I have someone I like in a college class of mine, but all I ever can think of to say is "howd you do on that test?" or " hey, how are you?" Short little blurbs of thought, without ever really starting up a conversation. She seems to favor the chair next to mine or in the same general location, even if I change places. Dang I feel like I am in middle school again. lol To me it is so intimidating when a bunch of other people are around that could listen in on my game (or lack there of) I need to go in there plastered sometime I think.

If you like her ask her out. the worst she can do is say no. You wont know till you try.

sounds like she already likes you...

Yes, do be bold. You won't lose anything but ring around the chairs. lol maybe. And do let us know?

I will keep you updated, but if I follow the same pattern I have in the past...I'll try not to follow that pattern lol

If she likes you, she likes you.
Than she is just waiting for you to ask.


You have to show confidence and be the man and ask to go out for a cup of coffee. So you can get to know her better. What else does she have going for her besides her good looks?
You are only at the stage of skin deep. She could be bi-polar, into witchcraft, psycho. hehe

You can also stack the cards for you before you ask her out. Tease her.. like a big brother would do to his younger sister. Most Importantly, Take SEX out of your mind. It is that SEX frame of mind that woman can smell and blow you out of the water. Once you get a brush or some kind of physical touching, you know she likes you... and you can build up to the next level.

need step your confidence game up a notch,

Thanks for the advice. I was mainly just venting my frustration though. It is pretty self evident what I must do, its just the doing it part that is so difficult for me. Always has been. When I worked at a retail store, it was a little bit easier for me (not that easy though) because I was forced to be in contact with my co-workers daily. Naturally I joked with females and all that stuff. In a class setting, I don't know what it is, but the tension is just higher.

Before or after class tell her you have a question about an assignment, something the prof mentioned etc. and if she would have the time to help you out "discuss" over coffee

make a joke. i waz in this same situation once. trust just make a joke about how lame class is or how lame something the teacher did was. you can always build common ground on a joke and shared annoyances

i absolutely disagree! never go in not thinking about sex! sex is your bio-motivational-speaker, if you really think she is hot and you want her then a lil "no" will not stop you. in fact women, when in this situations, say no to dates just to see if you will give up so easy.

we all want to be wanted

Yeah, I looked at your profile, and I am NOT gay.

Looks like you already caught one "big fish", who's to say you couldn't catch another.

Cast that line, bro!

Thats good. Sounds like something Doctor Phil would say.

Oh, sh*t!! JUST SHOOT ME NOW and DON'T MISS!

Its funny, cuz some of this stuff Hang-low is saying sounds just like it came from this book called "how to succeed with women" I read it like three times (probably shouldn't have admitted that on here though lol)

ok try this on her....



"If i had a nickle for every woman that i've seen as beautiful as you......well i'd only have a nickle!"

Stop thinking of it as a game? Not to knock on your "player" ability, but I don't know if you could go into talking to a lady all the while thinking of your next "move"...

That's great... How Has "succeed with women" worked out for you and Hang_low?

I would nickle and supreme feeling of cheesyness after that line. lol

lol really id say i have the same luck as our honorable post creator. That said, every time i have followed the advice i gave above, i have gotten to home-base if you will.

does it always work out? well im on a dating site arent i? but you will get farther by being aggressive than you will by being passive.