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Edited by
Lily0923
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I'm out last night with a group of friends, and two of them are dating, have been for about 6 months now. The girl was admitedly PMSing. The guy sees a girl he went to high school with and she was a bit tipsey and kinda hanging on him. The gf gets ENRAGED and fights with him at the bar.
I've known this guy for years, he wouldn't cheat on her for a million dollars. As she is coming up to him throughout the night she was being snippy and nasty (I do like this girl also...just not last night) He would just stand there and let her say whatever then she would walk away and come back a few minutes later and do the same thing. My question is....WHY DO GUYS ALLOW THIS BEHAVIOR? Had I been the bf I would have said "hey look time to go..." and taken her out of the bar. I walked over to her once and said "You know he's the most loyal and honest guy you will ever meet right, and I know he adores you." She says "Yes, but he should have told that girl to stop." which I kinda agree, but it's not his way, and it was a very short conversation with her and he did introduce his gf to her as his gf. Why do guys tolerate this? |
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Fear!!!
  
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P*ssy Whipped
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I'm out last night with a group of friends, and two of them are dating, have been for about 6 months now. The girl was admitedly PMSing. The guy sees a girl he went to high school with and she was a bit tipsey and kinda hanging on him. The gf gets ENRAGED and fights with him at the bar. I've known this guy for years, he wouldn't cheat on her for a million dollars. As she is coming up to him throughout the night she was being snippy and nasty (I do like this girl also...just not last night) He would just stand there and let her say whatever then she would walk away and come back a few minutes later and do the same thing. My question is....WHY DO GUYS ALLOW THIS BEHAVIOR? Had I been the bf I would have said "hey look time to go..." and taken her out of the bar. I walked over to her once and said "You know he's the most loyal and honest guy you will ever meet right, and I know he adores you." She says "Yes, but he should have told that girl to stop." which I kinda agree, but it's not his way, and it was a very short conversation with her and he did introduce his gf to her as his gf. Why do guys tolerate this? I'm a big flirt on-line and off-line, but like him I'm VERY loyal. I'd tell my gf to get a life. |
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"allow"?....you cant control the actions of another person..now why would he tolorate it is another question and only one he can answer for himself..
the right thing would have been to intervene on behalf of your friend or tell the drunk pmsing chick..hey Im not comfortable with your behavior right now. So Im leaving.. Now, would I have done that?? I like to think so, but probably I would have kept my mouth shut and just put up with the night ending up badly... All of us are guilty of putting up with abusive behaviors..we never hold people accountable and so they go on doing what works best for them... |
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Many guys won't tolerate this behavior. Only wusses like the guy you describe. As soon as the gf opened her mouth, he should have turned away from her and gone out the door with the tipsy one from high school!
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People ask why I don't date......THIS IS WHY...
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People ask why I don't date......THIS IS WHY... You always have me. 
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"allow"?....you cant control the actions of another person..now why would he tolorate it is another question and only one he can answer for himself.. the right thing would have been to intervene on behalf of your friend or tell the drunk pmsing chick..hey Im not comfortable with your behavior right now. So Im leaving.. Now, would I have done that?? I like to think so, but probably I would have kept my mouth shut and just put up with the night ending up badly... All of us are guilty of putting up with abusive behaviors..we never hold people accountable and so they go on doing what works best for them... It didn't end badly, I had a great time, I just watched the show, I love human nature.... 
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People ask why I don't date......THIS IS WHY... You always have me. Yes, me and 50 other women on the site have you... |
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Many guys won't tolerate this behavior. Only wusses like the guy you describe. As soon as the gf opened her mouth, he should have turned away from her and gone out the door with the tipsy one from high school!
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Edited by
Plainome
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Sun 09/07/08 11:37 AM
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Ummmmmmmmmm, probably for the same reason you like her.....other than last night.
She has insecurities, like almost everyone else. He knows and understands that.....and deals with it. He must care for her. NOTE: If you are not willing to put up with some negatives in a relationship. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ONE! At least not one that lasts. No one is perfect. You weigh the good with the bad, and then make a decision on whether this is something you that is a deal breaker or not. |
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Ummmmmmmmmm, probably for the same reason you like her.....other than last night. She has insecurities, like almost everyone else. He knows and understands that.....and deals with it. He must care for her. NOTE: If you are not willing to put up with some negatives in a relationship. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ONE! At least not one that lasts. No one is perfect. You weigh the good with the bad, and then make a decision on whether this is something you that is a deal breaker or not. I'm sorry, let me rephrase, not tolerate her as a whole, but tolerate the situation and being yelled at infront of his friends for doing nothing wrong... My bad, i didn't emphasise that. |
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"allow"?....you cant control the actions of another person..now why would he tolorate it is another question and only one he can answer for himself.. the right thing would have been to intervene on behalf of your friend or tell the drunk pmsing chick..hey Im not comfortable with your behavior right now. So Im leaving.. Now, would I have done that?? I like to think so, but probably I would have kept my mouth shut and just put up with the night ending up badly... All of us are guilty of putting up with abusive behaviors..we never hold people accountable and so they go on doing what works best for them... It didn't end badly, I had a great time, I just watched the show, I love human nature.... its the reason I dont need to own a TV!!! 
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People ask why I don't date......THIS IS WHY... |
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Why do we " allow " it???
For the same reasons that a woman will put up with ( a lot of the time ) a guy that treats her like crap. If you feel like you are with the best that you can get....then you have no real reason to not deal with the bullsh*t. Besides. You said yourself that you actually like the girl, just not the way she was last night. It could be that her acting like that is a very rare thing, and he just deals with it because in all actuality, she treats him very well 99.9% of the time. If she is good to him the majority of the time, then he, like many other guys, will be willing to overlook occasional irrational behavior. :-) |
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It sounds as though your friend does not like confrontation. He should have left, without her. And then when both parties were sober, talked about the obvious trust issues in their relationship.
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Oh and there were two girls kissing at the bar (wasn't me) and our friend Josh met a girl there who is drop dead gorgeous (again not me
) and I met a boy... Then my bestest took me home and made me mashed potatos... Yep, I had a great time.
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Ummmmmmmmmm, probably for the same reason you like her.....other than last night. She has insecurities, like almost everyone else. He knows and understands that.....and deals with it. He must care for her. NOTE: If you are not willing to put up with some negatives in a relationship. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ONE! At least not one that lasts. No one is perfect. You weigh the good with the bad, and then make a decision on whether this is something you that is a deal breaker or not. I'm sorry, let me rephrase, not tolerate her as a whole, but tolerate the situation and being yelled at infront of his friends for doing nothing wrong... My bad, i didn't emphasise that. Oh, ok. Ummmmmmm, maybe he didn't know exactly what he should do about it. He probably didn't want to make her mad, but also didn't want to hurt the "old" friend........ |
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It sounds as though your friend does not like confrontation. He should have left, without her. And then when both parties were sober, talked about the obvious trust issues in their relationship. He would never leave her there... He's not that way. She really yelled at him infront of me, Brnes, her sister, her roomate, and two guys they go to law school with.... I was like "WOW" and you know how I am... and it got a WOW out of me. |
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