Topic: 1st Email
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Sun 08/03/08 09:35 PM








i'm all for itdrinker


If you have seen someone in the forums, maybe responed to her posts wouldn't you e mail her 1st if you were interested?
yes i would, but i hope that a woman would do the same for me


Thanks for your responses.flowerforyou
I was raised not to make that 1st move, of course this kind of technology was only on Startrek! I have transfered those "rules" my mom taught me here & I am not comfortable e mailing 1st. I have droped stronmg hints at times & I assume a guy would e mail me 1st if he were interested.


I agree with you flowerforyou


TY Jules.:smile: But I wonder if we are too old fashioned? it's hard for me to change this feeling that I have to wait to be approached. Last time I dropped a hint the guy did e mail me, he was a being a gentleman though, & not really interested so I felt "bad".


I don't know, maybe we are? But then again, I believe some things should stay the same.. men should make the first move. They can tell by our posts/hints..if we're interested, I thinkhappy


Some of us ( or maybe just me ) have never been good at picking up " hints " and " signals ".


<<<<<knocks that doll off Guy's shoulder with a brick

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Sun 08/03/08 09:37 PM
As to the answer to the original question....

If she makes the first move, good for her.

I don't cruise profiles, so I rarely email someone first.

I have made a couple of exceptions, but it wasn't out of " interest " in them. Well..it was...but at the same time...it wasn't.

I guess I just got very tired of emailing women only to see " Sorry, you just aren't very attractive/not ...my type..." etc etc etc. I've had enough of that to last me for a while.

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Sun 08/03/08 09:37 PM

I can honestly say I have only sent out a handful of emails first in my year here....

and I have NO regrets :heart: they are either good friends of mine now... or the one that fills my heart :heart:


Hi LightVoice thanks for posting.flowerforyou

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Sun 08/03/08 09:38 PM









i'm all for itdrinker


If you have seen someone in the forums, maybe responed to her posts wouldn't you e mail her 1st if you were interested?
yes i would, but i hope that a woman would do the same for me


Thanks for your responses.flowerforyou
I was raised not to make that 1st move, of course this kind of technology was only on Startrek! I have transfered those "rules" my mom taught me here & I am not comfortable e mailing 1st. I have droped stronmg hints at times & I assume a guy would e mail me 1st if he were interested.


I agree with you flowerforyou


TY Jules.:smile: But I wonder if we are too old fashioned? it's hard for me to change this feeling that I have to wait to be approached. Last time I dropped a hint the guy did e mail me, he was a being a gentleman though, & not really interested so I felt "bad".


I don't know, maybe we are? But then again, I believe some things should stay the same.. men should make the first move. They can tell by our posts/hints..if we're interested, I thinkhappy


Some of us ( or maybe just me ) have never been good at picking up " hints " and " signals ".


<<<<<knocks that doll off Guy's shoulder with a brick


I ain't even kidding. A woman would basically have to club me over the head and drag me back home for me to pick up a " hint ". LMAO

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Sun 08/03/08 09:38 PM

As to the answer to the original question....

If she makes the first move, good for her.

I don't cruise profiles, so I rarely email someone first.

I have made a couple of exceptions, but it wasn't out of " interest " in them. Well..it was...but at the same time...it wasn't.

I guess I just got very tired of emailing women only to see " Sorry, you just aren't very attractive/not ...my type..." etc etc etc. I've had enough of that to last me for a while.


huh

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Sun 08/03/08 09:42 PM


As to the answer to the original question....

If she makes the first move, good for her.

I don't cruise profiles, so I rarely email someone first.

I have made a couple of exceptions, but it wasn't out of " interest " in them. Well..it was...but at the same time...it wasn't.

I guess I just got very tired of emailing women only to see " Sorry, you just aren't very attractive/not ...my type..." etc etc etc. I've had enough of that to last me for a while.


huh


Well..it kinda happens after a while. A fella can only take so much.

Besides, it takes me a while to stop thinking it may be some kind of cruel joke. I have been the target of the " Find the ugliest guy and make him feel good for a few minutes " game too.

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Sun 08/03/08 09:42 PM
I did it. He laughed at me.:cry:

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Sun 08/03/08 09:43 PM



As to the answer to the original question....

If she makes the first move, good for her.

I don't cruise profiles, so I rarely email someone first.

I have made a couple of exceptions, but it wasn't out of " interest " in them. Well..it was...but at the same time...it wasn't.

I guess I just got very tired of emailing women only to see " Sorry, you just aren't very attractive/not ...my type..." etc etc etc. I've had enough of that to last me for a while.


huh


Well..it kinda happens after a while. A fella can only take so much.

Besides, it takes me a while to stop thinking it may be some kind of cruel joke. I have been the target of the " Find the ugliest guy and make him feel good for a few minutes " game too.

noway :angry:

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Sun 08/03/08 09:43 PM
My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh

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Sun 08/03/08 09:45 PM

My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


I am glad that worked out for you! flowerforyou Weren't you a bit afraid of what he might want to show you?

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Sun 08/03/08 09:46 PM

smokin I would have to be hit off the head with a brick to get a hint or signal from a womansmokin

Dude,

Its the same way for me too.

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Sun 08/03/08 09:48 PM


My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


I am glad that worked out for you! flowerforyou Weren't you a bit afraid of what he might want to show you?


It did cross my mind that it might be some xrated picture or something laugh But it was poems, and photography etc. flowerforyou

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Sun 08/03/08 09:50 PM



My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


I am glad that worked out for you! flowerforyou Weren't you a bit afraid of what he might want to show you?


It did cross my mind that it might be some xrated picture or something laugh But it was poems, and photography etc. flowerforyou


Sweet!happy

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Sun 08/03/08 09:53 PM

I did it. He laughed at me.:cry:


That would go back the the " joke ? " thing I just mentioned.flowerforyou

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Sun 08/03/08 09:55 PM

My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


Ummm..I don't have a personal website, but I am one of the admins on a site for a team I started.

Unfortunately, many women think I am just too " out there " because of the stuff on the site.

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Sun 08/03/08 09:59 PM


My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


Ummm..I don't have a personal website, but I am one of the admins on a site for a team I started.

Unfortunately, many women think I am just too " out there " because of the stuff on the site.


Link?

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Sun 08/03/08 10:15 PM



My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


Ummm..I don't have a personal website, but I am one of the admins on a site for a team I started.

Unfortunately, many women think I am just too " out there " because of the stuff on the site.


Link?


I will email it to you. I'm not sure what they consider " avertising " around here. There is nothing commercial on my site, but I don't want to give the mods any problems either. :-)

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Sun 08/03/08 10:15 PM




My guy started with a first email that said "Come with me to my website, I want to show you something". So I went and we chatted there. Few nights after that he asked for my phone#. So guys...make a website. laugh laugh laugh


Ummm..I don't have a personal website, but I am one of the admins on a site for a team I started.

Unfortunately, many women think I am just too " out there " because of the stuff on the site.


Link?


I will email it to you. I'm not sure what they consider " avertising " around here. There is nothing commercial on my site, but I don't want to give the mods any problems either. :-)


TY good thought.

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Mon 08/04/08 08:45 AM
PLEASE!!!!:banana: love

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Mon 08/04/08 12:11 PM


smokin I would have to be hit off the head with a brick to get a hint or signal from a womansmokin

Dude,

Its the same way for me too.


Guys....it's the same for some women too. I don't get subtle...I don't pick up on hints I need to be hit with a brick...

Hen, I'm so sorry he laughed at you after you sent your email...that's so mean!