Last time that I checked. Single status did not equate to having a deadly/dreadful disease, committing a crime (misdemeanor/felony), causing harm to another, or should be anything that would cause pain/suffering.

Being single is state of affairs. Life isn't non-existent or lack luster simply because one is single. There is still life out there. It is simply a matter of how you choose to live it.

Good Luck.

P.S.
It is better to be too picky than simply grab any Tom, ****, or Harry. (Or so my mom would say!!!!!)
AMEN-Brother! Point taken and very well spoken, thank you for your comments here!

I posted this in a different "singles" thread, but no one seemed to give a sh!t, so I'll post it here...lol
****************************************************************

"The Wealth Of Being Single"


It's been noted that though time heals all wounds, love creates many of those wounds in the first place. Some of us handle love like that better than others. There are three distinct kinds of single people:

-Single not by choice, but rather by lack of social function, lack of interaction, isolationism, and a complete lack of interpersonal skills. In some ways, this can be argued that it IS their choice. Those people that argue that are called....

-Single by choice. They "don't want to be tied down", they're "keeping their options open", they "don't want to rush into anything", they "want to enjoy the freedom of individual choice", and they "decide who, when, where, why, and how, all on their own". Many of us fall into this (rather broad) category of being single.

-Single, and will never go back to a committed relationship again. AKA, the "militant single". Firmly believes that there's no one out there for him/her, or believes they don't NEED anybody else. Being part of a committed relationship isn't necessary to prove they belong in society, in their minds.

While there's certain flexibility among all three groups, they all share many characteristics. Chief among them is the finite ability to achieve a molded, patterned, day-to-day operations of functioning. There is no wrong or right label easily applied to any one single (pardon the pun) human being. Committed relationships are the bastion of those ready and able and wanting to release to a situation like that. Single relationships (somewhat of an oxymoron) are often times more complex in their basic structure.

The world is changing and has been for decades now. The socially accepted standard of husband and wife from the 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, has changed to a more socially aware experimentation of the 60's,70's, and 80's. In recent decades, the divorce rate being nearly 50% has helped blur the lines between socially accepted dating, and primordial single living. This trend looks to continue for the foreseeable future.

While no longer the "black mark" it once was, being single after - say, age 30 - still has it's detractors. For someone to dress it up as saying "I'm concerned about you.", does a great disservice to those of us who are single, and content to be single for right now. Well-intentioned though it may be, over time the best course of reason eventually cannot stand in the way from one simple fact for those that are lucky/blessed to NOT be single this "late" in life: Us single people never have to share the remote control.

(=

did someone really tell her to loosen her expectations of a guy!!??

her expectations she listed... having a job, treating her right, etc.... were about as simple as it gets.

do people really not have jobs still?? weird.

does he have to have a car too?

i mean geez, those are easy requirements. you need to higher your standards if anything. lol

dont think of it being picky,think of it of not wantting to settle and be unhappy and gloomy.ive accpeted that id rather be single and happy with my life then be with someone and be so unhappy and plus would you really wanna be with someone one whos not good enough for you?