Especially after you water them.

i am probubly going to get laghed at but whats a wallflower

A wallflower is a shy girl. I think the name comes from those girls who stand next to the wall while everyone else is dancing.

It's an archaic (outdated) term, don't feel bad.

It's not easy and over the years dating has seemed to get more complex.My advice to you is to try to find someone who works in a public place where you can visit on a regular basis such as a mall,or a coffee shop.If you find someone you like smile,be nice,and try to find some common ground where you can keep a conversation going.If you think she is interested in you take it a step further.Look in the paper and see if there is something happening that she might enjoy going to.Then say "there is a concert(or what ever) this weekend and I was wondering if you would like to go with me"?If she says "like on a date"tell her yes.If she says "no" drop the subject and talk about something else.If she says "maybe",or "I don't know" write you phone number on a piece of paper and give it to her and say "if you change your mind you can give me a call".

You can also try the dance clubs if your town has one.I wouldn't go alone.I would try to get 2 or 3 of your friends together as the more friends you have the easier it is to get a conversation going with another group of girls.Dance clubs are not the best place for meeting women but there is always girls who are good catches who like to go out now and then.

And the movie "Hitch"!!

Hmm relationships. guess your not the only one. I have never been on a date either. Guess I dont have the guts to ask coz I know I'll get regected. I guess you have to be comfortable with yourself first before you can even ask a girl out.

The scary thing is, I'm almost starting to perceive myself as undatable. Scarier still, I'm beginning to accept it.

iots not normal. how old r u?? i didnt lookj.

but seriosuly...it aint THAT hard to find a DATE..unless you r way picky or something..

evaluate yourself

well there is this one girl that i know likes me to named hanna. she is sorta hartbroken and dosent want to date anyone cause of her own stuff.but she likes me and she likes me sweettalking to her. she even said she likes talking alot so there is hope

Yeah, as a lot of people have said. You'll get your turn, and it'll probably happen when you're not looking. That's how I met this one girl that i really liked, she was the whole package, needless to say, she ended up moving in my i think it was. But, still keep your chin up.

I have never had a relationship either. It is partly my fault. I am a very shy person, so it is hard for me to really get to know people unless I am comfortable around them. The idea of confessing my feelings to someone I am attracted to and getting rejected scares me to death. Also, I am a bit of a romanticist so I like to think that one day, one will sneak up on me.

I was in a 10 year relationship that started when I was 15/16 so I sort of missed the fundamentals of dating.
Now I've been on my own for nearly three years and only recently started dating.
It's awkward.
uncomfortable.
I feel out of my element.
just try to remember that everyone has that insecurity.
everyone fears rejection, some people just deal with it differently.
don't pretend to be confident if you aren't
wait for the one that makes you feel confident
the one you can't help but approach
forcing something is the most uncomfortable of all situations.
let it happen...my humble advice...
then again I'm single so maybe just ignore me...

VERY well said, my friend

thanks friend

well thanks guys,i dont mean to sound sad but i may have found the one because it all started last march i was living in my moms basement and my pet rabbit died. also i ended up having a breakdown and got put on concerta also i felt life was going nowhere. but then came this sweethart and we talked and she cheered me up a little she was a typical pretty girl at school at the time and all popular but liked being there as a friend.even dating the popular guy at the time u know the rich guy.

things shifted though i became successfull after my mom fought for me to have a second chance. i got my strength back and 4 months later got my own apartment.i learned to go on my own and become stronger and eating healthy and maintaining i also lost my dad in 06.but patched things up with my family

now this girl and me have became close she now things have turned. her friends left her and the popular guy dumped her.she got put on a med called seraquill and had to leave to a different school. i fell in love with her and we are still keeping each other company she never left my side and im not leaving her. and she said when shes better she wants to meetup with me. thanks for your time guys hope its all fine