Topic: Internet LDRs are like poker
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Wed 07/09/08 10:52 AM


Quick summary:

I've been talking to this woman since January. We've both said we love each other. We've overcome many obstacles to get to this point. August is our window. She's a teacher and will go back to work shortly thereafter.

We talked about an 8 day stay. She was backing off of that yesterday for silly reasons, but I believe was seeing sense when apparently she had some sort of accident which required 7 stitches. She will not tell me where the stitches are. Like I effing care. I went ahead and purchased the ticket anyway since I've spent more than that on one roll of the dice and began to sense that all of this time she might have been bullsh!tting me. Now I wait


How long ago did you purchase the tickets? I did non-refundable and had to cancel and got full refund but that was very shortly after I purchased them. If you think she is backing out and says so... you can still cancel and get an airline credit.

Wait and talk with her... stop freaking out until you have a reason to do so.

If she says that she doesn't want to meet then you have reason to freak and cancel the tickets.

If she is just concerned about cost for 8 days or where she'll be staying during the time of her visit... we those are valid reasons to be cautious and back off a little.

Breath and relax for now!





Those are not her concerns. Her concerns were excuses not valid reasons.

I'm trying Tanya.... I'm trying distractions too....

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Wed 07/09/08 10:52 AM
Mitch drinker drinker drinker

ya know I got your back bro............let me know where she's at and I will escort her to the planebigsmile

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Wed 07/09/08 10:54 AM




I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.


Nah, she's avoiding talking. I know this for fact.


how, because you 2 havent spoken in 24 hrs?



Because her neighbor texted me. She was drugged up after the accident and is "mad and sad"

And she ain't talking!!

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Wed 07/09/08 10:56 AM

Mitch drinker drinker drinker

ya know I got your back bro............let me know where she's at and I will escort her to the planebigsmile


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She's either home or at her neighbor's house...

Thanks Chuck.drinker drinker drinker

You know of whom I speak.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:56 AM
Mitch, could be she's just getting nervous, which is of course a little silly but still, happens. Maybe she's trying to give you an out if you want to change your mind. But just because she's giving excuses, doesn't mean she doesn't want to meet, just could be she's scared. If that's all it is, she'll be fine soon enough flowerforyou

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Wed 07/09/08 10:57 AM





I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.


Nah, she's avoiding talking. I know this for fact.


how, because you 2 havent spoken in 24 hrs?



Because her neighbor texted me. She was drugged up after the accident and is "mad and sad"

And she ain't talking!!


Give her time she'll come around, at her pace, not yours.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:58 AM






I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.


Nah, she's avoiding talking. I know this for fact.


how, because you 2 havent spoken in 24 hrs?



Because her neighbor texted me. She was drugged up after the accident and is "mad and sad"

And she ain't talking!!


Give her time she'll come around, at her pace, not yours.



This is true. But meanwhile my insides churn...

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Wed 07/09/08 10:59 AM
And how much more time does she need?

Fran~ I think Waterloo has bent over backwards to be accomodating and he has compromised. It seems that has not been reciprocated.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:59 AM

Mitch, could be she's just getting nervous, which is of course a little silly but still, happens. Maybe she's trying to give you an out if you want to change your mind. But just because she's giving excuses, doesn't mean she doesn't want to meet, just could be she's scared. If that's all it is, she'll be fine soon enough flowerforyou







Thanks Suz. I hope you are right.

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Wed 07/09/08 11:00 AM
:laughing: sounds to me like indigestion :laughing:

focus on something else for a bit just find something positive flowerforyou

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Wed 07/09/08 11:03 AM

:laughing: sounds to me like indigestion :laughing:

focus on something else for a bit just find something positive flowerforyou



I shot a 33 today on the par 30 golf course at my condo and even that didn't distract me!!!!! I'm going out with some idiot friends tonight. Maybe that'll work

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Wed 07/09/08 11:04 AM
drinker drinker drinker Here's a few cold ones brodrinker drinker drinker

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Wed 07/09/08 11:05 AM
hip hip
hurrahhhhhh

drinks

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Wed 07/09/08 11:08 AM
Just promise me if this does not work out that one of you will shoot me.

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Wed 07/09/08 11:10 AM

Just promise me if this does not work out that one of you will shoot me.

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i would.. but they confiscated my gun at the last raid!! hehe
j/k
flowerforyou

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Wed 07/09/08 11:10 AM
drinker drinker drinker

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Wed 07/09/08 11:10 AM
How about whip you with a limp noodle? :banana: :banana:

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Wed 07/09/08 11:12 AM

How about whip you with a limp noodle? :banana: :banana:




noway noway noway noway


Not liking the visual I'm getting now

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Wed 07/09/08 11:13 AM
Edited by lilith401 on Wed 07/09/08 11:13 AM
Ha, that was what my mom used to always say to me when I was a kid and in trouble....

Okay minor trouble. If she was really peeved she'd ask me if I wanted to go to foster care.

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Wed 07/09/08 11:15 AM

Ha, that was what my mom used to always say to me when I was a kid and in trouble....

Okay minor trouble. If she was really peeved she'd ask me if I wanted to go to foster care.



You got in trouble as a child???? I'm not sure that I believe that. I'm going to need details...

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