Well stay on this thread and you will.

My daughter said to me last week "Daddy never spends time with me without Miss Becky (his new gf...and I do mean NEW like 2 months new) so I told her that she could tell Daddy how she felt and Daddy would not get mad at her.

She comes home tonight and he announces to me that they are moving in together in November. I rolled my eyes and walked upstairs.

I asked her if she had talked to him, she said "yes" and I asked what he said to her (fully expecting him to say "this day will be our day from now on")

Oh no he said to her "Miss Becky is a part of Daddy's life now and I want to spend time with both of you"

If I could kill him I would.... anyone have any battery acid laying around?

Wait, I'll cast a spell on him. What's his name? Oh, and I'll need a lock of his hair.

He is a selfish azz

please lets trade problems with the x's pretty please

Uhm, NO... not that jackass.... but I'm still pissed he treated her like that...

I really don't understand parents who put themselves before their children. I know divorce is hard on the kids and eventually you may be with someone and they will have to deal with that. But, if it was my child I would go out of my way to make extra alone or "special" time with them to help them through it. What a prick.

He sees her on weekends and one day during the week for 2 and a half hours. That two and a half hours could be dedicated to her. Is that so much to ask?

He switched days about 3 weeks ago from Thursdays to Wednessdays, I agreed although I did like Thursdays better, but whatever. I told him that this Wednessday I had a family dinner to go to and this week he would have to pick another day. He argued with me on Sunday about it and said "I'm busy the rest of the week" He golfs on Mondays, goes to the Buddhist Zendo on Tuesdays and had band practice on Thursdays...obviously these things are more important even just for one week. He finally after I refused to compromise as I told him THREE weeks ago that he would pick her up tonight.... Then he treated her like her feelings didn't matter at all to him.

For F*cks sake she's 6 and a half.....

I swear on all that is Holy in every breath I take that man is gonna rue the day.....

then you obviously have not given him enough of a beating yet not that i'd suggest violence or anything.

all i can think is one day all little girls will have to reckon exactly what kind of creature they have for a father, the positives and negatives, and carry on accordingly.

i don't know your daughter's personality, but it would be good if she could assert herself with him. mine cracks a whip

Lily,

Is there any way that you can send a letter to him via your daughter? Can't get into an argument that way.

In that letter can you explain to him that your daughter needs some one-on-one time with him? 100% of his attention for their bonding and her self-esteem? Explain that she is needing some time alone with him and it could possibly make a wall between him and her?

He might need step-by-step directions. lol

Just an idea, Lily.

Grrrrr.

Oops.

Oops. Computer problem.

if you post the same thing 6 times the mingle ghost will come a hit you,just a warning

fire and venom, my x

#1 Chuck that pic disturbs me...

#2 He'll be lucky to get off that easily.

I know someone that could help you with that problem

Ya know no matter how mad you get and no matter what you say. It will go in one ear and out the other. The best thing to do is just keep doing what you do with her and show her your always there to talk too. In the long run he will regret later in life that he did not take the time with her when it was offered.

I finally gave up with the arguing with the ex it does no good and just makes things more stressful.

For later in life she will see and remember who was always there. I went through it with my kids as they got older they finally realized that I was the one always there for them. My son last year finally told me one night when he was leaving as he said I love you he said thank you for always being there for me no matter what.

oh mirror you didn't

I know, I'm just tired of being the one who dries the tears from the crap he does or doesn't do.

whut?