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No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 08/19/08 11:47 AM
I have observed that in a given social group, most men want the same few females, & they know that the competition for the "beautiful" women is going to be high, so the insecure men don't try, the think "she's out of my leauge". Instead they "settle" for someone they are not as attracted to & are forever dissatisfied with what they have, always hoping to "upgrade". They often whine that woman don't want a "niceguy" but they are referring to the few beautiful women that they are attracted to, not the average women. They don't notice "nice" either. The beautiful women are also very aware of the competion for them, & they don't have to be nice to men. They can hold out for the one that has the confidence to approach them & is willing to accept thier spoiled behavior in order to parade thier trophy around & keep the other men jealous. These beautiful women seem to be looking for upgrades also, the know thier beauty has a value. So to me the question is, do you want a life partner who values you, or do you want to compete forever to catch & hold a trophy? I know a women who attracts that heard of pandering men, who would never consider dating any one of them. She goes to a party with hopes that someone will come along and rescue her from the unwanted attention...but that won't happen as long as the other men think she is unapproachable to them. It's really a shame, she's a lovely person and rarely gets to go out at all because she just wants a regular guy and not some goofball trying to impress her.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 08/19/08 11:48 AM
What snobs...only dating women in their league. I would not play on their league if they begged me to now. harrumph I play in the "special" league, we paly ping pong and wear helmets.... I can play ping pong...really I CAN!

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 08/19/08 11:49 AM
What snobs...only dating women in their league. I would not play on their league if they begged me to now. harrumph I play in the "special" league, we paly ping pong and wear helmets.... I can play ping pong...really I CAN! Getcher helmet, you're on my team....

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Tue 08/19/08 11:49 AM
<---------------- has often gone out with the ones everyone else was afraid to ask!! I am curious, Did this make you even more attractive to other women? Did you notice a difference & how people treated you when you were with this very desirable woman?

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 08/19/08 11:49 AM
What snobs...only dating women in their league. I would not play on their league if they begged me to now. harrumph I play in the "special" league, we paly ping pong and wear helmets.... I can play ping pong...really I CAN! Getcher helmet, you're on my team.... <~~~ has helmet, will travel.

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Tue 08/19/08 11:52 AM
I have observed that in a given social group, most men want the same few females, & they know that the competition for the "beautiful" women is going to be high, so the insecure men don't try, the think "she's out of my leauge". Instead they "settle" for someone they are not as attracted to & are forever dissatisfied with what they have, always hoping to "upgrade". They often whine that woman don't want a "niceguy" but they are referring to the few beautiful women that they are attracted to, not the average women. They don't notice "nice" either. The beautiful women are also very aware of the competion for them, & they don't have to be nice to men. They can hold out for the one that has the confidence to approach them & is willing to accept thier spoiled behavior in order to parade thier trophy around & keep the other men jealous. These beautiful women seem to be looking for upgrades also, the know thier beauty has a value. So to me the question is, do you want a life partner who values you, or do you want to compete forever to catch & hold a trophy? So, if a woman is considered beautiful, then she is beyond the reach of most men, not nice, and always looking to upgrade? Yes I think so,IN MOST CASES because these women have so many options & been given a sense of entitlement. I think the same is true for the most desired men. I have always been considered beautiful, have been told all my life that I am, I have some beautiful friends as well. NONE of my friends are like that and I have never thought of myself as 'entitled'. I think I have just been insulted. Notice I wrote "IN MOST CASES" If you are insulted it's because you choose to be. I do not know you personally & was not making personal statements about you.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 08/19/08 11:54 AM Edited by CleanBathroom on Tue 08/19/08 11:55 AM
I have some simple rules. 1) If you are hot, I will talk to you. 2) If you are smart, I will talk with you. 3) If you are both, I will hold your books on the way to class. 4) If you are neither, I will answer you if you speak first. This is just because you may know someone who falls under rules 1, 2 or 3 .... and because I'm not really an ass, I just play one on the interweb.

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Tue 08/19/08 11:57 AM
I have observed that in a given social group, most men want the same few females, & they know that the competition for the "beautiful" women is going to be high, so the insecure men don't try, the think "she's out of my leauge". Instead they "settle" for someone they are not as attracted to & are forever dissatisfied with what they have, always hoping to "upgrade". They often whine that woman don't want a "niceguy" but they are referring to the few beautiful women that they are attracted to, not the average women. They don't notice "nice" either. The beautiful women are also very aware of the competion for them, & they don't have to be nice to men. They can hold out for the one that has the confidence to approach them & is willing to accept thier spoiled behavior in order to parade thier trophy around & keep the other men jealous. These beautiful women seem to be looking for upgrades also, the know thier beauty has a value. So to me the question is, do you want a life partner who values you, or do you want to compete forever to catch & hold a trophy? I know a women who attracts that heard of pandering men, who would never consider dating any one of them. She goes to a party with hopes that someone will come along and rescue her from the unwanted attention...but that won't happen as long as the other men think she is unapproachable to them. It's really a shame, she's a lovely person and rarely gets to go out at all because she just wants a regular guy and not some goofball trying to impress her. Good for her, she sounds like a special lady.

Mrtap Joined Thu 03/27/08 Posts: 1737	Tue 08/19/08 12:03 PM
Still waitng to find out the time Ya have to swing for the fences, but also look at the bunt it might be the better play.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Tue 08/19/08 12:05 PM
I don't know what that means...my "friends" say that to me on occasion...and i end up dating them or having a ltr with themn....so ....I don't buy into that saying think that a woman is out of their league by how she looks?

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 08/19/08 12:05 PM Edited by lilith401 on Tue 08/19/08 12:05 PM
Out of my league, huh? I don't bowl, they play in leagues, right? I do enjoy bowling, I'm just frightfully bad at it. There are levels of taste in all arenas. For example, I've dated two blonde men in my life.... no three. I am currently dating one, (third). Always used to go for the dark haired, dark eyes. Not sure why....Never would I throw that sort of thing in a league, but men do it all the time, "stacked hot blonde, so out of my league". Really, what that means is you assume the other person's response based on your perceived (or real) inferiority. This is way more a class issue, folks.

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Tue 08/19/08 12:08 PM
Still waitng to find out the time Ya have to swing for the fences, but also look at the bunt it might be the better play. My head is swimming with baseball analogies. I have to leave for work, have a nice afternoon everyone!

Mrtap Joined Thu 03/27/08 Posts: 1737	Tue 08/19/08 12:09 PM
Hi lilith back at it again.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Tue 08/19/08 12:11 PM
Out of my league, huh? I don't bowl, they play in leagues, right? I do enjoy bowling, I'm just frightfully bad at it. There are levels of taste in all arenas. For example, I've dated two blonde men in my life.... no three. I am currently dating one, (third). Always used to go for the dark haired, dark eyes. Not sure why....Never would I throw that sort of thing in a league, but men do it all the time, "stacked hot blonde, so out of my league". Really, what that means is you assume the other person's response based on your perceived (or real) inferiority. This is way more a class issue, folks. I have no class. Wanna' eat a waffle cone with me lilith?

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 08/19/08 12:11 PM
Hi lilith back at it again. I'm such a rebel, huh? Darn my honesty and forthright outpouring of opinions! LMFAO!!!

Mrtap Joined Thu 03/27/08 Posts: 1737	Tue 08/19/08 12:20 PM
Hi lilith back at it again. I'm such a rebel, huh? Darn my honesty and forthright outpouring of opinions! LMFAO!!! Just keep it up. I enjoy it I'll just try to stay out of your way

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 08/19/08 12:22 PM
I have no class. Wanna' eat a waffle cone with me lilith? Perfect..... CB I love waffle cones. Chocolate peanut butter cup for me!

Wonderbread Joined Wed 12/13/06 Posts: 5587	Tue 08/19/08 12:24 PM
think that a woman is out of their league by how she looks? Because Generally men know themselves better than ANY woman can. We know how we are, what we're interested in, and what we don't like. honestly when i look at a woman and say shes out of my league, its because I can pretty much read a person just by the way they act over a course of five minutes. We know which ones will give us the time of day, and which ones won't. which ones will give you the time of the day? No girls give me the time of day. Thats why i don't pursue women. They pursue me.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 08/19/08 12:26 PM
I have observed that in a given social group, most men want the same few females, & they know that the competition for the "beautiful" women is going to be high, so the insecure men don't try, the think "she's out of my leauge". Instead they "settle" for someone they are not as attracted to & are forever dissatisfied with what they have, always hoping to "upgrade". They often whine that woman don't want a "niceguy" but they are referring to the few beautiful women that they are attracted to, not the average women. They don't notice "nice" either. The beautiful women are also very aware of the competion for them, & they don't have to be nice to men. They can hold out for the one that has the confidence to approach them & is willing to accept thier spoiled behavior in order to parade thier trophy around & keep the other men jealous. These beautiful women seem to be looking for upgrades also, the know thier beauty has a value. So to me the question is, do you want a life partner who values you, or do you want to compete forever to catch & hold a trophy? I know a women who attracts that heard of pandering men, who would never consider dating any one of them. She goes to a party with hopes that someone will come along and rescue her from the unwanted attention...but that won't happen as long as the other men think she is unapproachable to them. It's really a shame, she's a lovely person and rarely gets to go out at all because she just wants a regular guy and not some goofball trying to impress her. Good for her, she sounds like a special lady. Just thought her story makes two points...women, don't condemn every woman with an entourage, and men, don't assume she wants anything to do with the men you think are her "league"...she may be wishing you would approach her and make them all go away.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 08/19/08 12:29 PM
but men do it all the time, "stacked hot blonde, so out of my league". Huh..... now I get it...