I agree that some people do sometimes like to make themselves appear caring and considerate, and give sympathy out in order to do this. Some people do come here to get sunshine blown up their butt, and when they blow sunshine up someone elses, they get a bit back.

I do wonder sometimes why people come on here to solve their problems, even when they are genuine. However, i can also understand why some people do it as well. Some people dont have too many outlets to do it in real life.

Well, the fakes and the liars are a very important addition to these sites, they add an element of drama and other things which do make things a lot more interesting. Some people say they dont like drama, but if this drama never occured, things could be pretty lame and boring around here.

Honestly .. I keep one thing in mind at all times:

((((((((( IT'S THE INTERNET )))))))))))


I DO have a good sense of discernment .. heck I knew you were gonna be trouble the minute you walked in my house

Truth... or personal truth... shines through.

Wether it's 'nice' or not, and if someone asks for an opinion.... they may just get one.

If you had a real problem, would you trust a bunch of people on the internet to give you advise? "Why do all the men in my life beat me." or "Why do all the women in my life take me for every penny I have?" are things best left to professionals.

Having a sounding board for something is different. "I went out with this guy and he sucked his teeth in public, and it embarrased me, should I go out with him again" is a bit different than "Why is my entire life crumbling at my feet."

My typical answer to the "life crumblers" is because you are a moron and you don't take control of your life and you allow people to do that to you. It's not the popular answer, but it's the honest one... but people who complain don't really want answers they want to b*tch and whine and moan about it and not ever really DO anything about it.

I did last night.

I think many people will be of a similar view, however it is far from my own view. I would rather spend my time replying to something genuine, and feel a post about something false is a waste of my time.

This is why I love you baby!

I am happy to tell them so also. However, doing this can get you in trouble as well, you will generally be breaking the rules if you speak out against these people.

I guess the mods have to be a little more trusting than the rest of us and keep an open mind. It is hard to prove without doubt that something is false, and probably the assumption that a thread is genuine has to be made. This is the way it has to happen really, but at the same time it allows people to keep on getting away with posting such bs.

I think i am gonna have to stop replying to every post here, there is just too much! Dont anyone feel left out will ya?! lol

It's like the ones who "threaten" suicide, if they were really going to do it, they would go to a quite place and do it. The one's who threaten it, aren't really going to do it, they want the attention it will bring them to threaten it.

Anyone who threatens it in my pressence gets a knife handed to them and are told "It's down the street not across the lane." Now if someone comes to me and say "I'm depressed and I have thought about it a few times." My ear, my door and my heart is open to them... They want help.

Even when people are at their least logical, there is logic to it.

but I want the attention Dan...

you already get way too much Lily!

Dirty looks and snide comments don't count Dan...

I'm a little bit of each. I think that's what makes me human. At least in my opinion anyway.

Used to be naive, then trusting but I've moved on to skeptical. And if someone doesn't like what I write in response to their whining,attention-seeking post then tough, go get professional help, don't ask a dating site for advice."Sorry all sold out of pity here, go try somewhere else."

Humm I guess I must say I'm a little of each. Myself if I feel that they are lying about what they say I pass the subject up and do not post to it at all. There has been times I have read post here and remembered things the person has said in the past and things did not come together. But I still don't confront them on the post and go off on them. Of course now being a Mod I can't really say at times what I would like to.

But then I do try to understand when one is seeking answers and I do relate to this is maybe their only outlet they have. But then with this being a per-say dating site in the long run I also take in consideration what a person has said on here to. Would I date the the ones I see with the pity seeking post up or the ones that I see are down right nasty to others hummm NOT. So in the long run it does help weed out the good from the bad.

Yes I have seen those that have put up post of prayers to problems they are asking questions on and you know it is all BS for they are contradicting what they have said not even a few days before that. But still there are ways to say something and get your point across without breaking the rules.

If it leads one to attack them on the threads then in the long run it makes that person look bad instead. One could make their statement and move on. I promise others will look at it and it would make them think but to keep shoving the issue makes one look desperate regardless the situation.

As you spend more and more time on these sites, you would imagine that most people would go through a similar transition. However i still see many people that, by their post count at least, appear to have a lot of experience, but still seem unable to tell the difference between what is real or false. I can understand that people might give the benefit of the doubt, or just be very trusting and positive, but it is sometimes VERY obvious that something is not genuine, and you still see them posting like they believe every word.

I'm never deliberately rude to someone when I post, but when I do reply and they don't like the answer, that's when I feel that they are just attention seeking, why ask for advice, then get all upset when you get many different views?