i am in a relationship ok i take that back we are"dating".when we first met and after we had kissed he became affectionate and then after awhile he started to withdraw from me.he still comes over and we hang out but we know longer act like a couple.what should i do?i want to talk to him but i dont know how to start the conversation.

all u have to do is ask him whats up and tell him u would like to know where the 2 of u stand relationship wise.

I know it's hard, but just ask him. Tell him you have noticed that the physical part of your relationship has stopped and you want to know what's wrong.

If it was me, I would say something like "I've noticed things are different between us lately, and I'd like to know why...." and see what happens from there. And if you're not satisfied with whatever the explanation is, well, there are always other options....

Well.....dating.....that's the time you'll find out a lot.....maybe he's just not the affectionate kind over the long haul. Perhaps he feels that now that he's got you....he doesn't have to work any more to KEEP you......

ME....I'm the goofy kind that holds hands going into the Wal Mart.....or we have a secret butt pinch that means "Love ya" or a game of chace in the clothing dept of Macy's....

But in the end.....you're just gonna have to ASK him about this......or move on to someone who might fulfill your needs better......

JMHO

One thing I learn for sure from this life. If somebody can't or don't want to make me happy, he have no right to waste my years. We are not getting any younger again and time is gold.
Tell him how you are feeling about this relation and ask if he will do something about it. If not , nothing is forever.Even the life , so God would send you a better match .You are a pretty girl .I know is not easy being single but much better then unhappy.

did you show him your boobs????

I'm curious what her T-shirt says!!!

He's been emailing me and talking about manlove a lot

I was too!!!

when was the last time he seen your boobs?

Hes probably shy and waiting for you to initiate the contact at least thats how I am Ill flirt she flirts back I dont do anything then she moves on and I alone again huhhh the story of my life,

Get rufies.*

*Do not use or possess rufies it is illegal in the United States to use and/or be in possession of rufies.

..he's already one step out the door..nothing you can do about it...if you confront him about it...he's gone..

Roco

Was your breath offensive?
Did you got out to eat before the kiss?

Ask him if he's decided to be gay. I had that conversation with my gold fish and he finally felt free to step out of the closet....well his water castle anyway.

He was such a great gold fish. I mean up until my cat found out he was gay. I didn’t tell the cat...god no!

I think it was the pink scarf that Joeyfister started wearing, sort of gave him away you know? ...Joey was my fish by the by ... well you can guess the rest of this story I am sure.

try talking to him, to find out where your relationship stands. If not you are not going to be happy. Good luck to you

Ask him if he's decided to be gay. I had that conversation with my gold fish and he finally felt free to step out of the closet....well his water castle anyway.

He was such a great gold fish. I mean up until my cat found out he was gay. I didn’t tell the cat...god no!

I think it was the pink scarf that Joeyfister started wearing, sort of gave him away you know? ...Joey was my fish by the by ... well you can guess the rest of this story I am sure.

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I'm kinda not getting what you're saying here. Are you saying you were having a hot and heavy sexual relationship and then he started to lose interest? Are you saying that you made out a few times and even though he still wants to hang out, he doesn't want to make out anymore? How long have you known him?

From what you have posted here, I can't really assume that there was any sex going on BEFORE he started to act like he was losing interest.

If you just kissed a few times and that was it, and he still wants to hang out, but he doesn't want to kiss anymore and he doesn't seem interested, then: Don't blame yourself. He's probably either not very sexual, or not very sexually interested in females, as has already been suggested.

If you had a sexual relationship and he acts like he has lost interest, then he's probably getting it somewhere else, or maybe it's because you wouldn't put on the red fishnet stockings that one time he asked.

I REALLY DOUBT if talking to him is going to fix the situation, and you very well may end up hearing something you didn't really want to hear. If he went so far as to kiss you and you weren't like vomiting, making "yuck" faces, or pushing him away, and he didn't want to do anything else, then his problem ISN'T shyness. I mean: Do you really want to find out that he used to be a girl? That he only becomes aroused in the presence of large dead octopi? That you don't look enough like his mom? I wouldn't!

If it was me, I would weigh the options of having him as a sort of male girlfriend (i.e., someone to hang out with and talk to) versus scrapping what seems like a lost cause, thereby clearing off my social calendar for a better prospect.

If you meet a guy that really likes what you have to offer, are you gonna want this other dude around at that point? If the answer to that is some version of "no" then get rid of him. You don't have to explain--he's insulted you already by not at least making a grab for your titty while you were macking.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

yep I agree!!!!
it wasnt affection he was first after....it was sex!!!
for whatever reason.....he's already moved on!!!!
your a friend with benefits!!!