HOW LONG SHOULD YOU DATE BEFORE YA THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED??

I think u should atleast wait two years.

two years sounds good..

although, my brother and his wife only knew each other for TWO WEEKS and
got married..theyve been married now for 19 years..have four children..

I think it all depends...every situation is different, but at least a
year. I'm also a bit old fashioned...no living together first. That's a
cop out. I mean if you are going to put your toothbrush in my
toothbrush holder, throw your dirty underwear on my floor and put your
shoes under my bed...I had better have a ring!!

J

u go girl! none of that living together first stuff for me either!

Once living together u never get married.

WHY IS THAT??

at least a year and half of that year living together so you know you
can live with the person...i've been there more than once and room mates
dont help

I knew my wife about 3 months before we got engaged.
We've been married 19 years. I don't think there's a
hard and fast rule about waiting. You could wait and
miss out or you could rush into it and regret it. It
all depends on how you feel about each other and how
well you know each other.

i think that you should live together first before you get married. do
you know how many rotten marriages were spared because they found out
that they couldn't stand each other ahead of time

well king, I lived with mine for about 4 months before we married. After
I married him, he changed and I got rid of him 19 yrs and 4 kids later.
Living together is not the answer either.

do you think it would be different if you lived with him for more than 4
mo.? i was in a relationship for 5 years and it couldn't have gotten
much better than it was. we moved in together and a year later i was out
the door.

To me, and just me, it seems like people are going to change and
sometimes not for the better. If you know each other and are happy
together then what does it matter. He was my best friend before I
married him, but his attitude changed and having children really changed
his sorry ass.

that's what i'm talking about though. it's kinda like the idea that
people tend to let themselves go once they feel that they are in a
committed relationship. i have known alot of people where thes changes
did not occur until everything seemed safe.
i don't know if i really got across what i was trying to say. hopefully
the next one will be better. how would you change things this time
around, or would you change things?

The only thing I would change, is I would have divorced his sorry ass
once my last child was born, because thats the only good things he gave
me in life. I don't know how I could have changed anything to make
things better, I was a good, devoted, hard working and faithful wife to
him. I starting putting on weight and he didn't like that, so I took it
off. I tried to stay the way he wanted me to look, i worked my ass off
and was more woman than he could handle in bed, but for some reason he
needed to see what other women were like. Guess thats what I get for
getting him when he was a virgin.

since he was a virgin i don't think it had anything to do with you, alot
of people who haven't had a chance to sow their oats(please excuse the
corny term)have a desire to do it eventually.

what i asked was, on your next time around would you do anything
different from your first one

next time around???????????? never plan on having one of those, but no,
if I loved someone enough to marry them, I would treat them the same way
I treated him (like a KING).

here's hoping you find a good one then, wouldn't want to waste a good
woman on a ungrateful person

I don't really think you can put a certain amt of time on how long you
should wait. I am like King, I would want to live with that person
BEFORE I married them. I want to find out if I could handle being around
that person all the time. When your just engaged, you spend some time
apart, you really don't know that person...but when you live with
them...you find out everything about them! Sometimes you wish you didn't
know certain things...but its better to come out before you get married.
I will say this, I lived with my husband 6 years before I married
him....then after we did get married, it did change. I am kind of to the
point to where I think, if something is working out really good....if
its not broke, why fix it? A piece of paper is not going to change how
we feel about each other or about our relationship, so if we don't want
to marry, who cares! We can live in sin and if someone don't like it,
thats their problem...no one pays our bills but us!
We would still have the commitment of being a married couple, just not
the paper! Sometimes I find thats the best way to go. If your love is
real, then it will be a committed relationship, and if its not....its so
much easier to walk away! Trust me, its so much cheaper that way too :)

I would have to say one or two year for you need to have some fun and
get to know your partner before you take this next big step drag
everything out of your closet and his closet also make sure he or she is
truly right for each other.