Topic: heres something interesting
franshade's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:23 AM


So if a guy works somewhere, and a lady comes in as a regular shopper, he's not allowed to date her on his own free time? That's ludicrous.


Employers often have that rule. If you're discreet it is usually overlooked or not noticed at all. But, they do have the right to make it a stipulation for employment.


exactly upon accepting the job one also accepts company policies waving

Mr_Music's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:24 AM
Do they impose a curfew, too? whoa

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:24 AM
I can see posting here, I mean if she doesn't know you post this is a safe albeit public place to share....

But to tell your co-workers? That I cannot fathom.

Krimsa's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:25 AM
Edited by Krimsa on Tue 11/25/08 09:27 AM

So if a guy works somewhere, and a lady comes in as a regular shopper, he's not allowed to date her on his own free time? That's ludicrous.


No. Your free time is your free time. That would be unlawful to infringe upon a person's private life. Say you worked in a hotel. You can not be on the clock having sex with a woman staying in a room in said hotel as a guest. Something like that would be grounds for suspension sans pay or a complete termination.

Another situation might be if you are perceived to have given intimate company details to a competitor, they will frown on this.

franshade's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:25 AM

Do they impose a curfew, too? whoa

Mr_Music - entirely up to the applicant whether the company rules are to his/her liking

now if I were your employer, yes I'd instill a curfew devil winking

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:26 AM

Do they impose a curfew, too? whoa


Some jobs have a lot of control over your personal life. Like being a police officer. You can face disciplinary action for behavior off duty for almost anything.

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:27 AM


How did your boss find out?

Why is it your last week anyway?
he overheard people talking about it and i put my 2 weeks notice in because i got something better


Well there is your answer most likely it had nothing to do with you dating someone you met because she came into where you work.

Shshhs you already gave your 2 week notice most the time they will let you go maybe they found someone to take your place and no longer needed you. Actually some companys will let the ones go that turn in a notice figuring the last week they would not come in anyway.

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:28 AM


So if a guy works somewhere, and a lady comes in as a regular shopper, he's not allowed to date her on his own free time? That's ludicrous.


No. Your free time is your free time. That would be unlawful to infringe upon a person's private life. Say you worked in a hotel. You can not be on the clock having sex with a woman staying in a room in said hotel as a guest. Something like that would be grounds for suspension sans pay or a complete termination.

Another situation might be if you are perceived to have given intimate company details to a competitor, they will frown on this.


It can go farther than that. There can be stipulations for dating anyone you meet who is a customer of the company you work for. You have the check your company's policy. Again, if you are discreet it doesn't usually come up.

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:28 AM
It's called a morality clause. Where I work I can't be openly political...no signs in my yard or on my car, no affiliations noted.

Teachers can't be strippers....doctors can't do drugs....

Come on, jobs can tell you if you can smoke or drink too. It's legal, and if you take the job you agree.

Mr_Music's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:30 AM
If memory serves, the OP said (in a different thread) that he worked in a bakery, or some such. I highly doubt there's a lot of fear of intimate competitive details there, certainly nothing which would stipulate or prevent an employee from dating a customer.

Krimsa's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:30 AM

It's called a morality clause. Where I work I can't be openly political...no signs in my yard or on my car, no affiliations noted.

Teachers can't be strippers....doctors can't do drugs....

Come on, jobs can tell you if you can smoke or drink too. It's legal, and if you take the job you agree.


I agree. Especially in a right to work state. You have the right to refuse to take that job if you find any of the company's parameters to be unsatisfactory. You also retain the right to quit at any time you want. It really comes down to personal accountability and how comfortable you are with that.

franshade's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:31 AM
Edited by franshade on Tue 11/25/08 09:32 AM

If memory serves, the OP said (in a different thread) that he worked in a bakery, or some such. I highly doubt there's a lot of fear of intimate competitive details there, certainly nothing which would stipulate or prevent an employee from dating a customer.


then I would question the entire thread and that it happened - rofl

maybe customer is related to owners, a friend rofl

was not aware of previous thread


Krimsa's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:32 AM

If memory serves, the OP said (in a different thread) that he worked in a bakery, or some such. I highly doubt there's a lot of fear of intimate competitive details there, certainly nothing which would stipulate or prevent an employee from dating a customer.


I was not speaking to the OP but to you because you were asking for clarification in what I perceived to be general terms. huh

Mr_Music's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:33 AM


If memory serves, the OP said (in a different thread) that he worked in a bakery, or some such. I highly doubt there's a lot of fear of intimate competitive details there, certainly nothing which would stipulate or prevent an employee from dating a customer.


I was not speaking to the OP but to you because you were asking for clarification in what I perceived to be general terms. huh


And my response was not directed at you, either, but to the thread posters at large.

lilith401's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:33 AM
Previous thread was a chatty cathy customer who wanted shrimp and he got it for her then put his in her. He posted the next day, and it would seem told everyone he knew as well.

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:34 AM
It doesn't matter where you work. The owner can require you to agree to such a thing. If you don't like it then you don't have to work there.

However, I am wondering why the employee in this case is not sure why he was suspended.

Mr_Music's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:34 AM
Right, shrimp. Thank you for the reminder.

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:36 AM
Well I still say it does not have anything to do with whom he was dating but the fact that he had turned in his 2 week notice prior. bigsmile

The company had no reason to keep someone that was quiting anyway and most likely had replaced him.

Mr_Music's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:39 AM
Edited by Mr_Music on Tue 11/25/08 09:44 AM

Well I still say it does not have anything to do with whom he was dating but the fact that he had turned in his 2 week notice prior. bigsmile

The company had no reason to keep someone that was quiting anyway and most likely had replaced him.


But why suspend him without pay, just because he was dating a customer? That makes no sense. I'm relatively sure it had nothing to do with letting out Bubba Gump's Secret To Catching Shrimp.

I mean, even if he HAD given notice of his departure, and they either replaced his position immediately or decided they just didn't need him anymore anyway, they could've just terminated him and be done with it. Why let him ride out his two weeks without work or pay?

Pinky01's photo
Tue 11/25/08 09:42 AM
Ok, i think we get the point about company policies blah blah blah... i think the question is more along the lines of why does that company have those policies. Personally it's none of my managers buisness who i date. I've hung out with several of my customers outside of work, how it turned out is a whole differant story... but in my opinion if my job withheld my pay for that it'd be an invasion of privacy... however you gave up those rights to privacy by telling everyone and their mom about it...