Time is the best teacher; Unfortunately it kills all its students!

AllenAqua

No really I did. Those other 10 people I responded too mean nothing to me (except that one cute guy).

Patrick: I'm mad.

Spongebob: Why's that?

Patrick: I can't see my forehead.

High on life and glue...Yeah!

That hasn't happened to me yet. I hope it doesn't. I don't want to do the marriage divorce thing. I don't want to do the marriage and live a miserable life because I didn't get a divorce thing either.

My parents have been married 26 years. I want to do like them.
They are very happy and still going strong.

Just razzin ya a little. I'm sure you'll do fine because you obviously are asking yourself the right questions, small town or not...
I wish I'd been that keen to ask the big ones at your age....oh well... (sigh)

You like Tonka trucks?????? WOW!!!!! I don't even know who's post this is, but I had just about every Tonka truck and machine ever made when I was a kid!!! I wish I still had them!!!

Let me get up en them guts Girl!!!

Magbalihi

The post you quoted belonged to that weird Mindy girl. Her dad owns a lot of Tonka trucks and she use to play with them as a kid.

I would play with one now but dad locked them away somewhere.

zooom zooomm errrrr. Barbie use to ride in the back of the dump truck.

LOL That's too funny!!!! I don't blame your dad for locking them away!!! I'll bet they're worth a lot of money if they are in good shape!! Unfortunately I played demolition derby with all mine!!!!

Magbalihi

The one Barbie road in is in good shape. Some I would use to hammer things with, they are not in good shape.

So Magbalihi....as to my OP. In your opinion Is love found or created?

Actually I go along with you on what you said about it. I read quite a few responses too and they were pretty profound!! I thought Telephone had some excellent things to say as I saw you did too. I was gonna post, but spotted the truck thing and as you can see...got side tracked.

I have made some mistakes in my life in love, and I have learned from each one. I don't know if you've ever seen James Garner and Sally Field in a movie called "Murphey's Romance", but I feel like Murphey. I saw your comment to someone else somewhere about 15 years. Ya know, My ex is 16 years younger than me and we got along BEAUTIFULLY for 12 years!! It's all a number is all it is. The HOT guys get fat and ugly too...Most of them sooner than you think. I could pass anywhere for being 10 or 15 years younger than I really am. I see it all the time. But being younger, I know you have what it takes to get a guy that is God's gift to women. But the big thing is....do they KNOW it?? Well...I've rambled on too much!!

Very profound thread!! And congratulations on your paper!! I wrote one about impact in school and cited the comet that struck earth and killed off the dinosaurs(sp). BEFORE they proved it!!!

Thx for the reply Magbalihi. I have my age limit for a reason....it was in the same post or thread you were talking about. Basically I don't want to spend the last 20-25 years of my life alone. That's a topic for another thread one day. I won't discuss it here.


zooom zooomm brrrrrrr oh no Barbie fell out and hit her head.

don't over-analyze love. love takes many forms, but for most people we associate it with relationships. therefore, you can date one person and feel love or you can date 20 people until you end up with the one you love. we are all different people on this planet earth. what you think is love is not what someone else thinks or believes is love.

thx joedez

I don't think I over analyze love. Maybe I do....I think lots of girls do. I am just curious. I hope I know it when I see it.

There is the problem in a nutshell...

Love isn't something you " see ". Love is something you feel.

You said yourself that you'll be seeing a " hot " guy and wonder if it's actually them or just their looks that is attracting you.

When there is love....there is NO QUESTION at all.

Awwww.....poor barbie!!!!!! And I have a response to what you said in your reply. And when you feel like starting another thread on that subject, I hope I'm available to reply because I'll be active in it.

False love is a very special misery for sure.

I do believe that there has to a very special connection that is very hard to define. I will say it has very little to do with sexual chemistry but usually is followed by a good fortune in that department. I think it is just that feeling that you are finally where you always wanted to be.

Thinking that love has to be grown makes a lot of sense to me. It helps a lot if you have basic values in common and actually like each other. Building happy memories together gives it a good foundation but sometimes getting through and adversity will also.

One thing I do know is you have to make and effort to keep the love re-blooming season after season. And sometimes thinks just wither and die no matter how well you tend the garden.

I personally think it is more than possible to be both friend and soul mate with a lover in a lasting relationship/marriage. I have seen it too many times. Doesn't get a lot of PR in todays world but they are there day in and day out.

Justaguy2112


I hope you are right and there is no question at all. My dad says he fell in love with my mom at first sight (married 26 years now.) My mom said that dad help her create her love for him. He was relentless in his pursuit she said. Mom says dad still spends 5 out of 7 days a week trying to make her love him more. She said he use to spend all 7 days a week doing that but know he is retired and he fishes 2 days a week.

I think that you both find and create love at the same time. :)