I would never risk the friendship! A true friend is so hard to find, so I would rather keep that and go find a lover somewhere else.
What would happen if things didn't work out between you? Then things would become strange on the "friendship" part. So I would never risk loosing a friend to take it a step up in the relationship...only because you might loose him both ways!!

I would think that the deepest connection that exists between people is through falling in love.
and I would also think that If it was true love it would be as open and honest as I would be with someone I have been friends with for years.

I think really the majority of the problem in this is that people build walls around themselves. and many times feelings and emotions are withheld. and sometimes it is easier to share things with a friend than it is to share things with somebody you have romantic feelings for.

it all takes time. the process is gradual. and perhaps should not be rushed.

but i do believe it is important to view your lover as a friend also. perhaps when this does nbot happen or stops happening is where cheating starts to occur.

I am hoping to turn my best friend into my lover...he's already my love.

Well the best of luck to you. I hope everything turns out transendently.

Because the ones who say the don't care are sometimes the ones who cared the very most. They just couldn't stand the pain anymore. You might not know why they are in pain or why they express it the way they do but I believe all people need love but some just cant handle it.

I would think that the deepest connection that exists between people is through falling in love.
and I would also think that If it was true love it would be as open and honest as I would be with someone I have been friends with for years.

To quote yourself, actually.



You still care. Just fight through whatever it is, Kitty. It'll be worth it, I promise.

Weigh it against potential regret?

Is this friend someone you close your eyes and picture living together, having fun cooking together in the kitchen, and watching little ones run into the living room to watch TV with you?

Or do you just think he's hot and man wouldn't it be nice just one time maybe...

In other words, does that daydream feel "real" enough, and do you have enough confidence that he's probably having the same daydreams, that if you don't do it, you *just know* you are going to regret it if you don't try?

Or do you already see a reason it wouldn't work, and are already picturing the regret of trying?

There's a third possible outcome, you know, between "married" and "oh crap it didn't work and now we hate each other..."
...it just might be that since you are friends now, you might try it - cool! And maybe it doesn't work out. Aw. Well, you *can* go back to being friends. Yes, that seal has been broken - that just opens up the (maybe exciting?) possibility of "benefits" down the road, should both of you happen to be single at the same time... and might add a little fun flirting to the relationship. right?