arent like this also? Gimme a break! Lots of people feel this way for quite some time after a breakup. Rather being a ltr or a marriage.... Then we all change our own minds on our own time after we meet the right person. Give the men a break will ya?

im here just for datin to !

I was already married once, and don't plan on ever getting married again. But who knows for sure what the future holds, but the idea for dating isn't strictly just to find a marriage partner

psh when one endures a childhood peppered with intense physical and psychological abuse from your father towards your mother... it kinda puts u off the idea of marriage just a wee bit.

Honestly I believe that some of those that answered in that thread saying they never would get married. In fact if the right one really came into their lives they would reconsider the matter. But.......as of this date they have not met one that has changed their minds.

We all tend to say never at times due to the past but in reality when it happens then we reconsider at times.

Besides that many don't believe that a piece of paper is that critical to a relationship.

Myself I'm not looking for a man to marry but if it happened and that is what I wanted at the time then yeah I would do it again. But it is not something that is necessary in my life nor one of my goals.

Myself I want the relationship more then anything the rest will fall into place if it is meant to be.

I think wanting to get married is like wanting to have kids.
You only want to if you believe that you can make it better or different than those who have done the same before you.

Agreed!!!

Live through what I did with my x and you'd understand !

my point once a divorce we all say we will never do it again ... then when the time is righ we change our minds and rightfully have the priveledge to do so!

Yeah...I hear you with that.. one of my greatest friends that I've had in my life for over 12 yrs now would agree with you on that. If the same things that happened to her happened to me I would not be able to trust again if ever. I know she has no plan of ever marrying again.

OK, I never said that I wasn't willing to get married again,I was just having fun. but what is your fixation on marriage? Does the fact that I put this piece of super compressed coal on your finger and mutter a few words in front of people mean that I am going to love more, that my heart is going to be even more true to you? Just a question

im not sure of anything.

but if the circumstance was right..I would roll the dice.
im not scared.

Im assuming most people are like this.

I lived with an alcoholic for 7 yrs., been there, done that, yeah, i'm not doing it again either