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Topic: YES OR NO TO Friends with Benefits?
musichic Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 8937	Mon 12/01/08 05:45 PM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly.

greer51 Joined Thu 02/22/07 Posts: 2419	Mon 12/01/08 06:24 PM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly. Me, too!! Had to bail out.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Tue 12/02/08 08:41 AM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly. Me, too!! Had to bail out. Yeap just can't do that.Only so much energy to go around. They have to have friends and do things on their own. Even if they don't have a big social life let me go and do. The trust has to be there. A stress free relationship lol Think I be single a long time :) Maybe I'll find a laid back guy ;)

greer51 Joined Thu 02/22/07 Posts: 2419	Tue 12/02/08 08:46 AM
Hope so Carol, but I bailed because of TOO much attention, the BAD kind!!!!!!!!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 08:54 AM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly. Me, too!! Had to bail out. Yeap just can't do that.Only so much energy to go around. They have to have friends and do things on their own. Even if they don't have a big social life let me go and do. The trust has to be there. A stress free relationship lol Think I be single a long time :) Maybe I'll find a laid back guy ;) These are all part of the problem finding that deep relationship, after 45-50's. We all have so much going on from our pasts, set in our ways, financial things; that making a 24/7/marriage think work again, is VERY stressfull. So the FWB thing works for some & not for others. Relationships that are one sided or not a good fit; will drain you quickly. Bet we all have been there, got the shirt & don't want to do it again. Know I have. So I will say again: "Different strokes, for different folks" "What happens behind closed doors, is the business of the people there."

july7553 Joined Fri 11/21/08 Posts: 1461	Tue 12/02/08 10:10 AM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly. Me, too!! Had to bail out. Yeap just can't do that.Only so much energy to go around. They have to have friends and do things on their own. Even if they don't have a big social life let me go and do. The trust has to be there. A stress free relationship lol Think I be single a long time :) Maybe I'll find a laid back guy ;) These are all part of the problem finding that deep relationship, after 45-50's. We all have so much going on from our pasts, set in our ways, financial things; that making a 24/7/marriage think work again, is VERY stressfull. So the FWB thing works for some & not for others. Relationships that are one sided or not a good fit; will drain you quickly. Bet we all have been there, got the shirt & don't want to do it again. Know I have. So I will say again: "Different strokes, for different folks" "What happens behind closed doors, is the business of the people there." Good morning guys. Went to the doctor's office this AM and ran into a guy who was once a possible FWB. He wanted to know why I didn't call him anymore. I told him the truth, which was that he needed and wanted more than I had to give. He wanted a relationship, I didn't (not with him anyway). Same old story, but I am still holding out hope that another "special someone" is out there for me.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 10:18 AM
Just keep sorting them out, July. You'll find one that will work, full time or part...your choice.

Hillbillie62 Joined Sun 11/02/08 Posts: 109	Tue 12/02/08 10:25 AM
OK - stupid question --- what is FWB?

july7553 Joined Fri 11/21/08 Posts: 1461	Tue 12/02/08 10:40 AM
OK - stupid question --- what is FWB? There are no stupid questions. It is Friends With Benefits.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 10:40 AM
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS Polite way of referring to an unmarried couple, that are poss. sleeping together.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Tue 12/02/08 02:31 PM
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS Polite way of referring to an unmarried couple, that are poss. sleeping together. with no strings attached

horsegirl55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 5236	Tue 12/02/08 03:21 PM
I take one of those --- Where do I place my order?

horsegirl55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 5236	Tue 12/02/08 03:26 PM
Does anyone feel they don't have the energy for a relationship? I feel that way at times. Next few weeks is going to be that way. 8 concerts in the month of December plus rehearsals and working full time make for a very busy life. Not much time left over for a relationship unless they are into the music stuff too. Let me rephrase myself. Have you put so much effort in to a relationship where you feel you’re drained. The last lady I was dating sucked the life energy out of me. Been there too. Can't go through that again, but I can usually sense that pretty quickly. Me, too!! Had to bail out. Yeap just can't do that.Only so much energy to go around. They have to have friends and do things on their own. Even if they don't have a big social life let me go and do. The trust has to be there. A stress free relationship lol Think I be single a long time :) Maybe I'll find a laid back guy ;) These are all part of the problem finding that deep relationship, after 45-50's. We all have so much going on from our pasts, set in our ways, financial things; that making a 24/7/marriage think work again, is VERY stressfull. So the FWB thing works for some & not for others. Relationships that are one sided or not a good fit; will drain you quickly. Bet we all have been there, got the shirt & don't want to do it again. Know I have. So I will say again: "Different strokes, for different folks" "What happens behind closed doors, is the business of the people there." Good morning guys. Went to the doctor's office this AM and ran into a guy who was once a possible FWB. He wanted to know why I didn't call him anymore. I told him the truth, which was that he needed and wanted more than I had to give. He wanted a relationship, I didn't (not with him anyway). Same old story, but I am still holding out hope that another "special someone" is out there for me.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 04:30 PM
Let's not lump us all together. All men or all women, all are individuals.

horsegirl55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 5236	Tue 12/02/08 04:46 PM
Let's not lump us all together. All men or all women, all are individuals. Sorry Sage!!!!!! That didn't include you.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 04:48 PM
I'll take a big HUG for an apology.

horsegirl55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 5236	Tue 12/02/08 04:53 PM
I'll take a big HUG for an apology. Baby any time!!!!!!!!!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 04:55 PM
Be careful what you wish for, it might come true. I can only wish.

cas56 Joined Tue 12/02/08 Posts: 2	Tue 12/02/08 08:29 PM
I also could not believe what I was reading. What happened to the fact that this is supposed to be a christian site. 56 or not, I don't believe in sex without marriage. I was so happy to see there is a person here with the guts to say "no way" No FWB!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 12/02/08 08:33 PM
cas56, this is an open site. Religion has their own threads. Threads are open to ALL points of view. No need to get your blood pressure up. Welcome to the family.