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I have found alot of guys to be the same. I want to know, why do I get asked why my marriage ended?
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I have found alot of guys to be the same. I want to know, why do I get asked why my marriage ended? I'd assume divorce...but that would be just an assumption. |
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I have found alot of guys to be the same. I want to know, why do I get asked why my marriage ended? I'd assume divorce...but that would be just an assumption. No he just kinda "disappered". LOL! |
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A fair and true statement, I guess maybe I shouldn't have made it gender specific but I get told I'm honest to the point of being brutal! When someone asks me a question in private, I answer. I didn't really mean to put a sex overtone on the conversation, but I guess thats how it came out though. I was sort of shooting for general but now that you mention it, thats usually what a new parter goes fishing for man or woman. Okay, rephrase! Are you totally honest with your partner about who you are and where you've been when you enter into a new relationship? Hows that? To answer your question, no I don't spill all my secrets, especially sexual, to every guy I date. My sexual and romantic past is none of their business, except so far as to say I don't have and never have had an std. But, to be fair, I don't ask questions about their sexual/romantic past either. Why, because it's in the past where it belongs. But, I have a question for you. Why do you assume that all the women are lying? Maybe, there really isn't anything to tell? |
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I have found alot of guys to be the same. I want to know, why do I get asked why my marriage ended? I'd assume divorce...but that would be just an assumption. No he just kinda "disappered". LOL! Hence why we ask...don't want to get "disappeared" confused with "mutual seperation" or "divorce". 
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A fair and true statement, I guess maybe I shouldn't have made it gender specific but I get told I'm honest to the point of being brutal! When someone asks me a question in private, I answer. I didn't really mean to put a sex overtone on the conversation, but I guess thats how it came out though. I was sort of shooting for general but now that you mention it, thats usually what a new parter goes fishing for man or woman. Okay, rephrase! Are you totally honest with your partner about who you are and where you've been when you enter into a new relationship? Hows that? To answer your question, no I don't spill all my secrets, especially sexual, to every guy I date. My sexual and romantic past is none of their business, except so far as to say I don't have and never have had an std. But, to be fair, I don't ask questions about their sexual/romantic past either. Why, because it's in the past where it belongs. But, I have a question for you. Why do you assume that all the women are lying? Maybe, there really isn't anything to tell? Thats an honest question. I don't assume that women are lying, I just think that at times they aren't sharing period! Thats not to say that I think every women I meet is some kind of raging demon mind you LOL! Far from it! Maybe its just how my life played out and I want some kind of permision to maybe not lie about it like you ask but maybe to not talk about it period! sometimes things are painfull and for all those people who love to say get over it, well thats hard to do when there is a new partner always going digging for it don't you think? |
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Your a gem sweet!
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A fair and true statement, I guess maybe I shouldn't have made it gender specific but I get told I'm honest to the point of being brutal! When someone asks me a question in private, I answer. I didn't really mean to put a sex overtone on the conversation, but I guess thats how it came out though. I was sort of shooting for general but now that you mention it, thats usually what a new parter goes fishing for man or woman. Okay, rephrase! Are you totally honest with your partner about who you are and where you've been when you enter into a new relationship? Hows that? Fair answer, thank you. I think it just takes being honest enough to say out loud to whomever exactly what you just said. Anyone who doesn't accept your answer to their questions probably isn't the right one for you. Thing is, when a person truly respects and accepts you, these conversations will probably come about naturally, from both parties. It won't seem like an inquisition. If it does, run 
To answer your question, no I don't spill all my secrets, especially sexual, to every guy I date. My sexual and romantic past is none of their business, except so far as to say I don't have and never have had an std. But, to be fair, I don't ask questions about their sexual/romantic past either. Why, because it's in the past where it belongs. But, I have a question for you. Why do you assume that all the women are lying? Maybe, there really isn't anything to tell? Thats an honest question. I don't assume that women are lying, I just think that at times they aren't sharing period! Thats not to say that I think every women I meet is some kind of raging demon mind you LOL! Far from it! Maybe its just how my life played out and I want some kind of permision to maybe not lie about it like you ask but maybe to not talk about it period! sometimes things are painfull and for all those people who love to say get over it, well thats hard to do when there is a new partner always going digging for it don't you think? |
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Okay so out with it then! I guess i wasn't really asking women why they don't spill their secrets, I was sort of using inuendo to ask if it was okay to withold some of mine! One person came to the table with specifics so I will too I guess. Violence is in my past and I had to bid farewell to a higher than average amount of people due to various reasons. One of which was a woman I loved a great deal who was murdered and the rest your run of the mill OD, suicide, car accident that kind of thing. I don't like speaking of Tiffany but I'm torn between honesty and lying. Is it lying to not want to talk about murder and death? I don't know but I guess I would like some kind of reason to leave it behind and not talk about it with new partners. Is that wrong?
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I beleive the best way to handle questions about past relationships, is to simply state that it is not a part of the present.
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I beleive the best way to handle questions about past relationships, is to simply state that it is not a part of the present. That sounds like a great idea sweet but given my nature like I was saying earlier, I'm honest to the point of being brutal and I feel like I'm being a liar and a ****. What is relevant and what can be left behind. As a woman, what types of things do you feel you have a right to know about the men you date? |
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Okay so out with it then! I guess i wasn't really asking women why they don't spill their secrets, I was sort of using inuendo to ask if it was okay to withold some of mine! One person came to the table with specifics so I will too I guess. Violence is in my past and I had to bid farewell to a higher than average amount of people due to various reasons. One of which was a woman I loved a great deal who was murdered and the rest your run of the mill OD, suicide, car accident that kind of thing. I don't like speaking of Tiffany but I'm torn between honesty and lying. Is it lying to not want to talk about murder and death? I don't know but I guess I would like some kind of reason to leave it behind and not talk about it with new partners. Is that wrong? No, it's not wrong, I don't think. Especially in the beginnings of a relationship. However, I think that if a relationship is serious, then yes, you should probably talk about it. Something so traumatic could have great bearing on any future relationship. Just guessing, but I'm thinking it's still something that colors your life in some way. But, as I said earlier, with a good relationship, that conversation will come naturally. And, I'm sorry for your losses, that's a lot of pain.
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Okay so out with it then! I guess i wasn't really asking women why they don't spill their secrets, I was sort of using inuendo to ask if it was okay to withold some of mine! One person came to the table with specifics so I will too I guess. Violence is in my past and I had to bid farewell to a higher than average amount of people due to various reasons. One of which was a woman I loved a great deal who was murdered and the rest your run of the mill OD, suicide, car accident that kind of thing. I don't like speaking of Tiffany but I'm torn between honesty and lying. Is it lying to not want to talk about murder and death? I don't know but I guess I would like some kind of reason to leave it behind and not talk about it with new partners. Is that wrong? I assumed that you were speaking of break-ups and things of that nature. In regard to painful subjects, you have every right to not want to revisit it. Any woman, with compassion, is going to understand that you don't want to talk about it. |
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I beleive the best way to handle questions about past relationships, is to simply state that it is not a part of the present. That sounds like a great idea sweet but given my nature like I was saying earlier, I'm honest to the point of being brutal and I feel like I'm being a liar and a ****. What is relevant and what can be left behind. As a woman, what types of things do you feel you have a right to know about the men you date? Honestly, if it gets to the point os intamacy, I want to know if a man has been tested for STD's. |
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Okay so out with it then! I guess i wasn't really asking women why they don't spill their secrets, I was sort of using inuendo to ask if it was okay to withold some of mine! One person came to the table with specifics so I will too I guess. Violence is in my past and I had to bid farewell to a higher than average amount of people due to various reasons. One of which was a woman I loved a great deal who was murdered and the rest your run of the mill OD, suicide, car accident that kind of thing. I don't like speaking of Tiffany but I'm torn between honesty and lying. Is it lying to not want to talk about murder and death? I don't know but I guess I would like some kind of reason to leave it behind and not talk about it with new partners. Is that wrong? I assumed that you were speaking of break-ups and things of that nature. In regard to painful subjects, you have every right to not want to revisit it. Any woman, with compassion, is going to understand that you don't want to talk about it. secrets take many forms sweet! Which ones can be kept in private without being a **** and which ones are relevant to honesty in dating? I like to think of myself as an honest and good person even if I am a bachelor and a bit of a **** from time to time but some things I would like to leave behind! |
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And if she's not at least that compassionate, you're wasting yer time anyhow.
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Why do women rip through a mans past without mercy and without ever giving up secrets of their own? We never say how we feel you say, well you never open up either! why the double standard where the past is concerned? Because they are nosy 
Ever notice when they are left alone that they will go through every drawer looking for something to attack you with... 
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Why do women rip through a mans past without mercy and without ever giving up secrets of their own? We never say how we feel you say, well you never open up either! why the double standard where the past is concerned? Because they are nosy
Ever notice when they are left alone that they will go through every drawer looking for something to attack you with...
Yup!!! LMAO  There are things that girls just kind of do that we expect and there are things that women do and say that we would be wise to pay attention to!
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Why do women rip through a mans past without mercy and without ever giving up secrets of their own? We never say how we feel you say, well you never open up either! why the double standard where the past is concerned? Because they are nosy
Ever notice when they are left alone that they will go through every drawer looking for something to attack you with...
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ya wanna know how sweet an strong got her name,,,,,well she took her x for a romantic train ride,after a great candlite dinner,,they went back to th cubical to enjoy sex,,,,,,3 minutes later she threw his ass off th train,,,,that how he kinda disipeared
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