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sandradee1961
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Mon 08/18/08 10:27 PM
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There are some things that, when it comes to being shy, it doesn't matter if you are male or female. A shy person has difficulty stepping outside of the 'safe zone'. He might need a little assistance from you expanding that so he is comfortable. Try making safe, non-threatening physical contact as often as you both are comfortable with it. Simple touches on his hand, arm, back; brushing up against him instead of walking around without contact; a light kiss (on the cheek or lips) instead of just hello and goodbye. Hugs are always good. We do that now, he puts his arm around me when we laugh and stuff, and the last time we were out, we were in the car and he took my hand and kissed it...but it may just be his personality.... Or........he may be testing the waters, and now waiting for you to return the favor. I don't chase boys, it's so not in my nature to do so, I'm a hugger and such, but to actually move forward, I just don't do that... Sweetie, there's an old song I remember singing a VERY long time ago - you know, back in the olden days. "A man chases a girl until she catches him." So, go catch him, girl! |
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There are some things that, when it comes to being shy, it doesn't matter if you are male or female. A shy person has difficulty stepping outside of the 'safe zone'. He might need a little assistance from you expanding that so he is comfortable. Try making safe, non-threatening physical contact as often as you both are comfortable with it. Simple touches on his hand, arm, back; brushing up against him instead of walking around without contact; a light kiss (on the cheek or lips) instead of just hello and goodbye. Hugs are always good. We do that now, he puts his arm around me when we laugh and stuff, and the last time we were out, we were in the car and he took my hand and kissed it...but it may just be his personality.... Or........he may be testing the waters, and now waiting for you to return the favor. I don't chase boys, it's so not in my nature to do so, I'm a hugger and such, but to actually move forward, I just don't do that... Oh, then how do you plan to get him to kiss you?..... |
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Oh, then how do you plan to get him to kiss you?..... DUH, that's why I'm asking you guys.... 
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Sometimes...if you really want something, you must chase it a little...from what you've said...he might be worth bending the rules???
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Sometimes...if you really want something, you must chase it a little...from what you've said...he might be worth bending the rules??? I hate it when all of a sudden you make sense....
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Is it chasing if he has indicated interest?
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Is it chasing if he has indicated interest? I don't know if he has... |
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Sometimes...if you really want something, you must chase it a little...from what you've said...he might be worth bending the rules??? I hate it when all of a sudden you make sense.... Yes...I know how you don't like that but...he does seem worth it...good luck "Queen of the damned" |
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Is it chasing if he has indicated interest? I don't know if he has... I think all of the time you are spending together shows interest. |
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Is it chasing if he has indicated interest? I don't know if he has... Does he normally kiss your hand? |
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but I need some advise from the "shy" guys on here... or the not so shy ones will do also.. I'm overwhelming at times,  this should come as no shock... and I'm smitten with a shy guy, who has done and said many things to show he is interested, we are going to a baseball game together tomorrow, and Chicago on Friday for the weekend, not sure if it's as friends or what... He will never make a move on his own (he's shy, and I'm a bit older than he is) what SUBTLE hint can I give to let him know I'm interested? We've been out about 2-3 times a week for the last few weeks, and went camping (with our "crew") last weekend. We stay up til 6am usually and talk..... Any help??????  hey hey hey hye you!! omg! i miss you! 
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well, my advice would be...
go shopping buy a knockout outfit, go to your fav local stylist to get a new cut. go to walmart, for makeup and beauty supplies. have a manicure and pedicure done. spray some body spray all over you. (maybe the kind that glitters) cocunut spray is a HUGE turn on!! also, dont forget to brush your teeth, floss, and put on some lipgloss. these steps, taken one at at ime or all together, are sure to blow any guys mind. let me know if it works!! 
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There are some things that, when it comes to being shy, it doesn't matter if you are male or female. A shy person has difficulty stepping outside of the 'safe zone'. He might need a little assistance from you expanding that so he is comfortable. Try making safe, non-threatening physical contact as often as you both are comfortable with it. Simple touches on his hand, arm, back; brushing up against him instead of walking around without contact; a light kiss (on the cheek or lips) instead of just hello and goodbye. Hugs are always good. We do that now, he puts his arm around me when we laugh and stuff, and the last time we were out, we were in the car and he took my hand and kissed it...but it may just be his personality.... Or........he may be testing the waters, and now waiting for you to return the favor. I don't chase boys, it's so not in my nature to do so, I'm a hugger and such, but to actually move forward, I just don't do that... Lily, if you think this guy would be worth it ( and by the post you wrote, you DO ) then you may just have to change your ways a little bit. From what you have said about the things he does, then I think he really IS interested, but is trying to be " gentlemanly ". Not saying you should be " aggressive "...but you may have to chase, just a little, this time. |
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HE SOUNDS GAY!!!
  
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HE SOUNDS GAY!!! A gay blind virgin. 
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hahaaaaaaaaaa try this..........wear a short mini skirt and no panties and bend over in front of him......see what happens!!!
 Ohhhhhhhhh crap!!! Muriel is out of her cage again!!! She's terrible!!!
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hahaaaaaaaaaa try this..........wear a short mini skirt and no panties and bend over in front of him......see what happens!!! Ohhhhhhhhh crap!!! Muriel is out of her cage again!!! She's terrible!!!
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hahaaaaaaaaaa try this..........wear a short mini skirt and no panties and bend over in front of him......see what happens!!! Ohhhhhhhhh crap!!! Muriel is out of her cage again!!! She's terrible!!! At a baseball game with the Jumbotron... oh my ass won't look good that way AT ALL.... |
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You don't have to be aggressive. Responsive can be just as effective. Respond to the things he does. Examples:
If he takes you hand lean close to him and 'put your heart in your eyes'. If you're walking maintain as much body contact as possible. Put your head on his shoulder if you can. If he kisses your hand lean close, look in his eyes and start forward as if to kiss him. The more he responds to that the more you should respond. Keep getting closer and "offer" him your lips (as the old authors used to say). Keep eye contact whenever possible. Be attentive when he talks. And be 'subtly excited' if he makes any advances. Best I can do on short notice. Just trying to think of things that would work on me. Good luck, girl. If things don't pan out with him you can practice your tactics on me. 
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