i got married when i was 18. and he asked for a divorce well i found out he cheated on me as long as at least 2 yrs from what i know. i was trying to be civil with him but it is near impossible.has anyone had a separation or divorce civil in a situation like that? anyone have any tips for someone going through separation and divorce?

Anger is as strong as love. It's not over unless you are apathetic.

if there are kids and property involved,the attorneys win

ain't that the truth

i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property.

So, he doesn't want to file. Big deal, doesn't mean you can't, if that's what you want.

My ex moved upstairs into the woman's apartment. My friend. Convenient, huh? Three weeks later she got pregnant. They are married with 2 kids.

Better her than me. I got out. He is her problem now, with his video gaming, masturbating ten times a day, lying, lazy, fired from ever job he's ever had, good for nothing stupid azz. See, once I saw him clearly, I say this not with rancor, just with fact. It is a fact.

You need to get over yourself. Get over being embarrassed you married a loser. It's not your fault, you didn't deserve it, and you are better off. You are NOT a failure. Now hold your head up high and go find a good therapist. You need a venting place.

get the papers.....you can even get a do it yourself divorce online cheap. If you want it done.......get it done yourself!!!

you can be the petitioner,hell if there is no kids or property ,its uncontested and if he refuses to sign papers,you tell the judge and you can still get the divorce,even without him there,plus you can get your maiden name back.

im planning on getting the papers soon and get away from him.the bad thing is he tried to kiss my 1 friend on our wedding day and didnt find out til a month ago. i found a real loser. i wasnt happy anyway he just married me for what money i had anyway.

I am not sure if you have children. But it is best if you do if you can get over it and be somewhat friendly.
My husband cheated on me and walked out too..I was mad for a awhile and then realized it was not all him. I took responsibility for some of it. I let go of the anger and we became great friends and were there for each other and our kids to try and move on in life and wished each other to be happy , because that made all of us happy..of course he still irked me sometimes..lol..but It is best to move forward and understand you are better off. Be happy , hope he is and it will all work. honestly...It doesnt hurt to have him as a friend.

I agree , AS ALWAYS with Lilith, mine walked across the street , to MY married with children buddy as well. and I said the same thing .. seeya .. watch that door doesn't CRACK your fat azz more then it is ... BUT I digress, VENT with someone who knows how to handle it OR a professional.. trust me it will make you feel WAY better about yourself GOOD LUCK

It is easy as can be get a lawyer and get the divorce or file your self he don't have to file you can if he refuses to sign so what take it to a judge he will end it anyway. Be glad you found out before any kids were involved. Turn your back shut the door and walk away.

A girl!!! and she's soon to be single!! and she's (about) my age!

*Pulls out flowers, chocolates, and a lottery ticket*

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck to ya

(P.S., if she doesn't like chocolate, I do )

Wonderfully Put!!!!!!!!!!

good girl i was officially divorced as of 9-24-08. but separated for over a year and we still love each other as friends, not lovers.

I have moved on and am looking to see what is out there. He has not. But he had his chance, He blew it time to move on I say..
Only you can make tht decision

its tough........I wish you luck