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So 17 years go by, and I just find out I may have a 17 year old daughter out there. She actually contacted me yesterday by email....I am not sure how to handle this...Needless to say I am a little taken....
This will be a day by day process |
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you have 17yrs to catch up and geting to know her..
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you have 17yrs to catch up and geting to know her..
Not even sure she is mine at this point...But I couldnt imagine having to do that...I wouldnt even know where to start if she is |
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you have 17yrs to catch up and geting to know her..
Not even sure she is mine at this point...But I couldnt imagine having to do that...I wouldnt even know where to start if she is PATERNITY TEST!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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you have 17yrs to catch up and geting to know her..
Not even sure she is mine at this point...But I couldnt imagine having to do that...I wouldnt even know where to start if she is PATERNITY TEST!!!!!!!!!!!!
Absolutely....That will be the first thing that needs to be done before anything else... I can tell you I will not be happy about this if she is...It's not her fault but the Mother and I will have to have a LONG discussion |
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I had an ex-girlfriend claim that she was pregnant with my kid once long ago. She became VERY quiet after the birth. I'm white, she's white, and the baby wasn't. HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.
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May have? Wow! I HOPE that doesnt mean that you are planning to put her through more agony and abuse to prove it! You and your Sig other at the time may want to bear the burden of Proving it since u let 17 years pass how stressful for your child esp the part that she needed to EMAIL her dad! SOMEHOW there is shame in that.
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the first thing is to consult a lawyer!!!!!
hmmm 17 years of due support x aprox $6,000 yr =$102,000 due immediatly after paternity tests come back. relatio0nship aside you have not known them for 17 yrs....dont let your state laws put you in jail....... I say this because the same happened to my brother.....his son was 5, when he found out. they gave him an ultimatum . pay or go to jail......he payed and now has custody, but be careful on what you agree to without counsel. jmo~ |
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May have? Wow! I HOPE that doesnt mean that you are planning to put her through more agony and abuse to prove it! You and your Sig other at the time may want to bear the burden of Proving it since u let 17 years pass how stressful for your child esp the part that she needed to EMAIL her dad! SOMEHOW there is shame in that. Ok I don't know Jim that well, but from other posts that he has put up, he is all about his kids. So if his Sig Other from the past chose not to tell the child about him then that would be a shame on her part. So unti Jim gives us a bit more info, and I know we are all entitled are opinion, stop making judgement on the situation. Jim like I said I don't know you that well, but follow your gut feeling on this one and who knows what will happen when you follow through with everything. The path of life can be very interesting that is for sure. |
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May have? Wow! I HOPE that doesnt mean that you are planning to put her through more agony and abuse to prove it! You and your Sig other at the time may want to bear the burden of Proving it since u let 17 years pass how stressful for your child esp the part that she needed to EMAIL her dad! SOMEHOW there is shame in that. Ok I don't know Jim that well, but from other posts that he has put up, he is all about his kids. So if his Sig Other from the past chose not to tell the child about him then that would be a shame on her part. So unti Jim gives us a bit more info, and I know we are all entitled are opinion, stop making judgement on the situation. Jim like I said I don't know you that well, but follow your gut feeling on this one and who knows what will happen when you follow through with everything. The path of life can be very interesting that is for sure. Thank you, I dont know that much at this point. 17 years ago my ex said "She is not yours" and said she was pursuing someone else for the paternity. That was the last I had heard of it. Now all of a sudden I get this.....It's like getting hit with a brick wall....I need a paternity test before anything goes further.... |
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Meanwhile back at the ranch his daughter remains a pawn in their stupid sh$t as the sick $ saga continues Only 2 people on this planet know that they are her parents unlike dogs, humans get pregnant only once per child we need more laws to protect kids from parents that SUCK
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May have? Wow! I HOPE that doesnt mean that you are planning to put her through more agony and abuse to prove it! You and your Sig other at the time may want to bear the burden of Proving it since u let 17 years pass how stressful for your child esp the part that she needed to EMAIL her dad! SOMEHOW there is shame in that. Me? Put her through any agony? First off, I am not going to willingly admit that I am her Father. Secondly, sounds likes she needs to take this up with her Mother before I. One way or the other, the 17 y/o will have to go through this as well...I have no desire to put anyone through anything, I just need the truth to come out clear and fast.... |
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So 17 years go by, and I just find out I may have a 17 year old daughter out there. She actually contacted me yesterday by email....I am not sure how to handle this...Needless to say I am a little taken.... This will be a day by day process wow...thats some news to discover....good luck.. |
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... Yup good luck buddy
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Meanwhile back at the ranch his daughter remains a pawn in their stupid sh$t as the sick $ saga continues Only 2 people on this planet know that they are her parents unlike dogs, humans get pregnant only once per child we need more laws to protect kids from parents that SUCK Your saying "his" daughter....Why are you saying that? There is no proof at this point that she is... You act like its not possible for a woman to have sex with two or three different men around the time she can get pregnant??? Who are you to start judging me? |
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First of all Punk, that is not fair of you to sit and judge Jim that way. You really don't know the whole situation that transpired between him and the mother. You also have no idea what the mother may have told the child about her real father whether it is Jim or another man.
Yes it is not fair to the child, but Jim needs to protect himself and this child. Say he welcomes her with open arms and they learn to love each other as Father & daughter and then down the road it turns out that she is not his daughter. Everyone in this situation will be devistated. It is better to find out first. Jim get an attorney and protect yourself and your potential daughter. |
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Meanwhile back at the ranch his daughter remains a pawn in their stupid sh$t as the sick $ saga continues Only 2 people on this planet know that they are her parents unlike dogs, humans get pregnant only once per child we need more laws to protect kids from parents that SUCK For one thing he is not sure if she is his child, and secondly why would you want him to assume he is? Sure it is not the girl's fault, but you can't blame him. It's been 17 years of christ sake. |
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First of all Punk, that is not fair of you to sit and judge Jim that way. You really don't know the whole situation that transpired between him and the mother. You also have no idea what the mother may have told the child about her real father whether it is Jim or another man. Yes it is not fair to the child, but Jim needs to protect himself and this child. Say he welcomes her with open arms and they learn to love each other as Father & daughter and then down the road it turns out that she is not his daughter. Everyone in this situation will be devistated. It is better to find out first. Jim get an attorney and protect yourself and your potential daughter. Thank you, that is my perspective at this point. I need to protect myself AND my current family. A lot of people can be hurt here, so in order to be certain and before ANY contact is made, I am going to require a test to proceed. If she is my daughter I will step up of course, but in the meantime, My gaurd is WAY up! |
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I will make whatever judgements God tells me to make! Secondly, I Am not judging him! Do u think that this child should bear the burden of this? Speaking of not enough info! HOW DO U KNOW WHAT KIND OF PERSON SHE IS TO SAY THAT JIM IS BLAH BLAH AND SHE IS TO BLAME? You are judging not me PAL!
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May have? Wow! I HOPE that doesnt mean that you are planning to put her through more agony and abuse to prove it! You and your Sig other at the time may want to bear the burden of Proving it since u let 17 years pass how stressful for your child esp the part that she needed to EMAIL her dad! SOMEHOW there is shame in that. Ok I don't know Jim that well, but from other posts that he has put up, he is all about his kids. So if his Sig Other from the past chose not to tell the child about him then that would be a shame on her part. So unti Jim gives us a bit more info, and I know we are all entitled are opinion, stop making judgement on the situation. Jim like I said I don't know you that well, but follow your gut feeling on this one and who knows what will happen when you follow through with everything. The path of life can be very interesting that is for sure. Thank you, I dont know that much at this point. 17 years ago my ex said "She is not yours" and said she was pursuing someone else for the paternity. That was the last I had heard of it. Now all of a sudden I get this.....It's like getting hit with a brick wall....I need a paternity test before anything goes further.... That is the next best step for you Jim. I wish you the best. Remember you can alawys give all of us a chat to vent when you need to and just ignore the monkey in the corner making noise out of their a$$. |
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