you childs bookbags..phones and room "making" sure they are not doing anything wrong...

yep i just found some cocaine in my two year olds teddy bear

I never have searched my kids stuff I have two teens and a 9 year old...they have never given me any reason to look so I don't think I need to ...other moms tell me they do but I don't

my mom never did but my friends mom did... but my mom always trusted us.

i havent because my son is 4. but my mom used to do it to me all the time. highly annoying!!!

Well, sure. I need to get the homework out and the lunchbag... He says no homework but there it is. But I'm not trying to catch him being bad.

I am not a Mother but I do login to my Little Sisters (12yo) Myspace from time to time and read her messages to make sure she hasn't gotten any suspicious messages in there. She also is required to archive all of her instant messanger conversations just incase. I also am guilty of going through her book bag but she is really a very good girl and she doesn't give anyone any reason to go through her things. I worry more about what other kids may be saying and teaching her.

My friend goes throught her 15 year olds phone, he is never punished for what she finds, but she then knows what to look for...

He has a friend named Stimpy.... What do you think he's doing?

I understand that...but you have seen people that don't trust there kids and make their lives pure hell cuz of it...looking for homework is different...

I try to respect my son's privacy but he knows I have access to all and won't hesitate to use it if I feel it's necessary. But, we have an agreement, he keeps his stuff cleaned up and neat and I don't have to clean it up. If I have to clean up after him, he loses his right to privacy if I come across something he doesn't want me to.

My mom didnt do that but if she wanted to she could have. My mom was in charge,in command, and in control of everything. What momma said was the law of the land.

I was just wondering if I was letting something slip away I need to be doing...but I think I am doing fine by them...

not yet

My thought is, unless there's a reason you think you need to be doing it, let them have their space and privacy

thank you...cuz I am flying solo here and sometimes I doubt myself...I feel the same way..

I trust my children
and privacy is needed

but if I want to look through something I will

if they want privacy they can move out
get there own home, and have all the privacy they want

Give kids too much privacy and you may live to regret it...

My mom used to do that crap..like check everything..I think she may even read my diary..at one point..I was honestly a picture perfect teen...no joke.
Don't do that stuff to your kids and think that they don't know that u are doing that it's just a good way to getting your kids to not trust u with anything.
If you have established a good relationship w/ your kids in their early years (preteens) and u instilled in them the sense of right and wrong, and the way to overcome peer-pressure you should have no problem of them comming up to you if they want to have sex for the first time, or if someone offered them a joint.
It's the parents fault if they feel that they have to snoop in their kids stuff-Bad Parenting if u ask me.

So I'm not the only one who checks for homework. My son is in the second grade and I'm already in the habit cause I remember how I was lol

What does your two year old know about that? Who put it there is what I would be questioning?

You better believe it the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world