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What do you think?  Wouldn't matter to me, I've never purchased anything on credit so they're not going to find out anything anyway! |
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How many men and woman would be comfortable and accepting of a potential spouse digging up your past and gathering information on your credit...?  Someone brought this interesting comment up: "Listen, what I would do if I really wanted him is I would dig into his past and see how long he can hold a job and how long he can hold a buck. I would see if he is one to borrow money without payback or borrow money with payback, but ideally you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that borrows money at all. The frequency of borrowing money really matters here. How long has he been without a job? Remember this is a recession so it may just be a temporary financial matter. What jobs did he hold? How much income does he make per year? What's his salary? " ^^^^ What do you think? Damn...that sounds like half of my ex girlfriends and my ex wife 
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 A girl on here ran a background check on me, and I found out how to do it, so I ran a background check on her. Backround check for criminal history..? Not your bank account...right?  Bills and places a person has lived as well as their relatives.
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GeniuSXboY said it...
I thought it was a bit odd but maybe we need to be the stalker type to understand. I guess all we can do now is sit back and see how long he is wealthy and single. j/k
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I think that if they really wanted to know.......they should just ask. Im a pretty open person!
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I dont pay my Bills...
all my "Bills" give it up for free... and so do my "Bobs', and my "Joes", and my "Steves", and........... |
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I think that if they really wanted to know.......they should just ask. Im a pretty open person! Basically yeah. Most of the information is just normal stuff that everybody does.
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GeniuSXboY said it... I thought it was a bit odd but maybe we need to be the stalker type to understand. I guess all we can do now is sit back and see how long he is wealthy and single. j/k All I know is I'd rather be single than get burned by a simple prevention process. You can't trust anyone except the people that can prove what they say with hard evidence. |
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GeniuSXboY said it... I thought it was a bit odd but maybe we need to be the stalker type to understand. I guess all we can do now is sit back and see how long he is wealthy and single. j/k All I know is I'd rather be single than get burned by a simple prevention process. You can't trust anyone except the people that can prove what they say with hard evidence. Priorities. You have yours... It doesn't mean everyone else will feel the same or follow suit. Sad thing is... You may just destroy the relationship completely with your "digging". She might stay with you JUST because of your money and you would never know it. Most people would take offense. |
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How many men and woman would be comfortable and accepting of a potential spouse digging up your past and gathering information on your credit...? Someone brought this interesting comment up: "Listen, what I would do if I really wanted him is I would dig into his past and see how long he can hold a job and how long he can hold a buck. I would see if he is one to borrow money without payback or borrow money with payback, but ideally you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that borrows money at all. The frequency of borrowing money really matters here. How long has he been without a job? Remember this is a recession so it may just be a temporary financial matter. What jobs did he hold? How much income does he make per year? What's his salary? " ^^^^ What do you think? Despite people's delusion that marriage is about romance and love, its nothing more than a financial contract. You don't need to be married to have romance and love. You do not need to be married to have kids. The law sees marriage as a contract. Do not involve yourself in any contract without being properly informed. Presumably, one should only marry a person after a substantial amount of trust and disclosure has taken place, including all things financial. Unfortunately, many people marry too quickly or for the wrong reasons, and never properly discuss or disclose these things. |
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GeniuSXboY said it... I thought it was a bit odd but maybe we need to be the stalker type to understand. I guess all we can do now is sit back and see how long he is wealthy and single. j/k All I know is I'd rather be single than get burned by a simple prevention process. You can't trust anyone except the people that can prove what they say with hard evidence. Priorities. You have yours... It doesn't mean everyone else will feel the same or follow suit. Sad thing is... You may just destroy the relationship completely with your "digging". She might stay with you JUST because of your money and you would never know it. Most people would take offense. Of course. You have to be mindful of what you are doing so that you cover your ass. She isn't looking at my stuff to mooch, she is covering her butt so that she doesn't get mooched on. Of COURSE there will be hard time when you ask for financial assistant, but that should be once a decade. It's the same difference between walking up to someone and saying "Nice shoes, wanna ****" versus "Hello, I'm Steve McStevey, I saw you from across the bar and HAD to meet you, can I buy a Drink?" |
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How many men and woman would be comfortable and accepting of a potential spouse digging up your past and gathering information on your credit...? Someone brought this interesting comment up: "Listen, what I would do if I really wanted him is I would dig into his past and see how long he can hold a job and how long he can hold a buck. I would see if he is one to borrow money without payback or borrow money with payback, but ideally you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that borrows money at all. The frequency of borrowing money really matters here. How long has he been without a job? Remember this is a recession so it may just be a temporary financial matter. What jobs did he hold? How much income does he make per year? What's his salary? " ^^^^ What do you think? Despite people's delusion that marriage is about romance and love, its nothing more than a financial contract. You don't need to be married to have romance and love. You do not need to be married to have kids. The law sees marriage as a contract. Do not involve yourself in any contract without being properly informed. Presumably, one should only marry a person after a substantial amount of trust and disclosure has taken place, including all things financial. Unfortunately, many people marry too quickly or for the wrong reasons, and never properly discuss or disclose these things. Thank you! lol |
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Everybody makes mistakes. And everybody has something in their past they would probably prefer to keep in the past. But as a woman and a mother....I feel it's imperative to check out a potential lover.
If I'm going to get involved with a guy....I DO perform a cursory background check on him by Googling him and checking local court and arrest records for where he lives or says he's lived....just to see if there is anything huge and blinding that stomps out of the closet about him at me....you know....like felony rape or child molestation.....or perhaps terrorist activities, although those tend to be unsearchable offenses. I checked out elwoodsully.....and I'm very glad to say I found nothing.... None of this is foolproof. But if you feel the need to check out a potential....you should be upfront about your intention to do it. If the person respects your need to be safe and keep your children safe (if you have children)...they'll understand and maybe even applaud you for your safety saavy. Where's my crayon? |
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Well, if the person is a 'potential spouse' as you put it, I'm assuming we're over the 'potential stalker stage'. Honestly I think it's a good idea to look into their financial life. Once you're married to them you partly take on their financial burdens as well. Bad finances is one big reason why a lot of couples fight and even divorce.
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 marriage is for suckers
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Everybody makes mistakes. And everybody has something in their past they would probably prefer to keep in the past. But as a woman and a mother....I feel it's imperative to check out a potential lover. If I'm going to get involved with a guy....I DO perform a cursory background check on him by Googling him and checking local court and arrest records for where he lives or says he's lived....just to see if there is anything huge and blinding that stomps out of the closet about him at me....you know....like felony rape or child molestation.....or perhaps terrorist activities, although those tend to be unsearchable offenses. I checked out elwoodsully.....and I'm very glad to say I found nothing.... None of this is foolproof. But if you feel the need to check out a potential....you should be upfront about your intention to do it. If the person respects your need to be safe and keep your children safe (if you have children)...they'll understand and maybe even applaud you for your safety saavy. Where's my crayon? YOU can check ME out anytime!!!! LOL |
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marriage is for suckers <--------------------------------SUCKER
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marriage is for suckers <--------------------------------SUCKER hey...I did it once that was enough I'M FREE!!!!
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Snoopy mfers need to stay up out of eachothers buisness is what im sayin!!! |
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marriage is for suckers I SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Agree!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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