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Topic: Reckless
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 10/09/08 08:26 AM
I don't have it in me too much anymore. That attitude is what got me where I am today. Not in too good a place. Fortunately, I am a little better off than I was before that piece of crap husband left me in Co. with no family, no nothing. Aww, Shoes I am sorry. How about just sexually, then? You know, the whole "take me now" feeling.... Oh, that feeling.. . I do love that feeling.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 10/09/08 08:27 AM
lilith, go with it girl! Just keep in the back of your head any and all consquences.

Magbalihi Joined Thu 08/07/08 Posts: 1815	Thu 10/09/08 08:27 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 10/09/08 08:29 AM
So true. Grab it, work it, hope for the best and do all you can to make it happen. How many of these chances do any of us get? Gosh I love you! Exactly. I mean if you run across someone who seems to "do it" for you, who you connect with on many levels, well, just do it. Say how you feel, be honest. Or rip off your clothes and say "take me now" (if it is a sexual feeling). But don't let it pass you by. You can Monday morning quarterback yourself all you want, but you're still unhappy. If you get two weeks or two months of happiness out of it, I say it is well worth it. Just choose wisely.... but not in fear. Be open.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 10/09/08 08:29 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!! When you do find it, though, it's oh so good.

Magbalihi Joined Thu 08/07/08 Posts: 1815	Thu 10/09/08 08:31 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!! When you do find it, though, it's oh so good. The hardest part is having it be two sided though!!!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 10/09/08 08:32 AM
I'll be honest. Since I divorced my wife, I have been more "cavalier" with someone I meet. I'm up front and honest about what I want and if they accept that, then great. If not, I move along. Sure. Being analytical, logical and sensical are good, but sometimes you just go with it. You have to no matter what happens. You may get burned. Or, you may find out that you hit it off and their is something their to grow upon. I hate that saying "follow your heart". It just seems to wishy washy for me. I say, "go with your instincts" and whatever happens...happens. Might sound irresponsible, but life is short and I want to experience things...not live in fear. Goof, I got a great explanation: "Just say it, and stop thinking before you answer". And the feedback and response has been winning.... And you know what? Even if it was "OMG you are a psycho", I'd still know I was true to me and honest with him. So it's all good. I have to add the reckless abandon, in both its forms, is very powerful as well s freeing.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 10/09/08 08:32 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!! When you do find it, though, it's oh so good. The hardest part is having it be two sided though!!! Well, in order for me to get to that level of trust with someone that I can just let myself go with whatever is going on, it kind of has to be two sided.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 10/09/08 08:32 AM
lilith, go with it girl! Just keep in the back of your head any and all consquences. Oh no doubt! Thanks GF... I'm doing my best to find a balance. No red flags though. Is such a thing possible?

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 10/09/08 08:34 AM
lilith, go with it girl! Just keep in the back of your head any and all consquences. Oh no doubt! Thanks GF... I'm doing my best to find a balance. No red flags though. Is such a thing possible? Seriously!NO red flags? OMG call me a crash cart cause I am gonna code!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 10/09/08 08:36 AM
listen Ms. Mushy, avoid thinking about any flags, enjoy your time, enjoy the feeling, let things happen, grab the bull by the horns (wait yesterday we were saving the horse today it's the bull) get yours!!!! Aint no fun if you dont get none :

Magbalihi Joined Thu 08/07/08 Posts: 1815	Thu 10/09/08 08:37 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!! When you do find it, though, it's oh so good. The hardest part is having it be two sided though!!! Well, in order for me to get to that level of trust with someone that I can just let myself go with whatever is going on, it kind of has to be two sided. Yeah.....but it's sometimes slow to get there....and other times..I have just not given a dam**d and blurted something out and WOW......all of a sudden that person might decide that they REALLY want to know me better whereas before they might not have......so I guess it's ALL a risk

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 10/09/08 08:37 AM
listen Ms. Mushy, avoid thinking about any flags, enjoy your time, enjoy the feeling, let things happen, grab the bull by the horns (wait yesterday we were saving the horse today it's the bull) get yours!!!! Aint no fun if you dont get none : <-- Ms fran

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 10/09/08 08:39 AM
I think we ALL want to have that level of trust with our "special someone". It IS hard to find though!! When you do find it, though, it's oh so good. The hardest part is having it be two sided though!!! Well, in order for me to get to that level of trust with someone that I can just let myself go with whatever is going on, it kind of has to be two sided. Yeah.....but it's sometimes slow to get there....and other times..I have just not given a dam**d and blurted something out and WOW......all of a sudden that person might decide that they REALLY want to know me better whereas before they might not have......so I guess it's ALL a risk Yeah, I think sometimes you have to just say what you're thinking and not worry about the response.

Magbalihi Joined Thu 08/07/08 Posts: 1815	Thu 10/09/08 08:43 AM
Yeah, I think sometimes you have to just say what you're thinking and not worry about the response. Seems like I used to be more appealing to the opposite sex when I was that way ALL the time. Or maybe I was just younger. I don't know, but I seem to be a little more worried about the responses these days. Surely I haven't developed the "nice guy" syndrome I hope!!!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 10/09/08 08:46 AM
Fran~ You are oh so right. I am so in that mode.... And the getting some part? Don't get me started.

Magbalihi Joined Thu 08/07/08 Posts: 1815	Thu 10/09/08 08:49 AM
Fran~ You are oh so right. I am so in that mode.... And the getting some part? Don't get me started. LOL.....aww. come on Fran.....get her started!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 10/09/08 08:50 AM
Fran~ You are oh so right. I am so in that mode.... And the getting some part? Don't get me started. Not sure but I can see your engines are up and running full steam ahead - wooohoooooooooo truly glad you sound so happy!!!!!!

Mentork Joined Sun 10/05/08 Posts: 779	Thu 10/09/08 08:52 AM
That's right ladies, lets yourselves go and just let things happen, I'll take care of the rest! Don't worry, you can trust me... ^_^ I'll let losing control of myself be a thing of fantasy.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 10/09/08 08:53 AM
What do you mean, two sided?