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I actualy haven't been dumped yet... But the worse break up I had was like 2 months ago I told him I couldnt deal with his sh*t anymore and that I found some things out about him that were awful.. and he called me some pretty awful names and said some awful things to me that now I look at myself and am disgusted and have almost no self esteem anymore.. consider your self lucky it ended when it did!don't feel bad about your self you knew he was not a good guy so he gone!! 
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So, What is the right way of ending a relationship? I'm thinking mine should have been ended about 9 years earlier with a "Let's sit down...we need to talk...". It could have been ended with a simple, "This isn't working for me, (and in my case) I don't think you are happy either...". It takes some courage, but it's the kindest way. Instead it took years of wasted life & months of torment...what a shame. Not wasting any more time on it now, though!
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So no matter how ugly or shallow the truth is?...wouldn't a little white lie with a direct face to face communication be ok.. and throw in a "Let's be friends" knowing no one will contact each other... to soften the blow. I personally don't/didn't need a list of reasons. "It's not working for me anymore" would have sufficed. And, no...no, to the friendship unless the 'dump-ee' offers it. Don't be adding insult to injury by making promises you won't keep. Personally, my ex is the last person I would ever want as a friend...I require that my friends have some personal integrity. |
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On a Wednesday night we had dinner together.. made plans for the weekend.. he made plans with my youngest... He wanted to marry me.. wanted to look at places to live ... Life was great.
Next day.. a sweet good morning text... then nothing... until 9pm that night.. I get a "Dear Erin" email.  Coward 
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Edited by
NURSE2000
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Thu 08/28/08 02:54 PM
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the best way to get over it is a new better guy than the last one!!
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Best way to get over is the younger newer model.
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Best way to get over is the younger newer model. That was the only redeeming part of his actions...he did NOT hook up with someone younger than me. His other woman is my age with all the trimmings that accompany 5+ decades...ha...including (she laughs wickedly  - well, maybe just a chuckle)...'the dreaded 'Change' !
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Best way to get over is the younger newer model. YESS NOT Too mention more sucessful than the last model!! My HERO!!!!  
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Here is the kicker he called back today to tell me I will be always Special to him..
The idiot tells me this but when i said why did he screamed he said i interrupted him and he was in a heated discussion with some one else the idiot did not get his story straight since he was the one that called me to yell at me!! he should at least get his story straight !!    But i am already working on a new guy in my life this guy seems to be a nice guy for a change
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Edited by
chriswantstocuddle
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Thu 08/28/08 08:12 PM
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well i got stabbed and told i was worthless..... thats the roughest way ive been broken up with.....
i dont talk about her much.... |
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well i got stabbed and told i was worthless..... thats the roughest way ive been broken up with..... i dont talk about her much.... she isnot worth you spending any energy on her!! 
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well i got stabbed and told i was worthless..... thats the roughest way ive been broken up with..... i dont talk about her much.... she isnot worth you spending any energy on her!! i know that was years ago anyway im well over it. |
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We were to be married Aug 19 in Vegas. Two weeks before he informed me he wasn't going to marry me. I made him move out immediately since he wasn't helping with bills. Needless to say, the trip, wedding, photographer, ring, etc. was all on my credit card. I got stuck with the bill but made the best of the situation. I went and visited my son in Arizona, and we went to Vegas and had the photographer take pictures of us and me in the dress. You see it here. I enjoyed myself hiking in the mountains of Arizona and came back ready to move forward with my life.
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Wow... long after I posted I realized that I had actually forgotten the WORST break up that had happened to me
Either there is something to teh saying "Time heals all wounds".. or.. I am in the throes of premature dementia .. I was engaged and living with my fiance in TX... my best friend was flying in for a visit. Trying to coordinate that evening's plans, I called my honey to ask what time he would be home... his response?? "Not sure.. I have a date tonight". And thus began an ugly ending..... |
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Four days after having to admit my 10yr old to the psych unit for suicidal thoughts, He left.. saying "He couldn't handle the stress of my life"
Two days later, he ended a phone call with "I love you." An email three days later that said, "I know it's hard right now, but WE will both survive." WHAT THE H*ll does that MEAN??? Nothing ever since..   How did I get past it? Prayer. I get better every day. Oh,... and
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I actualy haven't been dumped yet... But the worse break up I had was like 2 months ago I told him I couldnt deal with his sh*t anymore and that I found some things out about him that were awful.. and he called me some pretty awful names and said some awful things to me that now I look at myself and am disgusted and have almost no self esteem anymore.. Serious Goof mode now...... Why do we do this? Or, why do some people do this? If you don't want to be with someone, then just say it. But don't belittle, or break them down, or make them feel like Ali here. It happens to men and women, and it is just flat out f*cking wrong. You can tell someone their faults with tact. You can tell someone that you don't want to be with them, and do it tastefully. I mean....WOW! We, as people, suck ass sometimes. Okay, I am done now. Sooooooooooooo.....how bout them Giants?
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I left for a convention for work and was gone less than a week. When I came home after almost all day of traveling and no sleep I was told she was leaving. Just like that. No discussion, no explanation, just 7 years down the drain.
Things work out for the best in the end, though. I'm now in a relationship that's 5,000 times better!
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I HAD ANOTHER GUY TO SAY IT WAS JUST SEX.
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I actualy haven't been dumped yet... But the worse break up I had was like 2 months ago I told him I couldnt deal with his sh*t anymore and that I found some things out about him that were awful.. and he called me some pretty awful names and said some awful things to me that now I look at myself and am disgusted and have almost no self esteem anymore.. Serious Goof mode now...... Why do we do this? Or, why do some people do this? If you don't want to be with someone, then just say it. But don't belittle, or break them down, or make them feel like Ali here. It happens to men and women, and it is just flat out f*cking wrong. You can tell someone their faults with tact. You can tell someone that you don't want to be with them, and do it tastefully. I mean....WOW! We, as people, suck ass sometimes. Okay, I am done now. Sooooooooooooo.....how bout them Giants? Ummm cause some people are psychos DUH! 
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with tons of red flags being thrown in my face, and me just ignoring them, to him asking me to marry him, to him ignoring me and rejectin a friends request on that other space...to not hearing from him since I left his house on a Sunday..... SILENCE is the worst of 'em all
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