Distance seems to be my biggest problem regarding meeting people on here. There's no end of great people on this site, just seems like all the gorgeous women are in the States

seems I read more and hear more that they AREN'T working then what I read and hear about them being successful. I realize some have indeed found their match using a site...but if you take percentages...it's still minimal.

for some ldr's work,they dont have alot of sh!t on their plate,for some its like im not dropping everything to go be with someone thats interested in me 2000 miles away,love dont pay the bills.thats being realistic to some.then you have the fakes, people who make theirselves out to be something they r not.

Many of us are more cautious than we once were...even when meeting someone face to face. There is so much to know about a person, before you know if something special is even possible. Meeting on line just seems to add another layer of all that we don't know about each other...how we look, what our voices sound like, how we dress, etc. Meeting on-line, it is easier to develop misconceptions and inaccurate pre-conceived notions about someone...it's easier to be deceived - intentional or not. I think we all know that and are much more cautious than we might otherwise be.

For me, I know my age is playing a roll now. I don't feel I can afford to waste any more time on relationships that are not going to work for me. I want the last third of my life to be about positive, healthy relationships...whether they be with friends or a lover. I'm less likely to be as open to a 'not-so-sure' thing as I would have been in my younger days.

Given up on old Blighty Pete?

I'm in up to my knees right now. By November I'll either be all the way in and swimming or drowned. Can I borrow that life vest?

Yep. I want to emigrate ASAP

Did you manage to get your passport sorted?

Distance is a factor. I agree.

There are two distances involved.
1. How far will I go to meet them?
2. How far will they go, to meet me?

If the answer to either part is near zero, then I would say that distance is not the problem.

They work for some people. I know a few couples that met online and got married. I met my last bf online.

I wondered too..because most larger cities have a singles network of some kind...ie..parents w/o partners, the personals in the newspapers, one of the radio stations in Charlotte sponors a party once a month just so singles can meet. Except for those who don't have access to any other way, then using the internet and not being successful isn't just about the distance.

I tend to agree that it's more out of fear or for those who use it just to see if "they got it going on". Some simply want to make friends and that's great too. But for finding that ONE..regardless if it's a paid site or a free site, compared to the people on them and to those who find their match, it's a very small amount.

This site worked for me. Thats why I'm back I met a great girl on here and sadly it didn't work out so I'm back to try my luck again.

I didn't mean to imply they don't work at all, and I wasn't speaking from my own experience. It was on a percentage basis that I asked the question.

Word.

there is no magic wand

dating sites only give you access to a wider pool of people to meet

but you still have to get out and meet them and weed your way through a lot a fake people and shallow people and people who only want to get laid

just like in real life but bigger

I have a magic wand in my pants....

So true !

Excellent point. Lots of people get together on dating sites. If you look at the "testimonials" board on the Plenty of Fish site, for example, you will find people making posts there every day about how they have found someone they can worship/shag/move in with/marry. I don't think this site has a testimonials board but casual observation seems to indicate that people DO hook up here.



I think the biggest problem, maybe, is a personal one: You are sour on internet dating sites for whatever reason and trying to discourage others from having a good time...? Misery loves company, ya know.

A lot of people don't do anything or notify anyone when they get together with someone they met on a dating site; they just ignore or delete their account and go on with their happy relationship. If they don't log on for awhile they don't come up in search results, and if someone does contact them they don't answer the message.

People who are discontented, however, tend to make a lot of noise about how discontented they are. "Why am I lonely?" "Why do I get lied to so much?" "What is the largest computed prime number?" (Ok, I made that last one up; I was just reading about that today I guess they've found a prime number with over 13 million digits! Hell yeah!)

Er, anyway: If you have statistics to back up what you're saying, that would be oh, so cool. I know that my expectations are more than met by internet social sites, but I'll admit that I'm not looking for dates--I'm seeking entertainment and I'm ALWAYS entertained by the internet.

Every so often I meet someone really awesome, too! yours in Chaos, Scarlett