How do you tell a woman that you like, with a baby..... that you would like to raise it as your own?

Simply tell her

Just tell her..you are a stand up man for doing that...To bad alot of guys wouldnt do what you want to do...There are dads that dont even want to take care of their own kids...Good luck

yep

You rock! Ask to marry her and to legally adopt her child!

hey gorgeous!!!!!!

I did exactly that.....with my ex's two....

a friend of mine met her husban while she was pg with her 2nd child, and he took on the responsabilty of being there father...

Exactly. I have a young child. My b/f told me that "if" we became an "us"....he would like to adopt my son. I thought it was the sweetest thing he could have said to me at that moment.

You have to be careful not to come off creepy.

Timing is everything.

"hey mother, want another?"

and if I met someone who had children....I would raise THEM as my own too.....if allowed.

my sister husband he adopted her 2 boys
even though my nephews sorta know there real dad

That's awesome.Too many men shirk their responsibility to their own children it's just wrong.

Telling her should work, just avoid the creepy is the important thing.

How long have you two been together.

First...is the father in the picture ?
If so...forget it !
No Man will consent to another Man acting like the father of his kids.

Yes they will have to obey and respect you as an authority figure...but even that is under the instructions of their natural Father !

Okay, um, for me I have had many reactions when they start thinking long term with me, as I have a daughter... (VERY GORGEOUS) and another drawback for some is the fact I am a surrogate mother.

However, I have met a few that would love to take care of my daughter as their own and still have more with me.

One man I am highly interested in has 2 kids of his own and would be adding to my joy with Nicole and bringing in his and possibly having more together. I have told him (before he asked) that I am okay with him helping to raise my babe, but as I want him to never force her to call him daddy, I want it to be clear that I will never force his kids to call me mommy. They have a mom, Nicole has a dad.

Now, I get to be a little bit more flexible as my ex-husband and I have agreed that we will be moving on, and Nicole has a special name for him that only he is allowed to receive, Abba (means father in Hebrew, not the disco group).

She did slip twice and call 2 men Abba, but she got disciplined for it. we don't care whom she calls daddy, just as long as Abba is reserved for the only man to ever deserve that name. Just as I request I am called Mommy or Momma, but the next woman in his life will be Ima (mother in Hebrew).

If his kids decide one day to call me by an affectionate term, I think the only one that will have the problem is Nicole. She gets mad when even my ex calls me Momma or Mommy in front of her. She is very possessive over me and her father.

She even told her Safta (grandmother) that her son (my ex) is no longer her son, he is her Abba. To phrase her correctly, she heard Safta tell Abba 'I love you' and Nicole got mad and said 'You can not love him', to which Safta replied, 'But he's my son, I can love him'. Nicole quickly replied, 'NOT ANY MORE. He's my Abba, not your son.'

So, as I don't mind a man wanting to step in and help raise my daughter if he is desiring to, I do not want him to expect that it will be easy with her. She is very guarded now after losing both her Abba and someone she loved very much within the period of 1 1/2 years. (my ex boyfriend of 9 months).

So you really have to talk with the woman you are with. Getting into a relationship with anyone with kids, be it male or female, is a sticky situation. I do not want my soon to be to assume he can just take over. No. I will take care of her just fine myself. I will pay whatever bills she incurs and so forth. I don't mind nice things for her, just run it by me first till you get to know what she is allowed to have and not have. And if him and I have future children together? You love her just as much as you love them. If I even DETECT one ounce of a difference in your love, I will take ALL the kids and leave. I know she might not be YOUR flesh and blood, but she is mine and if I am willing to love all equally, you best do the same. I know first hand what it is like to be the 'other' child and I will NOT tolerate it in my house.

If all kids can not be loved equally, then there will be problems at home...


Very sorry for the ranting. I am just very passionate about this particular subject. Sorry.

It might be best to let your actions speak for you over time instead...and be extremely respectful of the baby's father when he is in the mix. Though I agree that no man is going to be thrilled at the prospect of his child being around another man that regularly, but if you are respectful and supportive of his relationship with his child, then of course they would appreciate that you care for there child when you are around. Your relationship with the child will be what you both make of it regardless of the rest.

Is the Father in the picture of things?