i would like to be someones friend the benefits are endless

Welcome to the family herding, post more, get known, make friends.

Never know what you might find.

You've come to the right place. People on here are very nice and caring. All except me of course.

welcome herdingcats. Post and enjoy.

Welcome herdingcats, post and have some fun here in the 50s. The people here are great. We do have a few that well!!. But all are welcome.

I am not single.But I never get any. So why is it wrong for me to want to find a woman that will let me get with her?

Go to the Rainbow Bar...there's plenty like you that hang out there!

10/29/2008

AMEN.....................

...ever wonder why?

When you say friends with benefits.....it is just a moment of satisfaction.....search for a lifetime of true love and happiness, true love and making love to that one person would be the most ultimate high a persons soul could ever experience.

!!!!! Amen !!!!!

Very true

now....not so Old Sage ...


why all the frustration, Darlin..?


don't beat yourself up!!!


Love and hugs to you~ Dear Don...

I am glad that there are quite a few of us


who are of that same loving, lifelong persuasion....

GoingWithout maybe you should try D.I.V.O.R.C.E instead of sneaking around on your WIFE! That's so chickens*^#t wanting to get your sexual satisfaction but still stay married, guess you still want a maid and a cook!

i know...I hear you


Isn't it fricking disgusting


when people do that ???



i hope they get found out and quickly


and get kicked to the proverbial Curb

and to think that was his first post!!!


look out Mingle2 members


watch your back, front and sides

amazing isn't it?


Sage, you don't have to be frustrated.

That sounds all nice and simple but I have yet to see a situation like this BE that simple. One or both people are left feeling invaded and short changed sooner or later. Or humiliated when their choices become known. Believe me if you are having casual sex people notice. You might think you are being discreet but it is no secret.

If any kind of complication arises this very casual agreement can get to be way more than a little situation and nothing more.

I have seen future relationships be disrupted. Families torn apart. People think if someone is having sex with them that they can let their defenses down and they get ripped off. I have even seen people commit suicide because they feel so terribly alone and worthless when they really process the meaning of their actions.

Since I take educated risks not something that as a mature adult sounds justifiable. When I have to justify something it is usually wrong. If for generations we have been taught that sex is suppose to be accompanied by committment maybe it is because people have seen the long term effects that are easy to ignore when it sounds so "free".

Just because you are of a certain age or situation doesn't mean you get to cherry pick your pleasures with out responsibilities. Old age does not entitle behavior.

Just because you might not be around for the results of your actions is the best reason I can think of checking your behavior.

I would hate to think my legacy was to make some one feel used and discounted. Or face pregnancy or illness alone. Or just remember and experience with me that ment so little that I openly said it was just a temporary moment or gratification.

When people have casual sex and call it friends it is really one person useing the other and saying I don't care about later or you.

And this is a problem that stays in the bedroom; behind closed doors. Too many times when the later becomes a health crisis or an emotional rock slide the so called friend is long gone or opts out saying "I didn't agree to any responsibility" and those responsibilities fall on innocent victims. Since this is a discussion of people over 50 I think most of you know exactly who does pay for irreponsible behavior. I am sorry I don't want to add the burden on my already loaded shoulders. Especially when I have delayed my gratification like a responsible adult.

I personally don't like name calling or labeling behaviors with offensive names that have moral overtones, my God does the judgeing of me when I get there and doesn't leave it to anybody else. But he does clearly lable certain behaviors and if you live in a predominently God favoring population you can't just discount their disapproval when it is convienent and then expect them to turn the other check. Both might be Christian principles but we are talking about facing facts and people who play by one set of rules usually end up dying by them.

But if you ask me what I think of a behavior I will tell you that sex with and uncomitted partner is not a benifit to me or any careing person I ever met and someone who mis approriates my friendship to have sex under such casual terms is neither my friend or someone who respects me as a person.

I believe that lack of respect and freindship is is exactly why so many people are so unhappy after the fact. Something I don't feel I should have to endure people whining about their choises but often do.

I believe people who espouse FWB over look that they could have sex with a committed partner if they would just make the effort. Finding a compatiable mate is never easy and takes committment, compromise, and yes sometimes sacrifice. No you are not a toddler at a birthday party you don't get to eat your cake and have it too. But people who don't want to have a mate should not have the privileges of a mate. Not even a breif try out, or substandard version, or sympathy sex.

I personally believe that the few people who participate in this kind of behavior try to sell it to cover their own selfishness. They are saying I want what I want to hell with anyone elses feelings or approval. Yea they can say they have the consent but most of the time you will NEVER convince me that it is not given under duress.

But I also believe that there are people who get caught up in the idea that if they don't go along then they will be passed over and that just isn't true. Especially of someone who is responsible and careing. Those people tend to have the common sense to see the correlation.

So if you don't want to hear both sides of an issue, or you feel judged because you have to hear some people don't agree with you, or you are tired of opinions that don't agree with yours as beating a dead horse then I guess you have to life in a difficult world. Nobody told you that you would always get your way or or that creating your own me centered rules would be a game anyone else wants to play.