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Well, usually, in marriage, you are supposed to work through the unhappiness and be comitted to the idea of marriage even more than the person. It depends on why you are so unhappy, how long you have been, and what you have tried to do to get past it. The whole marriage institution is in shambles anymore; it's sad. But I was in an unhappy marriage tried to work on it for 3 years . But my heart wasn't in it, and my husband didn't put much effort into fixing it, either. It ended and I think it is for the best. Guilt still lingers to this day, though, I think it's part of the deal.

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Ive been in binds where shes taken care of me and has destroyed her credit on me but only to try to buy my love shes older and im adventourous so she tryed buying my calmness and love so i feel guilt about her credit which every time i try toleave i hear about but that was her decision to do right? the main thing is she is a constant nag she never stops *****ing and i try to do everything to stop it i mean if you got back foot massages flowers all the time would you *****? shes crazy, and if i leave im sur shell chase me down with a taser gun! shes madly in love.

You should not stay out of guilt. How did she have any credit if she dosn't have a job? Are you SURE it was you that ruined her credit? Think about it. She had to LET you borrow in her name & that is stupid & shows she is not credit worthy. Only the two of you know that whole story. If you feel you owe her, then pay her back, & that will help ease her financial situation while she looks for a job, or another sucker, I mean husband.

Your profile says "never married". What's going on here?

If you actually feel guilty I'd say it's because you may still have feeling for the other party and you are unsure of whether you want to stay or leave. Ultimately no one can control your actions but you.

asking same question; poster NOT married according to profile.

I wasnt married when i did my profile months ago

So change it. You were single & looking "months ago" & already married & wanting out? You need to be honest with yourself & others.

Sounds like control, not love.
You need to walk, but if she is making life so easy, guess you know why you stay.

Do what you need to do.

Do it with class, as in manners & takeing control of your own life; supporting yourself.

Just my thoughts.

I see you changed it. Good move.

I agree, you deserve to be happy as well.

We broke up when i got on here before then got back together

money is not a reason to remain nor to end a marriage.

I was in that kind of situation and I finally did leave and now I am single and I should have done it sooner. Did I mention it was a 19 yr relationship as well? Good luck hun.

Bounce like an ounce

Why are you unhappy? Is she not actively participating in the relationship? What attracted you to her in the beginning? Talk to her and try to find that again. If it is 100% over for sure, you can't base your decision to leave on Her actions...

leave