Alice? I thought yesterday, I changed my name to anesthesia.



Once you get your glasses on, you'll probably find out they're not even your kids!

may even find out one is really a grape and the other a raisin

you remind me of a prune!

Juice that is!

I tend to either ignore the newbie threads or i post some kind of smart arse comment. Though by doing the latter i feel its a better way to welcome someone that just a stardard 'hello and welcome'. I could be more welcoming, but then i am still a newbie myself, and i feel its down to each individual to make their own place here. Niceness and welcomes only go so far anyway, the reaction people get is down to how each person posts.

Dan, some place back in there, I tried to explain and maybe not very well, I wasn't talking about the witty, funny, cute comments, I think that probably puts a new person more at ease. I was referring to other types of comments.

Yeah i read that and i understand what you were saying. I was just saying how things are from my point of view. I can probably be rude to newbies in the way that you are saying too. But also my funny comments are sometimes taken in the wrong way and can offend anyway. I dont worry too much either way, i feel a certain amount of back bone is required to hack it here, and if people are so easily scared off then this isnt the place they should be at anyway.

I tell them all to "bare it and share it"....

how much more welcome can it get???

Oh I am all over this one......

The "Clique" thing is in full force here. Doesn't really bother me because I have always been just as comfortable hanging outwith the geeks and dorks just as much as with the debutantes and cool cats.

Sure there are a few birds here who at best will be snide and condescending if one is not part of the inner circle....so what? I have made it 40 years without thier approval....Joke em if they can't take a fu...you get my point.

Don't get me wrong, there are many cool people that I am meeting here. I could care less about the drama queens who post thier stuff then pick and choose who they want to allow into the conversations. Shows how concieted and petty they are.

On the up-hand side...it very quickly let's me know that I am better off without thier friendship. Makes me feel pity for the poor unsuspecting fools who actually hook up with them in the real world. So the "Cliques" actually do serve a valuable purpose for me.

Agreed. The person who feels the need to start a brand new thread every three minutes, but who refuses to talk to anybody except for the same six people who show up in every one of their threads -- well, what's the point in even trying to talk to them?

I'll make a few attempts, just to see what happens -- and most of the time, there's no problem -- but once you find out that somebody is simply not interested in dealing with "outsiders," I know I can stop trying to communicate with them.

I hear ya brother.

At first it was a bit frustrating but, the patience thing is kicking in.

Some folks will be cool. Some will not. C'est le Vie.

Very timely topic. I just saw a newbie thread a day or two ago where the OP had the nerve to bring up a topic we've seen a time or two. The responses the OP got made me feel embarrassed. Someone's first thread/post and the response to it is the first impression folks get of Mingle2. If you find your post is going to be unkind or anything but welcoming, pass the thread by. I don't want you representing me or the great members that make up the majority of the forum users here.

Yup, "backbone" is a good way to put it. If you don't have the back bone to cut it here, then maybe the "psychological today" forum or the "Positive mental health" forums are for the faint of heart or those that get offended too easily. Of course if the new person can't cut it here...I wonder how they cut it in society. I am a "newbie" (again) ***awaits newbie bashing*** being new anywhere has it's knocks...that is just life.

Wow!! Don't see how not tolerating rudeness, being bashed and insulted translates into having a psychological problem on the part of the newbie. This is called blaming the victim.

Dam new Mingolians

***bashing arrived*** You are correct. Nothing else to say..I will go back to my Psych forums...That is what many newbies..new people do...They take the passive aggressive input like I just received and leave. I just drive on and I would encourage all newbies to do the same.

Bump for thenewbies...Uhhh New people. Welcome. Don't be scared by those with high post counts. Just be yourself...do not waiver and you will be ok... If you let those "dumb" comments get to you then...keep trying. I have been bashed here...And I keep going. Just DO NOT give up. It is fun here even tho there are those who like to "shake" things up. Have fun.

That is easy to propose in theory rich....


The first two weeks I stood my ground, I was suspended for 10 of the 14 days.

There is a bit more to it than that.

NEVER question the mods on the forums...(Recieved a private e-mail about that one from the staff)

No language above pg-13 (Yet, we are all adults here)

Any old timer... with...well, more posts than us...flags a statement... it (and probably you/me) WILL get sh%t canned.

IF you think you can operate without walking on eggshells around here, good luck....let me know how that works out for you.

It is possible. It is about HOW you say something, rather than what you say. I dont feel i need to walk on eggshells. Not that i havent gotten in a lil trouble here as well, just i havent been suspended or anything, yet. From what i have seen people usually deserve there suspensions. When i get my first one, i am sure that will be deserved to.

Perhaps you are correct dan.

Mine stemmed almost completely from my rough language...Old Military habit....for me, it is no worse than an accent. To the thin skins, it is apparently too truamatic to bear.

I have had to make a consious effort to speak without vulgarities. Probably means nothing to many people. But, let's see you guys type without a Yankee accent or a southern drawl in your head as you type. It ain't easy to purposefully change communication patterns.