Walk away?

I disagree, people who cheat are selfish and do not respect the feelings of the person they're with. They "want to have their cake and eat it too".

People who don't cheat, have respect for their partner, and aren't so selfish to have an affair. If you're tempted, you're with the wrong person, it's time to end the relationship.

figure out what's so tempting about it. Is it really worth the self guilt after you do it? watch out for the ripple affect....it could end up affecting more than just the two having the affair

I don't see much temptation in hurting someone you love actually. I must be a slow learner, cause I just can't catch on.

It is not that simple.
I wish it was... It would've made my life so much simpler.

"Cheaters are evil people." That is not true.
The Cheating is an effect of a relationship that either one or both is not getting their NEEDs met.

100% of the women look at cheating as a very very bad thing. And yet, 40% (or more) of the women cheat.

No one is perfect. We are all tempted from the Pastors to the devoted housewife. They are not bad people. They made a bad choice. However, this bad choice has a slippery slope attached to it with a huge consequences.

When someone cheats on you, they are not thinking about the consequence or whom they are hurting. Yes, it is wrong what they did, but in order for anyone of us who has been cheated on to heal and move on... You must Forgive and understand. If this doesn't happen the baggage and hate will continue to the next relationship.

Why, thank you.

I agree; my ex husband cheated on me; and he wound up marrying the woman. At first I was hurt but my rational mind tells me that she is better for him than I am anyway. He and I were truly a mismatch. She did me a favor and I have no hard feelings.

So it's off between you and I?

I've never been tempted to have an affair...never. When I love, I love beyond all reason, and no one who could tempt me to betray it. When I love, there is no room in my heart for another.

You would think guys would keep their d*cks in their pants to avoid temptation, and thus avoid cheating...especially when they get screwed over in court at the divorce hearing. Pre-Nups people.

Anywho, you avoid a potential affair by avoiding the lure of getting too close to someone. Being friends (with the opposite sex) is one thing. Crossing that line is another. You know the game you are playing, and what will happen if you cross that line. It's like when you were a child and your momma told you not to touch the oven (when it's on) because it was hot. You knew it was, but for some damn reason curiosity gets the best of you, so one day.....BAM...you touch it, get burnt, cry for momma, and you look like a jackass. Point here...avoid looking like a jackass.

Although, I only came to live in the U.S when I was only 7 years old. My paranoid parents had instill me alot of age old wisdoms.

One of them is not to have friends of the opposite sex when you are married. Particularly impossible in today's American society.

"Crossing that line"... is what the DVD series "Love, Sex & Long Lasting Relationship" by Chip Ingram refers to as the "Edge" followed by the "Slippery Slope". (Christian based material, I did it with my Home Group a year before my wife cheated on me). So the info/class doesn't prevent cheaters. But I understand it a little easier, because the shoe can be on the other foot. You the self-righteous, could be the cheater. Anyone can fall. Of course the series who say Satan is behind it all and that if there is any weakness in your marriage, EITHER one of you can be tempted and easily fall.

About the "Line" and the "Edge", Men & Women alike will play with how close they can get to the "Edge" without falling. It is the temptation, the EXCITEMENT, the unpredictability... vs the everyday drudgery the normal, the predictable Movie night.

Once the "Line" is crossed (it is really an Edge), by having SEX. It is almost next to impossible to recover, unless if you one of those Stone cold unfeeling, unemotional Cold Prickly type of person. According to the series, "Sex is designed as an enhancement to your marriage." (paraphrased). Having Sex will tie you emotionally... all reasoning power is out the door. There is no logical thinking. It is similar to a coke addict that got his/her first hit of endorph in the brain. Sex also triggers endorph production in the brain, same as Video game addiction. You will lie, cheat, steal to continue to get the same exciting feeling. Tony Robbins, "One of our motaviation is We are driven for Feeling Good."

uhhh... I am trying to describe the slippery slope. How there is really no way of recovering once you do slip.

This reminds me of a joke.

Farmer comes home and see wife in bed.
She slaps him.
Farmer says "What was that for?"
Wife says "That is for 30 years of bad sex."
Farmer rub his cheeks and thinks for a moment."
Farmer slaps wife.
Wife says "What was that for?"
Farmer says "That is for knowing the difference."



Crossing the line can tell you whether you are having bad sex or good sex.

no human creates their own perception, or perspective, or what they can see and not see............

each being is trapped by a body and mind that can only see what their own life, or discovery has seen and felt, with only the logic at any second to see how onself is, which is EVER changing........

how then can the perception of another be as wrong?

two percpetions BOTH as correct lead most to ever quicker increased perception.............

if each being is on a journey to increase perception GRADUALLY, and at ALL DIFFERENT TIMES for all people around any one being, purposed intentionally, creating opposite perception, or opposition with many beings met, AND agreement with many beings met, is seen as no opposition, then which one will the "nature of a being" be to flow or go MOST toward..........

if each have a purpose, and since the beings met with agreement are the only always at first in life that are welcomed, the ones with different or what seems as opposing views are the ones that in the end hold the keys to the completion of ones destiny, or bring peace, or perception LARGE ENOUGH to see none as evil or bad, and rather see the purpose, as who can be happy walking down the road on a good beautiful day and it be interupted by a hooligan commiting some offensive act, unless the good things the hooligan is learning is FELT, and if one sees not any point of reference for this action within themself, then it is deemed to be offensive, lol........

if one say or think another be less smart, more wicked, more ignorant, because they themself have never expereinced such feelings or actions in their own life, then which be the smartest?

truly the mind might say another be as stupid, but then what is stupid, as it is subject to interpretation, that any can see they have been included within, many times and with many decisions, so the mind has whispered an observation only, not wisdom, for wisdom look again, and see more, then if still gets a bad feeling or onself better feeling, then look again, and again, until wisdom come forth from the heart, and see things that give peace, as the GRESTEST PEACE IS WHEN LOOKING AT ANYTHING AND NOT SEEING ONSELF AS BETTER.......peace

perception is increased as it is FELT in decade's first, year, month, day, hour, minute, and then, in the end, in seconds..............

This is all I read.... because it's fully and totally UNTRUE.

HAHA!!! True Love will always come thru.

If you are religious, it would be easy to convince you... Satan is ruthless and powerful. Being with the right person, we can not prevent Temptation. Being Tempted is not a Sin... Falling into it is (Please correct me if I am wrong... I am usually half asleep trying to understand what the Pastor say).

It is easier not to fall into temptation when you are with the right person. But there are no guarantees. The right Person, but bad situation.. he just lost his job... Trouble with the kids... Everyday problems to deal with... Than the Right Person comes in and happy and energy tempts you.

My point is ANYONE in ANY situation can FALL into Temptation. Don't let your guard down and be surprised one day. (Like I did or my Best Friend or Neighbor... heck I have enough dirt to write Book 2 on Peyton Place).
If a Pastor can fall, a Rich man can fall... anyone can fall too. There are no exceptions. How about because he/she cheated on me... now I can cheat him/her back?

Ask yourself "how come I'm tempted?"

Its very damn hard.............it all depends on who you are with..........

I can prove why it is not true...

I can quote Bible, Buddha, or Mohammad... I'll just paraphrase all three...

What you dwell on is what you perceive.

Example: You like The new VW Beetle and you drive around down and that's all you see and soon you will think that alot of people drives VW Beetle.

What you focus on is what you will see... Brian Tracey and Tony Robbins said the same thing.

Ohh... forgot... in the book "The Secret" same thing.
As a matter of fact, you are told to Pre Conceive in your own mind in order to attract the thing or state that you seek.

Dude... I read it... but it reads like a legal contract.
Do like the Bible and tell a story.