My son is 13 & I found out earlier tonight that he's had sex with his 15 year old girlfriend & she might be pregnant. It's a situation that has serious legal ramifications, 'cos they're both under age. I'm completely lost & I don't know what to do about it.

She might be pregnant? I am guessing that he didn't wear a condom? WOW! 13 and could be a daddy. Scary. First of all, you should cut off his weiner (kidding of course). In all honesty, look at the laws of your state and then if she is pregnant, I would speak to an attorney on this issue. Get guidance on how to handle this situation. That would be my advice.

Did she have a pregnancy test?

buy her a pregancy test and him some condoms and have a talk about sex with both of them.
You know once you start having sex your not going to quit. It's best he and her know how to do it safely and responsibly. Not that I'm advocating teenage sex, but be realistic.

Yup, unfortunately, I agree with you. And guess what? My son's 13 and we're about to have yet another discussion about sex. He hates it but I really want the message to sink home.

My son is 17...I had the serious "if she's pregnant, you are pregnant" discussion early I also give reminders that it only takes a few seconds of bad judgment to change your life. (He just tried not to laugh at me!) I also told him he'd have to suck up the talk and the reminders because I'm the only parent around to take the responsibility for that. So keep talking...it's part of the job!

Wish I had good advice for the original post...can you let us know what you find out? Best regards!

Yeah, our talks lately have centered around the consequences and responsiblities of sex. If you're not ready for the possible consequences and aren't in a position to take responsiblity, you're not ready for sex. Plus, I remind him all the time that I am WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY to young to be a grandma

To the OP, contact a lawyer.
Have a sit down discussion with your son.
Good Luck

WOW!!! Your scaring me.....my son is fixing to turn 13!!!! We have had the talk to...but it looks like its time for another!!!!! Good luck and keep us posted!!!!

Yeah, it's an ongoing process. And, necessary.

Dang, 13 can be a 6th Grader. What's up when grade schoolers are having sex already? What's with this pressure to have sex earlier and earlier?

I read Manga and watch Anime. People think our club is a porn club. And sure, some of the drawings are sexy. But a whole lot of these authors started doing this as teens and have a teen audience and you don't even find kissing in these books or shows.

I still say we need to have more parental involvement in the lives of the kids, more control over t.v and internet.

NOT that I'm saying you didn't. Because you very well may have had but then most of his friends my not have. And there comes the pressure. Especially from a girl friend that could be 8th or 9th grade when your son is 6th or 7th based on ages.

Even if he is 7th and she is 8th, two years at that age, when the girl is older, is a HUGE difference.

Hmmmm. There is a positive from this, at least you found out he is having sex. Take from it what you can and hopefully he will learn that sex is way more than just feeling good.

Best wishes to you and yours.

Ohhhh, and I was in 8th grade at 13, and a sophomore in high school at 15. I graduated at 17.... are these kids in the same school? They separate high school from middle school for a reason, yes?

They are both under age and by law it is not rape. Your son will not be charged....Now it is up to her if she wishes to keep it or place it up for adaption....There are alot of people ready to adopt.

What legal ramifications are you talking about? For you, right! Not him. It's not illegal for two minors to have sex; only if one is "of age" and one isn't......Or so I am told. Definitely "DO YOUR HOMEWORK" on this one. Don't take anyone's word----seek a lawyer to get the "real" ramifications.

You might want to find out the laws in your state concerning issues like this one. The parents of the girl might be able to press charges against your son. I will, and this is my personal opinion, try to talk to the other parents and come up with a solution that would benefit every one.
Good luck!

We don't even know if the girl is pregnant though, right?

One suggestion I have from a social worker perspective is to have your son in counseling. Sex at a young age may be an indicator of something else in his life or an indicator of something going on with the female child that was now transferred to him. I became sexually active at age 14 and this was a clear indicator on my part that my parents were not as involved as they could have been. In counseling, it will give your son an outlet to talk about problems and concerns and a counselor may be able to redirect his behavior. Also, might be a good thing to tighten the reins on your son and set some firm ground rules.

get the facts

go to a lawyer

see what the ramifications are

here is the one i am going to get reemed on

she is 15 he was 13 and we all know girls mature faster than boys

so that makes her the predator in this situation

just a thought

but hey

what do i know

yes it does! she was probably sexually active before being involved with her son.

I think the first thing is to confirm if she is pregnant or not. You should be able to get free testing, counseling and/or guidance from your local County Health Department.

Good luck.