Our story started 6 years ago. We got married (against the advice from both of our families) and 9 months later our first daughter came. During the pregnancy she was violent,combative and down right mean. I attributed this to hormonal changes. After the birth things didn't get any better. But I refused to give up. one year later (almost to day day, our daughters are 11 months and 28 days apart), our second daughter was born. Same scenario as the first time. Now I am sure you all are thinking why have a second child when the relationship is already on the rocks? Well our second was, shall we say an oops. None the less I love them both dearly and to no end. We went through moves and more rough times, all the while struggling to keep together. I have my faults and she had hers. No one is innocent in the demise of a relationship, save for some extreme situations. She was diagnosed with anorexia and BP. and in March of 07 we split up. It was a bad split too. Each of us making our own accusations some true some not. On one occasion i went to get my daughters for the weekend and we started to argue. Thankfully I had a witness with me. as she ended up accusing me of hitting her. I was arrested and went to court. I didn't see my daughters for months and I was almost destroyed by this. Finally the charges were dismissed and visitation was set. She was granted full custody.Things went ok for a while with the visits. Although she tried to do everything she could to interrupt that. calling child protective services and the police and so on. Each and every accusation she has made has been unfounded. She then filed a petition to move out of this county , I decided to fight this as I felt I would not get my visitations as set by the court. She won and moved much to my dismay. I have fought and fought and fought only to lose lose lose. Now with any domestic violence case a restraining order is put in place. Well after one of the weekend visits with my daughters, myself and my mother went to return my daughters and again i was arrested. this time IN FRONT OF MY DAUGHTERS! I was absolutely furious. The police would not tell me anything as to why i was being arrested! I spent a night in what has to be the most disgusting surrounding i have ever laid witness to. I didn't sleep eat or talk. I went in front of the judge the next morning. I was told that on a certain day i was to have supposedly verbally harrasing her, and get this, while I was driving a school bus! I don't even have a CDL endorsement for school bus. And on that day i was at work and with my boss the entire day. Once again back to court. And once again I was kept from my daughters.The day after thanksgiving of 08 I received a phone call from the police. I was to to come and pick up my daughters at the station. Now my daughters are only 4 and 5 years old. So I haul tail to the next county to get them (with witnesses). A side note here guys and gals .. anytime in a sour relationship that involves children, always always take a witness with you. I can not stress this enough. So anyway..apparently she called the local police department and told them that she couldn't handle them anymore and to come get them. My girls were found in a room with scissors and half of their hair cut off, alone! Since that day I was awarded temporary custody and she has tried to fight and the fight continues. the charge against me for violating a restraining order was dismissed. Now I am continuing my fight to keep my daughters with me I will prevail as i will not give up ..ever.

catd47u kepp you head up and I hope you get your kids. Hope itall works out in the end

Catd47u,

I too went through something very similar only I am a woman. I know it isn't "right" when the accusations fly but if you are strong enough (seems you are) the truth eventually comes out. Until then (took me an unbelievable amount of prayer and patience), it is REALLY rough and I commend you for not walking away when you were up against a mountain of bs.

My Story!!?? Got an hour or so? Glad it's over and I'm mentally stronger and single with an awesome daughter and a new spirit for life.

***single dad story***

Well the short and sweet part of it goes something like this....she said I was a bad husband/father and moved out of the house. Two months later after her boyfriend (yes we were still married and hadn't even had time to file any papers yet) kicked her to the curb, she was running out of money and it looked like I would get custody of the kids she decided I wasn't that bad of a person and wanted me back. We decided on marriage counseling....after 6 months of her never showing up I gave up on that so the next time she said she wanted the divorce I said fine and left. I moved out on a Friday and her new boyfriend was living there on Saturday. (can we say reoccurring theme) In less than a year she lost the house and everything that goes with it. Thankfully I have full custody of our kids but over the past 5 years they have gone for months at a time with no contact from her....she was living on the streets with her drug addict boyfriend....and she's gotten herself into legal problems. I've been doing it on my own since they were 5 and 8 years old.....now I have those teenage years to look forward too.....