For all those single fathers out there. How did you get to where you are know. Here is my....

When I was 15 I "knock up" my girlfriend at the time. I was getting ready to leave her because I couldn't stand her at all, but then she had told me that she was pregnant. So I decided that I would just work thing out so we could be a family together . When she was around 8 months she leaved me for her Ex, who she had been cheating on me with for the last a mouth or so. Yes I did get a DNA test done. Then she had the baby. She wouldn't let me see him at the hospitable. I got to see me at 3 days old. When he was taken by that State (DHS) two days later she forgot tell me. I wouldn't have know if it wasn't for a friend at the time, who's sister lived by her house. My son was to carry on the family name, but no she named Tristen. Yes Tristen with a en, Stupid ***** spelled it wrong. Even gave Tristen the last name of her boyfriend at the time. Now he lives with me, and it only took one year. Ever sense then every boyfriend she gets has thought he was going to try to get him back to her so she would he happy, yeah OVER MY DEAD BODY! She is now pregnant and married and hasn't even tried to see Tristen in 7 mouths. Witch I think is for the better. Better to not to know her, then to know that she a meth addicted whore who wants nothing to do with him. Because she has her "new family". Well its your turn to tell me your story, hope it's better then my.

it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulder for many single fathers your age wouldnt know what to do

I like to think so too

Speaking of incorrect spelling.... that was difficult to read.
Well, best wishes to you and your baby. God bless.

well god bless you
(sarcasm)

That really was a sad story- What kind of mother does not want anything to do with her child- that is a tragedy. It is a good thing that you are a stable influence in his life

you both have an interesting road to travel and I wish you both all the luck in the world

**Single Dad story**

The ex cheated. I kicked her out.
The build up to the divorce got ugly, But in the end, I did things right, She didn't.
We're civil now and the boys see both of us all the time, But they're with me 5 days a week.

Wouldn't have it any other way.

single dad story
got married
had a son
after 10 yrs the ***** says shes not happy
divorced
I get my son every other week
looking for my next ex-wife

she left with the child. would not let me see her . i divorce her. asked the courts for more time with my daughter the mom or courts would not let me. went to court with lawyer 9 months later got my daughter mon- fri. now the x is mad and wants her full time and move her 5 hours away. this is the 4 time in court over the same fight in less then 3 years. next tues i will be in court and lets see what happens this time. my x does everything to make me look bad every day. i have no money for x mass because i have such high court cost.but i have my daughter and the love from her. money is nothing to me i will spend everything i have to keep her that is love.

Sad thing is, just asmany single mommies have absolutely no clue at that age either...
iam not trying to single you out, I know you werent trying to suggest anything otherwise, but oe of the stereo types that gets me going is where people automatically start out sayign how men/boys (whatever) dont know what to do as a parent etc etc etc, without even stopping to think that the exact same thing is true about the mommies.

Everyone needs to keep in mind that, no matter wether you are the afther or the mother, you are BOTH just as ignorant as the other when you are a parent, and you are BOTH just as important to the child in question.

Now, yes there are times when one or both parents should be removed formt he child(ren), but personally it shouldnt be anywhere NEAR as much as it is done now, and in the matter of divorce (and I am only speaking divorce/seperation etc, not other issues), then there should be absolutely no question of custody; it should be fifty fifty straight downt he line in every aspect, unless there is a SAFETY issue for the child(ren) involved. And I'm sorry folks, but lack of money is not a safety issue, and should neer be considered as part of a reason to remove parents from their children.

Spell check

I advise spellcheck, in that it is hard to get the story from it. JMO

I'm sorry you had such a stressful situation.

I had a little girl with my ex-wife. We split up about 3 years ago. Now we have 50/50 custody.

The End

This was open for single fathers to tell their story

OP. No one is judging you. We are struggling to understand your post. Really. That's all.

now that I have the chance to sit back down and write the whole thing ot, here is my story of being a single father and how I got here.

My wife was deployed to Iraq four months after the birth of our youngest son. A year later she came home, diagnosed with borderline personality disorders, bordering on bipolar; she was self-mutilistic and suicidal (outright diagnoses). For the next two and a half years, I went from one job to another, losing all of them due to having to elave work to take her intot he hospital or whateer for having cut herself and threatening suicide. WhenI finally told her I could not leep coming like that and thus losing my job (doctors agreed at this point she wasnt suicidal anymore just looking for the attention), and that if she was going to dothis while I am at work, then to hand our children to my parents who lived next door until Got home, she checked herself into a hospital for psychosis. She was then diagnosed with bipolar, schizophrenia passive suicidal, and an apparent emotional age of a 6 yer old. She proceeded to run away with another patient she had met there and has been living with him ever since, getting mixed up in the drug scene and everything else.
When I filed for divorce to prevent her form grabbing the kids and running with her boyfriend, she could not even be bothered to show up in court at all; in fact she moved down to florida two weeks after being handed the filing papers.
The judge gave me sole custody in all regards, finally agreeing to let her have supervised visitation (he wasnt going to grant that).
This happened in february 2006. Since then there have been two bench warrants for back support and she has seen the kids less than twenty times.

Daniel, I'm so sorry. If she were truly ill I'd be sympathetic, wouldn't you? I feel awful for your children though, regardless. They don't deserve that.

oh she is ill all right, theres no doubt about that. And she HAS regressed in emotional age, altough I would put her more int he age group of a young teen (13 to 14) due to her sexual feelings/emotions and how she reacts to them. If she HAD regressed to about 6, she would not uderstand HOW to "scratch that itch" so to speak, nor would she be likely to take pleasure in doing so. And promiscuity, IS one of hte symptoms of bipolar that she suffers from big time.

However, she also knows how to play the system, and I almost swear she enjoys doing so. Right now she is paying no child support, cause she claims she paid me one thousand ahead of time last november, and when she DOES pay, she is only required to pay 88 dollars a month even though she takes home over 1600 dollars per month. She knows I can not afford to ge a lawyer at this point to get that changed, so....

In order to believe you, I'd have to meet her. ( I work in MH) All what you described sounds like BPD.

But I sympathize nonetheless.

Guys stories can be just as tuff as gals. A lot of time they do get jerked around longer in court. Some issues could be better handled by others instead of lawyers. And you can save a lot of money on lawyers by doing more of the work yourself.

If a ex-vet is profoundly mentally ill I would make and effort to get her disability service connected and or on social security disability. If she is as the guardian you should be fileing for a disability payment for your child. That would significantly more than $88.

If someone was constantly harrassing me for custody and pulling long absences I would find a state that has liberal abandonment laws and move there as soon as I could find a job. You would be surprized how fast a year can go by with no contact if you stop raiseing hell for child support.

If I thought a non-custodial parent was a meth addict I would report them to drug enforcement and do everything possible with in the limits of the law to document their use. Meth addicts are not known for being geniuses so it should be pretty easy to catch them doing something stupid if nothing less than consorting with known felons, skipping out on landlords, or shop lifting.