but I need some advise from the "shy" guys on here... or the not so shy ones will do also..

I'm overwhelming at times, this should come as no shock... and I'm smitten with a shy guy, who has done and said many things to show he is interested, we are going to a baseball game together tomorrow, and Chicago on Friday for the weekend, not sure if it's as friends or what... He will never make a move on his own (he's shy, and I'm a bit older than he is) what SUBTLE hint can I give to let him know I'm interested?

We've been out about 2-3 times a week for the last few weeks, and went camping (with our "crew") last weekend. We stay up til 6am usually and talk.....

Any help??????

Hold his hand... And look right into his eyes. If his pupils are dilated... He totally wants you. Trust me... You then have the go ahead to kiss him. The worse that could happen... Is that he will tell you he's not into you that way. Shy guys never make the first move. They rely on you to do it.

Are you sure he isnt gay? Talking till 6am and he doesnt get a hint?

Maybe give some liqour...lol.

Maybe try and hold his hand or something. I really dont know.

for goodness sake just grab him & lay one on him mid sentence! maybe he'll open up more after that

grab him in the nuts

Speaking as a one who can be considered "shy" at times, I find that making the first move often helps with the date. Instead of waiting for HIM to make the advances (like the hand-holding and other forms of contact), instigate the action.

But do so in a manner that is affectionate and not bossy, like you're a ball-buster or something. That might make him go back in his shell. And don't try to move too fast, either- that's a sure-fire way to make him burn rubber and scram.

Chances are that he'll need a little bit of prodding if he's to step up and make any moves.

Help him with his "big boy" pants!

You might have to be the agressive one...have fun with it...move slow but steady

as a shy guy(in person anyway ) ur probably gona have to be a little forward. hold his hand, lean against him when u sit next to him, put his arm around ur shoulders at the game. little physical clues.

if he still dosn't get it, either just come out and say it or lay a kiss on him that would do cassanova proud...

Some shy guys need a lil encouraging,jus laugh and touch his leg with a light slap,i dont know if he is funny or not...but a leaning in of the head on his shoulder even if he jus says something "sweet" while cusping a hand,will get his attention...and if that dont work.Just wait longer,he may just be a gentleman not looking to tak advantage of u and treat u as others have..but if he is over shy just be patient and let him come around,your attractive and he will respond to u in time.And if its more than a month without his affection of any kind...well sorry but he is denying his sexuality:)

Ask him if you can pet his weiner

There are some things that, when it comes to being shy, it doesn't matter if you are male or female.

A shy person has difficulty stepping outside of the 'safe zone'. He might need a little assistance from you expanding that so he is comfortable.

Try making safe, non-threatening physical contact as often as you both are comfortable with it. Simple touches on his hand, arm, back; brushing up against him instead of walking around without contact; a light kiss (on the cheek or lips) instead of just hello and goodbye. Hugs are always good.


Remember, whatever you do, it should be natural for you or it will end up being awkward for both of you. I hug everyone, so I could do that. If you don't normally hug, that might not be the thing to do.

being a "shy" guy myself. you gotta initiate the moves and possibly the asking out. you cant be subtle either. some guys, such as myself cant take subtle hints. lol.

Sexual innuendo.
"Mmm, he has a good looking bat."
If that doesn't work go for the kill.
"Damn, I'm horny tonight. Oh I'm sorry...*girl laugh* you must think something awful of me."

OK, if he doesn't pick it up from there and you start a dialog you just got cold cocked. If he does keep the convo going.

We do that now, he puts his arm around me when we laugh and stuff, and the last time we were out, we were in the car and he took my hand and kissed it...but it may just be his personality....

hey hey hey hye you!! omg! i miss you!

Or........he may be testing the waters, and now waiting for you to return the favor.

Overwhelming???? Ya think???

He is probably shy, but more than that he is most likely intimidated by you. He is most likely afraid of what your reaction will be if you are not interested.

If you would like things to progress with him you are definitely going to have to make the first move. You never know, he might surprise you after you do.

I don't chase boys, it's so not in my nature to do so, I'm a hugger and such, but to actually move forward, I just don't do that...

Plant a kiss on his lips....that will get his attention....do that a couple of times and tell us about it in the morning.........If you can stop smiling