I have found that women respond in different ways, but I have found that too many guys talk too much about themselves when they strike up a conversation with a lady.

I prefer to ask the woman about her interests, like which movies they enjoy the most, which music they listen to, and what their hopes and dreams are.

Some women, though, are either too shy to talk about themselves or are simply not looking for such a conversation.

Ladies and men, what are your thoughts on this?

Chris
(not much luck on this site yet)

Looking for instant gratification? You've been here 5 days- geez man!! give it some time!!!

anyway- i like to hear a guy talk about himself-tell me everything but just be sure to be polite and ask me a question or two. If i have to lead the conversation I will- talking does not bother me at all

Sounds like you need some rufies....

If she doesn't like your choice of topics, let her pick one?

if you DO talk about yourself leave the conceitedness out of it.
confidence counts
definitely

yes, please!

i just ask her if i could check her credit she'll ask why , i say because im a nice guy

does the credit question actually work?

In my experience, most women really appreciate a guy who will both talk AND listen effectively. Women who appear shy and reluctant to talk about themselves are often simply expecting this will be yet another another guy, in an endless series of brain-dead guys, who will spend the entire evening either blurting monosyllabic grunts, or talking about his truck, his job at the car wash, and why professional wrestling is real.

Engage her mind, make her think, make her laugh. Be interested, and interesting. I can't tell you how many women have told me "You're the first guy who ever took the time to really listen to what I have to say."

It isn't really all that difficult.

(I haven't had any luck on this site either, but it's only because I'm way too selective and -- as I was informed yesterday -- "arrogent.")

well according to mingle2 analysis it does

If there is chemistry, then things will go with the flow. Things will come naturally.

Conversations with anyone have to be the same porportions as the number of ears and mouths on your head. Start with a non threatening factor in common. Same place, activity, friends, or interests. Listen and compound your questions on things they freely tell you. Conversation is not and inquisition or and autobiograpy recitation. Don't try to plot the direction of the conversation let it ebb and flow or go a compleatly changed direction. You can follow up on information in future conversations and know people at their own pace which will make them feel they have choices which is a very good thing. That you follow up later impresses people that they matter to you. Don't feel that you have to have marathon conversations most people need a break or a distraction after about 40 minutes. If you like the conversation close it on a complimentary note. Suggesting that you want to talk or be together in a specific time in the future concludes a conversation with and open door. Guys who don't make a commitment to a woman to move forward she is not going to take you as a serious contender even if she does like you.

The first thing I always tell them is that I am a Nice Guy.

Then you only have to talk for drink or two...

good, quick advice. Thanks so much, and keep it coming. I am impatient by nature, something I need to work on. I guess I am just ready to move on...

Keep it neutral, with humor, and follow the most promising avenues - cain't plan everything, dangit.

I'm thinking the credit check question is going to be the 2008 version of "have you been tested lately for STDs"... LOL...

In my experience it might not be bad to ask them to submit for a criminal background check, too.

And one creative thing I can think up right now is that she pays me a first and last months relationship security deposit. Sort of like a pre-nuptual agreement, but different. LOL... A "pre-conversation" agreement...

Then let the conversations begin.... LOL...

Probably a lot less divorces if couples simply did these three things before commencing any kind of conversation. Haha

1) credit check
2) criminal background check
3) first & last month's relationship security deposit.


It works for my landlord...

China patterns and whether or not you like argyle socks......good topics to start!

I guess after less than a week I am not sure what you are moving on FROM? Or to for that matter....

You have sugar and honey confused...

You think you need some quick sugar, but what is more satisfying is some longer lasting honey. Picture this... you're in the kitchen and you tilt a cutting board at an angle to the countertop. Take a tablespoon of sugar and turn it upside down on the cutting board... one big mess of sugar everywhere that doesn't amount to anything at all.

Now take a tablespoon of honey and turn IT upside down over the same cutting board. What you have is a slow delicious dripping of flavor that takes a lot of extra time to enjoy and/or clean up. In fact, you will be tempted to stick out your tongue and lick the honey off of the cutting board to get all of the flavor. Try doing that with those million sugar crystals. There will most likely be some sugar on the floor, don't forget that, too...

Give me honey, not just some quick sugar.

In other words....

...sit back, relax, post more than ten times, and let your personality shine here. I'll tell you, chicks find over-eager men a turn-off. If all you want is sex, then you are on the wrong board, and you need to go find one of those adult chat sites and a tube of KY. No kidding.

What are you looking for? Just a screw to lighten your load (sugar) or do you want something that lasts and takes time to develop (honey).

You can get what you are looking for if you just look in the right place for the right thing.

I prefer to be looking for some high clover content honey that took a long time to make and is going to take a longer time to bake as I take her inside...

oh,

I don't think

you have an ounce of arrogance



Lex...


You are one of the most considerate ,


comical, kindest, most intelligent,


wisest men i have had the honor of meeting

on this site & in many places elsewhere