How old are you? There comes a time in everyone's life where the fear of losing something you might enjoy overtakes the fear of rejection. You can't lose something you never had in the first place if you don't let her know. Is she supposed to guess?

There is wrong and right,the right part was not being jealous or anything about her telling about a new interest,the wrong is u never making the move or expressing interest..not sure how long u 2 have talked.But this might be her way of saying "Hey buddy get on with it already,and show more interest since i wont be around forever",thats one possiblility.Either way jus take a chance and say that you have had a hard time trying to tell her how u feel in so many words,if u let her know how u feel and are rejected than oh well..least u had a pair finally and tried.But of course dont just blurt out "i like you" ,women have intuition and she prolly knows how u feel already,jus needs to hear it.

Well...think about it man. How many women have you seen here say that they would make the first move?? Not all that many. My guess would be that the one you are talking about would fall under that category too.

Women are GREAT at giving " hints " but we men just suck at picking up on them.

If she really wants to get you to speak up, then this may be the only way she can think of that would do the trick.

It's either that...or a slap on the back of the head saying " Hey...dipsh*t...try to keep up willya? "

If, on the other hand, she isn't actually trying to get you to speak up....and you do anyway...what have you lost?

Not only do you NOT lose anything, but you have done something that will have helped you gain a little more self respect.

Just my two cents, dude. Take it for what it's worth.

Well...think about it man. How many women have you seen here say that they would make the first move?? Not all that many. My guess would be that the one you are talking about would fall under that category too.

Women are GREAT at giving " hints " but we men just suck at picking up on them.

If she really wants to get you to speak up, then this may be the only way she can think of that would do the trick.

It's either that...or a slap on the back of the head saying " Hey...dipsh*t...try to keep up willya? "

If, on the other hand, she isn't actually trying to get you to speak up....and you do anyway...what have you lost?

Not only do you NOT lose anything, but you have done something that will have helped you gain a little more self respect.

Just my two cents, dude. Take it for what it's worth.

It's only fair. Women make US guess all the time....lmao

* ducks and runs for cover *

Even though you don't see it as a game that you're afraid of rejection, it can be construed as one... that's all I was saying. In either situation, both parties may not be fully honest with each other, hence the game is being played. It's a shame that many good guys don't get the girl because they never spoke up. Will it be worth it if you have to watch her with someone else, fully knowing that could've been you?

Very good....thank you for this...I will take this to heart....Thank you

I know you didn't mean anything negative by it embers....you're just trying to help and I REALLY appreciate it....I do....I still love you!!!

so at 48, you've mastered this??? we learn differently, at different times, different things. do not be-little another for lack of one experience, for this site has 1,000 years of such experiences from different people, at different times, and if you use this site to it's best advantage, you will learn much.

Is she the person? I was going to say show her this thread but forget that now.

If she is going for someone else be her friend and let her go with the guy she is looking at. I think right now her mental process would include this other person and your chances for success are going to be fairly low. Be a friend to her. Ask about the other guy. Want the best thing for your friend and be supportive of her decisions. She will eventually see a fantastic man who deserves her attention.

It really depends on you and your level of friendship. It's your call.

jeff I love you and cherish your friendship but I am about to tuff love you. If this girl isn't picking up on how you feel and you aren't prepared to tell her straight out then be prepared to lose out. Also I have a feeling she may be picking up on the fact that you have interest in too many people at one time. I did and we have discussed this in private. You can't blame anyone for looking elsewhere if you are making them feel like they are just an option. Secondly if you are in fact just being her friend and she has no clue of your interest other wise how can it be a game she's playing? You share with your friends what's going on in your life and get thier feedback. Which is probably what she is doing.


Get your "chit" in one pile and quit spreading yourself so thin.....

Jeff, you need to tell this girl how you feel before it is too late.

Did you tell her? Inquiring minds want to know how it went for you.

You seem like such a great person, from what I've seen, and I hope it works out well for you!

I didn't mean it like that. I just was curious how old you are? It seems like sometimes when you are a little younger you are afraid of what might happen when you speak up about your feelings. If she is truly a friend, she would understand your need to tell her and, even if she's not interested in you in that way, would be kind and considerate of your feelings. If you are worried that it will change your friendship, it will. But it already is changing your friendship because you are keeping these feelings from her and it is under the surface of your friendship. It is then making it a dishonest friendship and I'm sure you don't want that.
I am still single, so I obviously haven't mastered the dating game, but I do have true friends...both men and women, who have ended up with their best friends in the end because that is what we all look for in a mate, someone to be our best friend.
I post on other sites and even though someone may not agree with me, they always are welcoming to the site. I'm not sure about this one...it seems like a friendly place, but maybe it is hard to break into...will see.

A lot of people here have known each other for quite a while and are very close. Being a newbie myself I can tell you that it can be a little hard to break into this group. But, for the most part they are a very nice group of people and I think you will like it here in the long run.

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flirt ...flirt...flirt...drop hints...get her attention...if she discusses another guy with you, tell her you think he's not "the right one for her"... flirt with her...make her come to you!

ask her! otehrwise dont bother!

Thanks!!

I totally agree.

I started posting here a little while ago and it took a bit for the people here to get used to seeing me.

A lot of people come and go. If you stick around, you'll find the people here to be a fantastic bunch.