Topic: Internet LDRs are like poker
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Wed 07/09/08 10:30 AM





WOW!


uh, I would say if you have an inclination that she's bluffing, fold. Cause either she is or you are the one with the doubts.




Ticket's bought. Chips are on the table. The time for folding has passed


It the tickets are bought, why not go for it?

Are you possibly getting cold feet?flowerforyou



Ticket was bought for her.
you can cancel the ticket.....



Non-refundable. Refundable tickets are three times the price

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Wed 07/09/08 10:31 AM
I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...

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Wed 07/09/08 10:32 AM

I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:32 AM
Maybe she's afraid that you won't like her once you have met her. That's a tough one to swallow after you have been talking so long.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:32 AM
Hiya hon..... did she say she was not coming or what? 24 hours isn't long.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:33 AM






WOW!


uh, I would say if you have an inclination that she's bluffing, fold. Cause either she is or you are the one with the doubts.




Ticket's bought. Chips are on the table. The time for folding has passed


It the tickets are bought, why not go for it?

Are you possibly getting cold feet?flowerforyou



Ticket was bought for her.
you can cancel the ticket.....



Non-refundable. Refundable tickets are three times the price


do you want to meet this person water? even if it ends up as a beautiful friendship, a love affair, a forever relationship, I say what do you have to lose? go with an open mind

good luck 2 ya



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Wed 07/09/08 10:41 AM
Quick summary:

I've been talking to this woman since January. We've both said we love each other. We've overcome many obstacles to get to this point. August is our window. She's a teacher and will go back to work shortly thereafter.

We talked about an 8 day stay. She was backing off of that yesterday for silly reasons, but I believe was seeing sense when apparently she had some sort of accident which required 7 stitches. She will not tell me where the stitches are. Like I effing care. I went ahead and purchased the ticket anyway since I've spent more than that on one roll of the dice and began to sense that all of this time she might have been bullsh!tting me. Now I wait

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Wed 07/09/08 10:43 AM

Quick summary:

I've been talking to this woman since January. We've both said we love each other. We've overcome many obstacles to get to this point. August is our window. She's a teacher and will go back to work shortly thereafter.

We talked about an 8 day stay. She was backing off of that yesterday for silly reasons, but I believe was seeing sense when apparently she had some sort of accident which required 7 stitches. She will not tell me where the stitches are. Like I effing care. I went ahead and purchased the ticket anyway since I've spent more than that on one roll of the dice and began to sense that all of this time she might have been bullsh!tting me. Now I wait


you both have professed your love for each other while never having met -- now that's romantic!!!

Dont fret nor worry, take things one day at a time.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:43 AM
best wishes waterloodrinker

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Wed 07/09/08 10:45 AM


Quick summary:

I've been talking to this woman since January. We've both said we love each other. We've overcome many obstacles to get to this point. August is our window. She's a teacher and will go back to work shortly thereafter.

We talked about an 8 day stay. She was backing off of that yesterday for silly reasons, but I believe was seeing sense when apparently she had some sort of accident which required 7 stitches. She will not tell me where the stitches are. Like I effing care. I went ahead and purchased the ticket anyway since I've spent more than that on one roll of the dice and began to sense that all of this time she might have been bullsh!tting me. Now I wait


you both have professed your love for each other while never having met -- now that's romantic!!!

Dont fret nor worry, take things one day at a time.




I'm big on communication Fran and it's not this woman's strongest point... Plus, I naturally worry. I think it is the Brooklyn Jew in me....

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Wed 07/09/08 10:46 AM

best wishes waterloodrinker


Thanks sharpdrinker

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Wed 07/09/08 10:47 AM
I truly think that our differences is what brings people together, you may like to communicate she may prefer to listen, both complimenting each other but totally different (follow)

stop worrying and focus on the positive!!!

Good luck sunshine!!!!!!!


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Wed 07/09/08 10:48 AM

Maybe she's afraid that you won't like her once you have met her. That's a tough one to swallow after you have been talking so long.




I'm pretty sure you've nailed it. The thing is, the mental and emotional bond is so strong and we have all these feelings without having met. Isn't it reasonable to assume that the externals don't matter to me??? Btw, she is an inherently attractive woman so it is not the issue anyway...

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Wed 07/09/08 10:49 AM

I truly think that our differences is what brings people together, you may like to communicate she may prefer to listen, both complimenting each other but totally different (follow)

stop worrying and focus on the positive!!!

Good luck sunshine!!!!!!!





flowers Thank youflowers

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Wed 07/09/08 10:49 AM
Edited by tanyaann on Wed 07/09/08 10:51 AM

Quick summary:

I've been talking to this woman since January. We've both said we love each other. We've overcome many obstacles to get to this point. August is our window. She's a teacher and will go back to work shortly thereafter.

We talked about an 8 day stay. She was backing off of that yesterday for silly reasons, but I believe was seeing sense when apparently she had some sort of accident which required 7 stitches. She will not tell me where the stitches are. Like I effing care. I went ahead and purchased the ticket anyway since I've spent more than that on one roll of the dice and began to sense that all of this time she might have been bullsh!tting me. Now I wait


How long ago did you purchase the tickets? I did non-refundable and had to cancel and got full refund but that was very shortly after I purchased them. If you think she is backing out and says so... you can still cancel and get an airline credit.

Wait and talk with her... stop freaking out until you have a reason to do so.

If she says that she doesn't want to meet then you have reason to freak and cancel the tickets.

If she is just concerned about cost for 8 days or where she'll be staying during the time of her visit... well those are valid reasons to be cautious and back off a little.

Breath and relax for now!

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Wed 07/09/08 10:50 AM


I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.




Nah, she's avoiding talking. I know this for fact.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:51 AM



I haven't spoken to her in 24 hours so it's kinda hard to say what she's thinking...
Ok so when is she coming there???? 24 hours is no big deal not to talk to someone....ppl get busy.


Nah, she's avoiding talking. I know this for fact.


how, because you 2 havent spoken in 24 hrs?

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Wed 07/09/08 10:52 AM
I say 24 hours is a long time unless the person is overseas. It would worry me, bug me, and damn well piss me the hell off. Especially if I talked to said person everyday.

Oh well, just my opinion. Best of luck Waterloo.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:52 AM
I hate to be a naysayer but from what I know of you if the communication hasn't improved now, you need to seriously be prepared for this not to work out.

This late in the game foundational issues need to be in sync. I'm sorry hon and I so hope I'm wrong, but this is a dealbreaker for me, and I think for you too.

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Wed 07/09/08 10:52 AM


Maybe she's afraid that you won't like her once you have met her. That's a tough one to swallow after you have been talking so long.




I'm pretty sure you've nailed it. The thing is, the mental and emotional bond is so strong and we have all these feelings without having met. Isn't it reasonable to assume that the externals don't matter to me??? Btw, she is an inherently attractive woman so it is not the issue anyway...

Believe me, LDR are hard. For some it works out, for me I know it would not have worked. He came here to see me, and I was supposed to go out to see him. I had my plane ticket to go, now I have a credit with the airlines. I'm sure there is apprehension, if not on your part...than possibly her's. There has to be a reason for the lack of communication. Hopefully she will be able to talk to you about it. I wish you all the luck in the world....