I bite my tongue all the time, believe it or not, there is so much more id like to say to the people i think are fake/lying. When a comment is made to people questioning what they are saying, the reaction they give also shows a lot. Often they make it plainly obvious that things are not genuine.

If everyone always held back from what they wanted to say, there would probably be even more BS flying around here. The more outspoken and upfront people have a place on these sites to help weed out the chaff, it is just a little bit tricky to keep things totally within the rules sometimes.

I will agree to that all the way. For at times I have seen some jump the band wagon of a pity seeking thread and I do sit back and laugh at times thinking hey just look at their history at times you will find holes in their story.

There has been times when I have actually looked back in their history and made comments about what they said and bring back up what they had just said a day or two ago. But then I leave it at that and move on. No use to argue with one that is full of BS is does no good.

First of all when one gets mad and goes off about what you have said that in the first place is a red flag that you have struck a nerve.

As far as others still believing them after that then well they will always believe them they choose not to see there could be two sides of the story.

So many times I have seen those that post and only give a partial part of the story of course the side that makes them look good or as the victim. But when if finally comes out 4 pages later the story is nothing as they started it out to be.

But will have to admit at times I do enjoy seeing the pity seekers get theirs when their story is full of holes.

But at times I have also seen when there are those that are telling the truth and get attacked but it is funny for when that happens the ones that attack don't have the balls to come back and admit they were wrong.

So at times I see it best just to pass them up. Due to if most would just pass up the pity seeking threads and not feed into them they finally give up on the posting. Problem is at times it makes you wonder who is really seeking more attention the pity seeker or the ones attacking them?

Very good point. I think it depends largely on the general pattern of a persons posts. Say if someone predominantly only posts pity threads, or if someone is always attacking in such threads.

Personally i can be very sarcastic and tongue in cheek, and this sometimes can be seen as an attack. I can also be very blunt, and my post is, kinda, an attack of sorts as well. But i also do give serious answers in such threads too.

I dont see anything wrong with wanting attention per se, i am sure everyone wants to be noticed here, and wants people to respond to their posts etc But if people are always seeking negative attention, or positive attention for false reasons, they have some kind of problem. I seek my positive attention through humour and trying to make people laugh. I can make posts too though which do bring about negative attention, but thats normally not my aim.

I was going to say that I'm all three...naive, trusting, and skeptical.

Your response (above) just knocked my thoughts off track. WTG.

Cheers to that

Those that post about negative things all the time will only draw negative feed back. If you see that one never post anything that is positive then within time you tend to ignore those people.

We all have bad things that happen now to post the ohh me ohh my post constantly gets old they seriously need to seek help and they will not get it on the internet. For our lives is what we make of them no one can fix us but us.

I feel for those that have problems and need someone to talk to. But as you I have also came to the conclusion that if they truly need someone to talk to they could find a friend even here and take it to private e-mail. For I'm one that will not air my most personal life on these threads for all to see. I'm honest and will answer any questions but some things are best taken care of in private.

I'm not one that seeks attention but would gladly lend and ear to anyone that wanted to talk in private about what is going on and give my honest opinion.

I do feel that those that spill their guts at times not always are doing it for the attention. Sad at times that attention is based on false grounds.

Yeah i find it surprising how much detail about their lives some people are willing to give out. I'll give out dribs and drabs of information and people will beable to build some kind of picture about me, but no way am i going to share too much on a forum.

If the people that do this are also here to try to meet somebody, then they really need to look at their strategy a little closer!

I guess for me personally thats one reason why i dont mind speaking my mind sometimes. Im not looking to meet someone, or even to make any friends(though im not against it), so i have nobody i need to impress by going along with these pity threads and trying to appear 'nice'. If a few people along the way decide they dont like the way i go about things, it makes absolutely no odds to me whatsoever.

I assume everyone is telling the truth, and if they're not, it doesn't effect me at all until they try to have personal conversations with me. Time always tells in the end.

Mmm, how to answer that. I would have to say that I am all three and then some more. I couldn't honestly answer that with just one word. I want to say that I am more than all that. It just depends open the sitution, I guess.

Well I can understand that also for we are who we are. They either like us or they don't. Honestly if some don't like me I don't loose any sleep over it for most likely the feeling is mutual.

Those that are friends of mine realize from the start I do believe in treating others as they treat me. I will flat out tell a friend what I think regardless whether they like it or not.

Have lost a few friends that way to but have gained more then what I have lost just for being honest with them. But....I'm not one to shove my beliefs down ones throat either.

I feel like actually the ones that whine and do the pity seeking actually do us all a favor. We see them for who they are before we get interested in them.

I like giving people the benefit of the doubt...but don't trust to the extreme. When it comes to big losses if you are untruthful...I will research it before sticking my neck out. Red Flags go a long way here!!!

So very true when I see those red flags I may not think much about it at first but then curiosity gets the best of me. I have not been labeled with the name Sherlock by a few for no reason at all.