Topic: OK, I'm still wondering why?? | |
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You spend evenings with him? My radar would be so high up with this not seeing him on the weekend thing. Maybe invite him to something or get tickets for something on the weekend and see what he says. radar would go higher if its just a daytime weekday relationship. like if he hardly ever spends evenings or spends the night. if they only have "relations" when the sun is still up. he only says i love you when no one is around and never in front of the kid. then he never spends a weekend not even one. red flags abound! then again guys like their space so he could just be drinkin a brew and hanging with the guys. comes down to trust... and it dosent sound like there is much I want to but it just seems weird...I never dated a guy who did'nt want me around on weekends. But could this be about him just needing time on his own? |
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oh and if you are dating a guy and you have never been to his house i would say that you are not the only one he is seeing or youre not as serious as you might think. .....or he lives with his mom and dosent want you to know Thats what I thought...probably time to move on. |
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This could be so not the way it is.
But..I have a friend whose bf disappeared after he got paid on Fridays. She found out that when he got paid, he bought drugs and disappeared on the weekend getting high. She broke up with him when she found out. |
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my boyfriend showers me with attention during the week but seems to disappear on the weekends...he owns his own business and even has me call clients for him during the week.He swears hes not married or seeing someone elsc...he calls me Saturday mornings but then thats it... |
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Have you gone to his house????
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I do not call someone "my boyfriend" if I have no idea what he's doing on the weekend, or at any other time.
"My boyfriend" does not have to tell me every little thing that he does. "My boyfriend" DOES have to tell me where he is so I will know. He does not drop off the radar, in other words. (He can do whatever he wants in the cockpit.) He has a right to private time, but not to "lost" time, if you see what I'm saying. In my opinion, and from what you're telling us here, this man is using you. What you decide to do about it is up to you. I hope this was helpful. Good luck! yours in Chaos, Scarlett |
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another point from the male mind. saying i love you is a big deal and it means something.....
HOWEVER!, there is a difference between i love you and, i am in love with you. i love you is like we have a great time, the sex is good, id love to keep having sex with you, and i think about you a lot and im pretty happy with the way things are. im in love with you, is exclusive.... and spends the night and invites you to the house and is with you at least 2 weekends a month |
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Scarlett said it well.
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In my opinion, and from what you're telling us here, this man is using you. using is such a hard word. no guy would say he is using a woman unless it was sex and sex only. even then it is not using if both parties are ok with the relationship if hes doing anything bad it is that hes not being clear with you about the terms of the relationship. that happens a lot though because sometimes the truth doesnt lend it self to a tactful way of saying it |
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I do not call someone "my boyfriend" if I have no idea what he's doing on the weekend, or at any other time. "My boyfriend" does not have to tell me every little thing that he does. "My boyfriend" DOES have to tell me where he is so I will know. He does not drop off the radar, in other words. (He can do whatever he wants in the cockpit.) He has a right to private time, but not to "lost" time, if you see what I'm saying. In my opinion, and from what you're telling us here, this man is using you. What you decide to do about it is up to you. I hope this was helpful. Good luck! yours in Chaos, Scarlett |
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move on
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He IS one lucky man. ;)
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my boyfriend showers me with attention during the week but seems to disappear on the weekends...he owns his own business and even has me call clients for him during the week.He swears hes not married or seeing someone elsc...he calls me Saturday mornings but then thats it... |
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Until Monday again...then he LOVES me crazy again...when I talk to him about it I always end up believing him...LOL Damn... He must be good in bed.(LOL) Don't be scared, ask why he do u like that sister? |
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To sort of recap--not as though it matters, but--if the guy just disappears without explanation, then he's not a boyfriend. He's a (to use my terminology) shag partner (and probably a criminal, which falls outside conventional dating terms).
For example: (my way) HIM: "Baby, I'm going to be with my other girlfriend/wife all weekend until Monday morning, I hope you don't mind...?" ME: "Oh not at all! Have fun! Use a condom!" *smooch* (your way) HIM: "See you on Monday! YOU: ??? *hesitant smooch* xoxoxo |
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my boyfriend showers me with attention during the week but seems to disappear on the weekends...he owns his own business and even has me call clients for him during the week.He swears hes not married or seeing someone elsc...he calls me Saturday mornings but then thats it... |
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lol @ use a condom
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A former shag partner said: "I go bareback when I'm cheating."
A few months later he was diagnosed with hep C. (I'm still clean.) |
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A former shag partner said: "I go bareback when I'm cheating." A few months later he was diagnosed with hep C. (I'm still clean.) thats just dirty! if the tubes are tied tho... different story |
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Just ask him whats up.But be ready for the answer!
Don't take any stalling or crap at all.Sounds like you already have problems with this guy.You deserve better than to be played. Good luck on this one. |
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