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Topic: Why aren't the dating
the_mind_flayer Joined Wed 09/24/08 Posts: 599	Sun 09/28/08 04:30 PM
Herpes? Sounds like your a victim. No, just common knowledge. did you know there was a dating site for them as well? For victims or herpes viruses?! Both. You should join.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Sun 09/28/08 04:30 PM
Herpes? Sounds like your a victim. No, just common knowledge. did you know there was a dating site for them as well? For victims or herpes viruses?! I guess those inflicted with the virus as I doubt the herpes virus can type seriously, it was an ad here maybe a week ago (havent seen it since) advertising a website for those who have herpes

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 09/29/08 05:54 AM
sites really working? There's some great people here with great personalities, some not so great too, but then that's a given with any "community". From all you hear, even tho there's thousands and thousands of people on them, the success rate is minimal. What do you think the is the biggest problem? 1. Distance -- even if you find someone who seems compatible, odds are they're 897,000 miles away. 2. Expectations -- people seem to come in with the idea that they will find someone who is either already just want they want, or who can be easily molded. 3. Mainstreamism -- anyone who isn't totally mainstream is going to have a difficult time finding a partner on a typical dating site. Most people already have kids and therefore any relationships that develop are going to necessitate some sort of familial result. If you're a thinker, an artist, a creative type, you are not going to be appreciated, on a dating site, for who you are. People will either ignore you or want to change you. 4. Detachment/dishonesty -- I have noticed a lot of people on dating sites do not "see" other members as actual people -- probably because the whole internet thing creates its own sort of detachment -- and this leads to a lot of people being misleading and deceptive about themselves and what they are looking for, which leads to.... 5. The stigma -- the stigma of internet dating leads to the idea that it is full of liars and scammers and predators, etc. While this is true more of some sites than others, there is an overall perception that much of what you see and read here is not to be trusted. People are less likely to make a real effort to "get together" if they have serious doubts about the veracity of the other person. 6. Real life dating can be more effective because there is no distance problem if you're dating someone nearby, and it is more difficult to hide the reality of who you are (not that it can't be done in real life, too, but certain things just become easier to find out when it's face-to-face).

OneMoreTimeAround Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 3649	Mon 09/29/08 03:28 PM
sites really working? There's some great people here with great personalities, some not so great too, but then that's a given with any "community". From all you hear, even tho there's thousands and thousands of people on them, the success rate is minimal. What do you think the is the biggest problem? 1. Distance -- even if you find someone who seems compatible, odds are they're 897,000 miles away. 2. Expectations -- people seem to come in with the idea that they will find someone who is either already just want they want, or who can be easily molded. 3. Mainstreamism -- anyone who isn't totally mainstream is going to have a difficult time finding a partner on a typical dating site. Most people already have kids and therefore any relationships that develop are going to necessitate some sort of familial result. If you're a thinker, an artist, a creative type, you are not going to be appreciated, on a dating site, for who you are. People will either ignore you or want to change you. 4. Detachment/dishonesty -- I have noticed a lot of people on dating sites do not "see" other members as actual people -- probably because the whole internet thing creates its own sort of detachment -- and this leads to a lot of people being misleading and deceptive about themselves and what they are looking for, which leads to.... 5. The stigma -- the stigma of internet dating leads to the idea that it is full of liars and scammers and predators, etc. While this is true more of some sites than others, there is an overall perception that much of what you see and read here is not to be trusted. People are less likely to make a real effort to "get together" if they have serious doubts about the veracity of the other person. 6. Real life dating can be more effective because there is no distance problem if you're dating someone nearby, and it is more difficult to hide the reality of who you are (not that it can't be done in real life, too, but certain things just become easier to find out when it's face-to-face). Thank you

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Mon 09/29/08 03:30 PM
I met my girl on a site similar to this one. we've been together a couple of years now <--------- there she is now

tngxl65 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6189	Mon 09/29/08 03:36 PM
I met my girl on a site similar to this one. we've been together a couple of years now <--------- there she is now Which one is she? I kid!

DeniseC86 Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 158	Mon 09/29/08 08:46 PM
i guess distance and fear...and worse people who lie about their true personalities. Often I think people are seriously WAY TO HUNG UP on looks to really get to know someone.