my grandfather passed on a few months ago an i still can't get over it i
was wandering is there a way to finally get on with my life an quit
worrying not forgeting about him just get on with my life any advice

Well, you do have to go through the grieving process, afalcon. It's
something everyone encounters at one time or more in their lives....I
had to when my grandmother passed away. I understand what you're going
through. It take a lot of time, but eventually you will be able to move
on with your life. Just trust in God (If you believe) and he will help
you. Pray, relax, do some activities that you might enjoy, to keep your
mind occupied. I wish you all the best.

thanks kitten

You're very welcome.

afalcon: there is no schedule or timetable for the grief process, it
takes as long as it takes. There are websites that are especially for
grief recovery, groww.org is one of the best, they have chat rooms with
hosts that can help you through the process.

Good luck and God Bless you

thanks gardenfordge

gardenforge sorry

As stated before, Thier is no time limit on your grieving
my Father passed when I was 16 and My mother when
I was 24, I still grieve and feel the loss of them in my
life, Remember he is in your Soul and will guide you
through all of your lifes ups and downs,, Ask yourself
this question,,, Would he want you to stop living, Would
he want you to not be happy in life,, Time will heal your
pain,,, Time will again bring Ease into your heart,,,

God Bless

As the rest have said you never get over the pain of losing a loved one
it just gets easier with time. Focus on the good times that always
brought a smile to your face instead of there death even tho they are no
longer here they will always be in your heart.

You were so blessed having your grandfather in your life for so long
afalcon! My granparents passed when i was very young so I
never had the memories you must cherish now with your grandfather. Big
hugs girl!!!
Do you ever have your grandfather appear in your dreams? If so you can
be sure he is visiting you and letting you know he is alright. About a
month prior to my mother passing she came to me in a dream. This was no
ordinary dream and it became an obsession trying to figure it out. When
i finally did have the dream interpreted it was her way of letting me
know she was happy, with "jesus" as she said in that dream and he was
standing behind her. I will never ever forget that night or that dream.
She does come in my dreams and I am always happy when she does! I hope
your grandpa comes to you in yours too.

Yeah, the grieving process sure take some time. Next month on the third
will be two years since my wife passed away. Sure hope ya some comfort
with it.

My sincerest condolences. I can relate to what you are going through. I
lost my Mother & Grandmother within 9 months of each other, to the exact
date. Just speaking from my experiences, I have never truly gotten over
that. The pain does leesen in many ways, but in other ways it becomes
greater as time goes by. Although it has been many years, 30 years to be
exact, & I no longer feel the intense feeling of loss, I do miss them
more as each day passes. The one thing I always know is that even though
they are gone, the memories will always remain. I am comforted by
remembering all the things we did together & all of the loving & fun
times we shared. That is something that nobody can ever take from me. I
also found it very theraputic, so to speak, to begin a journal. It does
not contain my day to day life experiences, but does hold all the
treasured memories of my family. I began this for myself, but quickly
realized that I was saving all these memories for my children & their
children. Sometimes the little things get forgotten. This way, I feel I
have saved some of my most precious memories. There are times I sit &
read through it, laughing & crying at the same time. I will share the
poem that I wrote on the first page of my journal. I find it to be
absolutely beautiful.



Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints of snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush.
I am the swift uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds in circled light.
I am the soft star that shines in the night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die.


May your memories always comfort you & make you smile.

i lost my mother after a long illness

and my father about 3 years later of a heart attack
(i think it was a broken heart myself)

niether way is an easy thing

i find comfort from realising that they nolonger
suffer the effects of the illness or the broken heart

just a thought

but hey what do i know

adj4u I beleive you're right, once you've accepted that they're gone,
you kinda feel at peace that they're not suffering
anymore.

death is ineffable im not worried death is inevitable