i had to put this up because there has been alot of talk about how a
nice guy just won't do because they are boring but when the question was
asked tonight what their idea of a badboy was, most women said it
basically comes down to a sense of style(their clothes). so what is it
about their clothes that really makes them exciting? so many people form
an opinion based solely on the image a person portrays that it's no
wonder you haven't found the right person yet. alot of women have an
idea already associated with the term nice guy and for some reason they
usually link it with the term doormat as well and i was wondering if i'm
crazy or is it true and if it's true for you, how did you get that way
because the way i was raised you don't have to be a badboy to be what
you all are describing, that's just a man(not just an adult male). where
i come from a badboy is something entirely different from what you all
are wanting.

It has to do with a lot more than clothes...for sure. It's an attitude
(not a shitty one) it's a way of presenting themselves. I lifestyle. A
boldness, it's very hard to describe. Showing the world on one hand you
can kick ass and take names, but at the same time having that senstive
side full of love and loyalty towards your loved ones. A risk taker, a
chance maker...someone that gets out there and grabs the world by the
throat and creates his own life and lives it. A free spirit. My
exhusband was like that. I still love him today for that sort of spirit
that he had. We just simply grew apart. We are still very good
friends. It's hard to put a label on it King...but I'm sure many women
here know what I'm trying to say.

J

Many men know what you are trying to say as well J>> WILL

Hello J u are right on the target.

King,
You are so right. Too many people focus on image and
what the person is from the outside. They think cos some
fool has gold jewelry, a nice suit, and an attitude that
he must be someone worth knowing. Most of the time all the
outside shit is covering up for the fact that the guy
is an asshole.

Guys be looking like they pimping and trying to impressed the female and
some ususally fall because of the money are to themselves and you will
get played by them. i rather go out with the most simple person.
thanks king u are so right

Bling is a turn off. If you take the time to get to know someone you can
tell the real deal from the assholes. I think you are getting the line
between bad boy and asshole confused. There are lots of women out there
that not doubt can not tell the difference. Some on the other hand can.
All bad boys are not assholes...just the same as all good boys are not
doormats..

J

Hi J true, but they start off mr. good guy bang. All these hidden
things start showing up. But u could, always detected them from far.
Just make sure there are bad in a good way. I mean naughty

i just asked because you could describe me like that but i don't have
the outward image of a stereotypical badboy. like i said that though,
that doesn't sound like the way badboy was used when i was growing up,
that is just a man. i don't see how being a man makes you a badboy. what
kind of man does let people walk all over him and won't defend his
family?
i guess somewhere along the way i lost touch and they changed the
meanings of the words on me, oh well.

No kingbreeze u don't sound as the badboy iam talking about.
so don't get me wrong. May being a badboy taught u some lesson that
made u become what u now a strong man. Some of them don't change.

well that's because i'm not a bad boy but you pretty much described me
in all of your posts on this subject, i guess i'm just a hillbilly then
lol.

it's just where i grew up, that is what a man was and a badboy was
something different.

No way! sorry if i made u feel that way i was not talking about u. Just
the topic on some creeps i talk to. sending hugs

oh, sorry i misunderstood chica. that is what a man was like where i was
raised and if we have gotten to the point where you have to be a badboy
to be a decent man, this place is going down hill.

king... i think id have to agre with you.yes j sead it all and was right
but the looks dont usualy say much and yas i like the bad boy tipe to
but there is only so far that will take you.now for me its not what
thay look like but there mindset and there veuw on life as it is and
what thay can do eather to improve it or how thay have lerned to deal
with what life has givin them not what thay can take and from how meney
thay can take it from

KB...an analogy would be say you get stuck in an elevator between floors
with your lover. A bad boy would use that situation to get his groove
on and not worry about the possiblity of being caught...a good boy would
merely just think about it and not act on impulse for fear he may be
caught with his pants down...

I'm using sex in the analogy but that same way of thinking in a bad boy
could apply to all sorts of situations...

J

As far as I have read from studies that what women want is a hero and
not a badboy type. A hero like a fire fighter, policeman or a soldier.
On
the other hand I read studies that say girls don't like dare devils. So
I dunno. Its a matter of personal choice I guess. There are studies that
say that a gal wants a guy that looks like he can be a loving husband
and at the same time want a guy like a badboy to just have sex with.

So you be the judge.

mmm yeah, i want me a firefighter..lol

i just don't think that you have to be a bad boy to offer pretection and
security to your family and i've met women that are confused about this.
alot of people judge me by the way i look(not like a badboy)and they
think i'm soft but then when they push because they think i won't do
anything and i jump all over em then i become an asswhole lol and i
wonder how i can make that big of a jump(from soft to violent
asswhole)lol

And that's why I have a happy lifestyle because I create my own reality
to the life that I live until I DECIDE to let a special lady come into
it if she's on the level I am at in what I seek in a lady...

True there are many ladies out there...but only one can and may have
me...

It has nothing to do with a persons clothes to make attraction it's many
types of factors...ladies are very selective and not every person is
going to like you or even notice you or even love you all at once...it's
just not how life works...every person has his or her own taste in the
type of guy or gal a person wants to be with...

Mostly attitude...a way a guy/gal carries
themselves...personality...honesty and other things. but when the right
person comes along you know overall it's going to be right
regardless...but DON'T try to be somebody you are NOT ladies and some
guys can smell that and if and when they do you will be fake in that
persons mindset and the mindset barriers go up and litterally that
person will be un-interested in you ^_^

Just be yourself people and live life the way YOU want to and don't be
somebody you are not either in fashion, style or personality. because in
doing so will only confuse your own self and when trying to attract the
person you wish to be with will see this and you will possibly loose the
chance to ever gain attention from that person...

Now I sound like some dam narrator for a dating service...hmpphhh!!