Topic: Do people find love or create love?
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Fri 11/21/08 10:17 PM

DHinkle

love is a thing every human searches for and i believe there is only one person out there for everyone that is truly right that is the only time u can find love but alot of us r impatient so we create love an hey sometimes it works

Hi DHinkle

"one person" you say? If that is true I hope my one guy is on Mingle2 and sees my profile.

*Mindy wonders if soul mate is on her Mutual Match list*
*goes and looks*


well thats jus wat i think but hey wat do i no

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Fri 11/21/08 10:17 PM
Pat66

I want the love my grandparents had.Are when you are in the park and see old people walking holding hands or you see a old man help and old woman walk across the street.But hey I don't think it is out there anymore.:cry:


You hush. It's still out there. Don't you bust my bubble. errrrrrr

I love it when I see old people (25 and up) walking hand in hand. It's so cute.

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Fri 11/21/08 10:18 PM
DH.. i agree with you.
JMO

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Fri 11/21/08 10:20 PM
Edited by MindyMindy on Fri 11/21/08 10:25 PM
Magbalihi


Well Mindy....let me say one thing.....your parents....mine....most of everyone's on here did NOT have the luxury of being able to get to know people from around the world and doing this kind of searching. They had to find someone within their own circle of travel and hope to find someone who could make it work.


No, I guess not, they didn't. I guess without this dating site I would have to get a waitress job in Philadelphia city to find a guy.

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Fri 11/21/08 10:20 PM

Thx buttons. Maybe my term "create" is not accurate. I am not that articulate. I just notice that many people fall in love with those around them, not people from around the world. So unless that many people just happen to live near their soul mates there must be something else going on. Creating, building, or whatever.

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thx buttons for the post right above. That was nice. :smile:
your very welcome... you have to remember as we grow we all change.. even our ideas, and also every body thinks differently, and gawd forbid when i have said somnething on here someone else took it totally a different way just cause sometimes im not good at wording things..laugh laugh

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Fri 11/21/08 10:24 PM

DHinkle


well thats jus wat i think but hey wat do i no


I just looked at your profile. It's funny that you say you drive a dump truck. We were talking about how I use to play with my yellow Tonka dump trunk as a kid (earlier in this tread). Barbie would ride in the back.

I doubt you have Barbies in your dump truck. lol

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Fri 11/21/08 10:26 PM
you know what gets me you are with someone they love you so much you break up and not a wek or two they are with someone else that is love today

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Fri 11/21/08 10:36 PM
Edited by MindyMindy on Fri 11/21/08 10:46 PM

you know what gets me you are with someone they love you so much you break up and not a wek or two they are with someone else that is love today


Okay, I think I understand. That would bother me too. frown


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to add extra o to to. That's right...I am a little OCD.

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Fri 11/21/08 10:52 PM


you know what gets me you are with someone they love you so much you break up and not a wek or two they are with someone else that is love today


Okay, I think I understand. That would bother me too. frown


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to add extra o to to. That's right...I am a little OCD.
ask a guy today what is true love and they have no ideal

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Fri 11/21/08 11:02 PM
I just had a thought... that there is a big difference between the fantasy, non-real world of the Internet... and standing face-to-face with someone.

As far as finding real love here?... Ha.. good luck trying to find people honest with you... next thing you know, they are flirting with about a dozen other people and you have no idea...

Is there such a thing as a monogamous Internet relationship?

I doubt it whole-heartedly.

Too much temptation for game playing here in cyberspace.

I think people who wouldn't normally play that same kind of game in real life would do so here because it is so easy to do so.

Its all a fantasy world on here, and I still stick to my guns that 90% of people on Internet sites are only here for the entertainment value, not for sincerely trying to find someone to match up with in real life.

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Fri 11/21/08 11:03 PM

Magbalihi


Well Mindy....let me say one thing.....your parents....mine....most of everyone's on here did NOT have the luxury of being able to get to know people from around the world and doing this kind of searching. They had to find someone within their own circle of travel and hope to find someone who could make it work.


No, I guess not, they didn't. I guess without this dating site I would have to get a waitress job in Philadelphia city to find a guy.


But then probably your still limited to Philly!!!

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Fri 11/21/08 11:07 PM



you know what gets me you are with someone they love you so much you break up and not a wek or two they are with someone else that is love today


Okay, I think I understand. That would bother me too. frown


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to add extra o to to. That's right...I am a little OCD.
ask a guy today what is true love and they have no ideal


I know exactly what true love is, thank you very much for the sexist remark... LOL

But you're most likely NOT going to find it online... gotta get out and Mingle in reality...

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Fri 11/21/08 11:08 PM

I just had a thought... that there is a big difference between the fantasy, non-real world of the Internet... and standing face-to-face with someone.

As far as finding real love here?... Ha.. good luck trying to find people honest with you... next thing you know, they are flirting with about a dozen other people and you have no idea...

Is there such a thing as a monogamous Internet relationship?

I doubt it whole-heartedly.

Too much temptation for game playing here in cyberspace.

I think people who wouldn't normally play that same kind of game in real life would do so here because it is so easy to do so.

Its all a fantasy world on here, and I still stick to my guns that 90% of people on Internet sites are only here for the entertainment value, not for sincerely trying to find someone to match up with in real life.


I have read your posts and you are probably the most intelligent guy, the most articulate, and have the most well rounded, speak from the heart views I have seen so far!! But geez man!!! Have a little optimism, and a little faith, and a little more trust! I know it might sound nieve, but it sure makes for a more positive attitude and a happier life!!! The glass REALLY IS half full!!!

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Fri 11/21/08 11:08 PM
Edited by MindyMindy on Fri 11/21/08 11:11 PM
To TelephoneMan ^^^^Four post up.

When I find a guy I will no longer be on this forum.
If I did decide to stay (because I made friends) I would not have any photos up and my profile would say....."here for the forums only." I also would not flirt with guys.

I have no interest in carrying on internet dating relationships. I am here to find a guy. The forums are fun and they let me get to know guys and guys get to know me. It's better than exchanging messages with random guys.

You said
"Is there such a thing as a monogamous Internet relationship?"

There is for me and I will take the relationship off the web if I think I really like the guy.

Others may be or may not be here for entertainment ....but I am here for dating. The forums are just fun in the mean time. A place to learn and enjoy myself.



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Fri 11/21/08 11:11 PM
Instead of discussing how to find potential mates online (which I don't think is going to work... ever)...

...perhaps we should start a thread on how to meet quality people in the real world without subjecting ourselves to the meat market of the bar/club scene...

I don't drink, ever, so bars are not even a consideration of somewhere I would go to meet someone... and I feel I would not meet someone of substance and quality in a bar anyways... much the same as meeting some one on an Internet site... both foster too many game players and fakes... very similar

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Fri 11/21/08 11:13 PM
Edited by MindyMindy on Fri 11/21/08 11:15 PM
One up^

If I could get guys to come to my diner from all over I wouldn't need Mingle.

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My quotes don't always work. That's why the ^^^ things
My bracket key is missing. I have to stick a pin into the thing to use a bracket.

I seriously need to buy a new computer.

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Fri 11/21/08 11:14 PM

To TelephoneMan ^^^^Four post up.

When I find a guy I will no longer be on this forum.
If I did decide to stay (because I made friends) I would not have any photos up and my profile would say....."here for the forums only." I also would not flirt with guys.

I have no interest in carrying on internet dating relationships. I am here to find a guy. The forums are fun and they let me get to know guys and guys get to know me. It's better than exchanging messages with random guys.

You said
"Is there such a thing as a monogamous Internet relationship?"

There is for me and I will take the relationship off the web if I think I really like the guy.

Others may be or may not be here for entertainment ....but I am here for dating. The forums are just fun in the mean time. A place to learn and enjoy myself.





AMEN Mindy!!!! I feel EXACTLY the same way!!!!

I wish I would have been so smart!!!!

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Fri 11/21/08 11:18 PM
My luck, I'll met some really great chick online,... and when we move in together, I learn that she has a thing about sleeping in the same bedroom as someone else (I have met two women like that... haha)... and we'll have this relationship where we sit in our individual bedrooms, each online over our home network, and have cyber sex with each other... in the same houselaugh laugh LOL

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Fri 11/21/08 11:21 PM
^ one up (TelephoneMan) My guy better sleep with me.

I would not mind having separate bathrooms. That would be so cool. Guys have this habit of stinking up a bathroom for days.

And NO! My poo doesn't stink. It smells like roses.

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Fri 11/21/08 11:21 PM
Edited by msmyka on Fri 11/21/08 11:22 PM
I think you can find someone you are extremely compatible with, more so than others, but I am not sold on the idea of one "soul mate". I think anyones best bet is finding a bestfriend and growing the relationship into love, if it's there between the 2 of them. I happen to like this explanation the best:

"According to Celtic spiritual tradition, the soul shines all around the body like a luminous cloud. When you are very open ~ appreciative and trusting ~ with another person, your two souls flow together. This deeply felt bond with another person means you have found your anam cara, or "Soul Friend." Your anam cara always beholds your light and beauty, and accepts you for who you truly are. In Celtic spirituality, the anam cara friendship awakens the fullness and mystery of your life. You are joined in an ancient and eternal union with humanity that cuts across all barriers of time, convention, philosophy, and definition. When you are blessed with an anam cara, the Irish believe, you have arrived at that most sacred place"

This does not necessarily denote "love" but I think it explains the bond you can share with someone whether it is romantic or plutonic love.