Community > General Discussion

Topic: Does anybody else think this is creepy?
Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:11 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. I don't think he used protection. He was drunk!

Krimsa Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 9960	Fri 11/07/08 01:12 AM
He just said he did.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:12 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. No, she don't, but when her Dad finds out...he better f@cking run!!!

clayton87 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 42	Fri 11/07/08 01:13 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. I don't think he used protection. He was drunk! I did, cause she made me use protection

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:13 AM
He just said he did. He also said he was drunk and he didn't realize what he was doing. Now, how the hell if he didn't realize what he was doing, did he get that rubber on????

Krimsa Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 9960	Fri 11/07/08 01:14 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. I don't think he used protection. He was drunk! I did, cause she made me use protection Well then it was only a condom. Those things always break and especially when guys put them on wrong when they are drunk. You are in deep shi-

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:14 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. I don't think he used protection. He was drunk! I did, cause she made me use protection Not to worry you, but they are only 98% effective.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Fri 11/07/08 01:17 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. No, she don't, but when her Dad finds out...he better f@cking run!!! She's 18, legally an adult. And you can't put the blame on one person unless it wasn't consensual. It sounds like it was consensual, so they were both to blame. When you agree to sleep with someone, whether you're drunk or not, you agree to the consequences. So it's not like she's a victim. She chose to hookup with someone who doesn't want to date her. It's happened to me, I'm sure it's happened to lots of people, she'll get over it. If she wants to.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:19 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:20 AM
Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her. I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties... but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM. I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous. No, she don't, but when her Dad finds out...he better f@cking run!!! She's 18, legally an adult. And you can't put the blame on one person unless it wasn't consensual. It sounds like it was consensual, so they were both to blame. When you agree to sleep with someone, whether you're drunk or not, you agree to the consequences. So it's not like she's a victim. She chose to hookup with someone who doesn't want to date her. It's happened to me, I'm sure it's happened to lots of people, she'll get over it. If she wants to. But, I bet somehow he made her think he and her were an item.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:22 AM
The slightest wink can do that.

clayton87 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 42	Fri 11/07/08 01:23 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped. well yeah, but getting it back to the friend level seems a little difficult. (thought thats what I'm going to try to accomplish) and yeah, if she does turn out to be pregnant, I guess, I'll be stuck with her, unfortunately.

Krimsa Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 9960	Fri 11/07/08 01:24 AM
Clayton I dont think you need to feel really bad about this. You are a young man and these things happen and its a learning experience but you do need to step up to the plate and take responsibility for your actions and that means sitting her down and explaining what happened and that you are not prepared for a relationship. If that is truly the way you feel. You will learn not to sleep with women at parties when you are plastered and she should learn to be a little more discerning of who she puts out for at the drop of a hat. Sounds to me like she might have self esteem issues which is not uncommon in 18 year old females.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:25 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped. well yeah, but getting it back to the friend level seems a little difficult. (thought thats what I'm going to try to accomplish) and yeah, if she does turn out to be pregnant, I guess, I'll be stuck with her, unfortunately. No, you don't necessarily havta be stuck with her. But, you should own up to being a dad providing for the child and helping her out with the kid.

clayton87 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 42	Fri 11/07/08 01:26 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped. well yeah, but getting it back to the friend level seems a little difficult. (thought thats what I'm going to try to accomplish) and yeah, if she does turn out to be pregnant, I guess, I'll be stuck with her, unfortunately. No, you don't necessarily havta be stuck with her. But, you should own up to being a dad providing for the child and helping her out with the kid. yep...but with any luck, that condom worked, and she's not pregnant

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:28 AM
Clayton I dont think you need to feel really bad about this. You are a young man and these things happen and its a learning experience but you do need to step up to the plate and take responsibility for your actions and that means sitting her down and explaining what happened and that you are not prepared for a relationship. If that is truly the way you feel. You will learn not to sleep with women at parties when you are plastered and she should learn to be a little more discerning of who she puts out for at the drop of a hat. Sounds to me like she might have self esteem issues which is not uncommon in 18 year old females. I'm a man, and I used to put out before the first date. But, I knew you had slept with her from your posts, because I unfortunately have done something quite similar when I was younger. So, you ever need a friend to talk to, feel free to say hey. Just remember, I'm not putting out even if you are not drunk. I only do that for chicks that really know what love is!

clayton87 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 42	Fri 11/07/08 01:30 AM
Clayton I dont think you need to feel really bad about this. You are a young man and these things happen and its a learning experience but you do need to step up to the plate and take responsibility for your actions and that means sitting her down and explaining what happened and that you are not prepared for a relationship. If that is truly the way you feel. You will learn not to sleep with women at parties when you are plastered and she should learn to be a little more discerning of who she puts out for at the drop of a hat. Sounds to me like she might have self esteem issues which is not uncommon in 18 year old females. I'm a man, and I used to put out before the first date. But, I knew you had slept with her from your posts, because I unfortunately have done something quite similar when I was younger. So, you ever need a friend to talk to, feel free to say hey. Just remember, I'm not putting out even if you are not drunk. I only do that for chicks that really know what love is! thanks, I'll keep that in mind.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Fri 11/07/08 01:33 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped. well yeah, but getting it back to the friend level seems a little difficult. (thought thats what I'm going to try to accomplish) and yeah, if she does turn out to be pregnant, I guess, I'll be stuck with her, unfortunately. No, you don't necessarily havta be stuck with her. But, you should own up to being a dad providing for the child and helping her out with the kid. yep...but with any luck, that condom worked, and she's not pregnant Even if she's pregnant, she might not keep it. Not everyone wants to be a mom.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Fri 11/07/08 01:34 AM
The slightest wink can do that. Well, that just means she's desperate. If a guy winks at me, I think he's nuts.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Fri 11/07/08 01:34 AM Edited by Engraven_Image on Fri 11/07/08 01:35 AM
I'm just kiddin around Clay, but you do need to own up to talking with her and being her friend. Just keep it on a friend level and not a sexual level. But, still if she is pregnant, which you need to make sure of in a few weeks at least, you should own up to the fact you helped. well yeah, but getting it back to the friend level seems a little difficult. (thought thats what I'm going to try to accomplish) and yeah, if she does turn out to be pregnant, I guess, I'll be stuck with her, unfortunately. No, you don't necessarily havta be stuck with her. But, you should own up to being a dad providing for the child and helping her out with the kid. yep...but with any luck, that condom worked, and she's not pregnant Even if she's pregnant, she might not keep it. Not everyone wants to be a mom. Don't worry she may not be pregnant, the condom could have worked or your sh!t might not of. So, there's still that good possibility she isn't.