Women do that too. Unfortunately people can be real jerks.

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guess it was fake. Or we scared her away.

i think she was an attention queen or likes to start up lies to have a conversation, munch housin bi proxy, i have no idea how to spell that off the top off my head

you get that a lot on these forums

I like when they have multiple profiles and carry on conversations with themselves

Haha!! .....the memories...!!

People that go on and on with this "why can't I find someone? it's been (number) of years and I'm still alone! why, oh why? woe is meeee!" should be forced to sit and read accounts like this one.

This is what reacting purely to loneliness, and being desperate for love and affection, will lead us into if we are not careful.

I'm not saying that I don't sympathize with you; I do. I'm not saying that this guy isn't a little skank; he is.

But who's really to blame here? The internet makes it so much easier for guys and girls like this to do their thing, but those who fall for them are so naive and lonely that they don't trust their instincts. Your instincts were trying to tell you that this guy wasn't being up front, but you waited until the point of no return to listen to them--if you found out through myspace that he is a flake, you could have found that out BEFORE you made a decision to change your life in such a drastic way. You just wanted to keep living in that fantasy a little... bit... longer...

If someone you have never met face to face starts telling you that he/she loves you and wants to be with you, take it with a HUGE grain of salt. Don't ever let a person you meet on the internet monopolize all your time and attention. Even if you have talked to that person on the phone over and over, and have IM chats with them every day, you do not truly know that person until you meet him or her in real life.

Your heart is precious. Don't give it all away at once for an airy promise.

This happened to me several years ago, but I figured things out and turned the tables on my would-be exploiter. This guy was 19 years old and he started sending me IMs telling me how beautiful I was and how he felt we had a special connection, and blah blah. He was really good looking. He lived in another state, but not all that far away. Of course I was flattered. I spent a lot of time--too much time, time when I should have been working and making money--talking to him, because I was lonely.

However, I started to become a bit suspicious of him after he refused my invitation for him to visit; I offered to buy him a bus ticket so that he could come out and spend a couple of weeks at my house. No--he wanted for me to come out to where he was and get a place. He couldn't bear to leave his friends and family, supposedly.

Couldn't bear to leave his friends and family for TWO WEEKS?

I already knew this guy was a player--he didn't pretend he wanted only me, but bragged about his exploits with various girls that he knew. However, I had something that his crack-smoking welfare mom girlfriends didn't have: Security. Also I found out that the girls that were available to him were, even though they were in their teens and early 20s, not too hot looking; if you have abused drugs heavily and had several children by age 21, don't kid yourself: you're not going to look all that great. You're going to be in poor health and you're going to be missing some teeth, etc.

So ok: This guy can't tear himself away from his little scene for two weeks to accept my polite and generous offer for him to come for a visit, but he's saying that he "loves" me and wants to "be with" me? Not bloody likely.

I made arrangements to go out and see him. We were going to party, we were going to screw, and he was going to show me how much he cared for me and wanted for me to be in his life.

I did pass through the town where he lived. I called him and told him to meet me at such-and-such place. I sat at a distance and watched to see if he would show up, and he did. I called him from my cell phone and watched him answer my call with an eager smile on his face. I asked him if he was ready to see me, and an enthusiastic "YES!" was the reply. I asked him if he was ready to have fun, and got another "YES!"

Then I said, "If that's the case, now you know what it's like to feel truly disappointed. I'm lookin at you right now--you're wearing a black baseball cap and khaki pants, and you have the STUPIDEST EXPRESSION on your face, yo! You're lucky I'm not in a vengeful mood right now, because me shooting you and getting away with it would be the easiest thing in the world! It's not like anybody would miss your sorry a$$, either."

He whirled around and finally saw me. I waved at him, got back on my bike, and left.

A couple of hundred miles further down the road was another guy--about the same age, even cuter, and MUCH nicer--that I had started flirting with on line several months before, and that guy was REALLY happy to see me.

This was several years ago, and I still talk to the second guy; I chatted with him just the other day. He has his own place now and has a good job (though he still doesn't have a car! oh well!) and is eager for me to visit.

Your heart, as I said, is precious. Guard it with everything you've got! Enjoy your life and love yourself first and foremost. You don't have to be a devious harlot like me, necessarily--and how could you be? you're much too nice!--but you don't have to be a setup for every loser that trolls the internet looking for lonely women, either.

I hope this was helpful. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

(edit) Actually, I recognized the picture in the profile as someone from another site, lol. But fake or not, it's not like stuff like this never happens. Her story may have been concocted, but mine wasn't! lol

munchausen syndrome.......close enough.

munch housin?

Ummm....not everyone....lol

Some of us are WAY too cynical to fall for something that simple.

My guess is no matter what he said, he was too young for you. I had a similar problem except this jackass was afraid of my mentality the whole time and refused to commit. I think my maturity scared him off. Just goes to show, stick with the ones that grew right along with me.

That's why I don't date younger men. Sorry you fell for his lies.

Oh they do it all the time here, but if you try to say that you are the bad guy "I know this person they are my friend" when in actuality they have only ever spoken via email. Then they out themselves and the person who claimed them, doesn't even remember saying that...

I smell BS from a mile away, and remember who said what to whom... I lead a pathetic life like that and "THEY" don't like that.

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Lily's home!!!

Had a great time, you convinced me to go...so thanks.

I believe the conversation went like this:

Lily: I don't really want to go
Ruth: Then you shouldn't go
Lily: But, it'll be so much fun
Ruth: Then you should go
Lily: Okay, I'm going

Glad I could help!

I'm easy but not cheap lady....