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Topic: How would u feel?
starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:11 PM
hypothetical...your family(grandparents, cousins, etc...)let your ex stay in a free rent house and helped him out with money and babysat his kids(for free)while u struggled...and the only reason they would do such a thing is because they have a guilty consiense about something they did in the past to you that was unforgivable...and I know that...but it still hurts that they help him out so much...even though I would want nothing to do with them, or there help anyway.But it's still a stab in the heart. I'm going through a very ugly custody battle, and it sucks that part of my family is against me because of there guilt, and he is using them...I know. But what they did is unforgivable! And I don't want my kids around them!! But there is nothing I can do about it right now...until I can get all the paperwork together. Any advise would be appreciated.

Neurofriction Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1840	Thu 07/03/08 07:13 PM
How would you feel if I said wow your sexy!

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Thu 07/03/08 07:14 PM
Keep your chin up, hang tough and kick @ss...you'll be alright

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Thu 07/03/08 07:14 PM
How would you feel if I said wow your sexy! let me know if that works

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Thu 07/03/08 07:15 PM
How would you feel if I said wow your sexy! Man...she needs help right now, go back to the girl that's gonna go on your trip

transientmind Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 4827	Thu 07/03/08 07:15 PM
Ouch... and ouch. Okay, maybe I'm a cold-hearted bastar.... pragmatic love child but I believe that family is as family does.

transientmind Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 4827	Thu 07/03/08 07:15 PM
How would you feel if I said wow your sexy! let me know if that works Ditto.

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Thu 07/03/08 07:16 PM
I would feel absolutely devasted if my family ever turned their back on me...no matter what is goin on everyone needs their family...I hope all turns out well for you

stardust50 Joined Tue 06/03/08 Posts: 542	Thu 07/03/08 07:17 PM
Sure every one needs family until they come to visit and never leave.............

starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:18 PM
Keep your chin up, hang tough and kick @ss...you'll be alright thanks babe

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Thu 07/03/08 07:20 PM
I just hope you can get your kids soon and the rest of them can have each other....exactly what they deserve.

starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:21 PM
Ouch... and ouch. Okay, maybe I'm a cold-hearted bastar.... pragmatic love child but I believe that family is as family does. yeah, I have a fudged up family

plhealy Joined Wed 04/02/08 Posts: 3	Thu 07/03/08 07:21 PM
Try and seperate the logic from the emotion. I would waste no time gettin that paperwork done and leave em all in the dust!!

Neurofriction Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1840	Thu 07/03/08 07:21 PM Edited by Neurofriction on Thu 07/03/08 07:21 PM
Sorry! I need to read before I post. But I would do everything I could to seperate myself from anyone who isn't good for me. I am a hard ass but to say it honestly ppl who hurt you are worth nothing in your life but pain. Learn that you have yourself and that's all that matters. Plus your kids who need you to be able to make a stand and stand alone for them if need be. Good luck to you and God bless.

starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:23 PM
I just hope you can get your kids soon and the rest of them can have each other....exactly what they deserve. Yeah me too ...they really are evil people, and I hate it that they were ever my family...I'm not going to get into it about what they did unless u want me to, but I really feel alone right now while I'm going through all of this. But I'm a strong woman, and I'll get through it...but the s.h.i.t. seems to never end...

starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:25 PM
Sorry! I need to read before I post. But I would do everything I could to seperate myself from anyone who isn't good for me. I am a hard ass but to say it honestly ppl who hurt you are worth nothing in your life but pain. Learn that you have yourself and that's all that matters. Plus your kids who need you to be able to make a stand and stand alone for them if need be. Good luck to you and God bless. Thank you sweetie

Lindyy Joined Tue 01/01/08 Posts: 2699	Thu 07/03/08 07:28 PM
hypothetical...your family(grandparents, cousins, etc...)let your ex stay in a free rent house and helped him out with money and babysat his kids(for free)while u struggled...and the only reason they would do such a thing is because they have a guilty consiense about something they did in the past to you that was unforgivable...and I know that...but it still hurts that they help him out so much...even though I would want nothing to do with them, or there help anyway.But it's still a stab in the heart. I'm going through a very ugly custody battle, and it sucks that part of my family is against me because of there guilt, and he is using them...I know. But what they did is unforgivable! And I don't want my kids around them!! But there is nothing I can do about it right now...until I can get all the paperwork together. Any advise would be appreciated. I would feel totally betrayed. My sister-in law did something similar to me. I confronted my brother about it and told him about my ex-s abuse of my children. That put a stop to his wife being so 'chummy' with my ex. I know it hurts. Regarding custody, I can only speak for PA, but custody goes to the mother, in general, unless the paternal father can prove she is unfit. If the children are old enough, the judge will talk to them and base much of his/her opinion on the child's wishes. My divorce was violent, slashed tires, guns waived all over the place, threats to kill my show dogs and my kids, broken doors, phones ripped off of wall. BUT, the worse he got the closer I grew to the Lord and the stronger I got. NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER, let him or them know it is getting to you. Remain as calm as you can and as civil toned in conversation as you can. God Bless, Lindyy

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Thu 07/03/08 07:29 PM
I'm not sure how the law is in that part of the panhandle or what kind of machine your ex-everything has, but in most states the mother is considered the favored caregiver unless there are extended circumstances... ....no drugs, crime, or cruelty to palm trees...right?

brooke007 Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 5469	Thu 07/03/08 07:31 PM
I had problems like that during and after my divorce. since that time me and my family have mended our fences and our learning to treat eachother with respect. its hard........but so is turning your back completly on your family... even though sometimes it seems that that is the only answer for your sanity.

starlynsangel Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 729	Thu 07/03/08 07:31 PM
hypothetical...your family(grandparents, cousins, etc...)let your ex stay in a free rent house and helped him out with money and babysat his kids(for free)while u struggled...and the only reason they would do such a thing is because they have a guilty consiense about something they did in the past to you that was unforgivable...and I know that...but it still hurts that they help him out so much...even though I would want nothing to do with them, or there help anyway.But it's still a stab in the heart. I'm going through a very ugly custody battle, and it sucks that part of my family is against me because of there guilt, and he is using them...I know. But what they did is unforgivable! And I don't want my kids around them!! But there is nothing I can do about it right now...until I can get all the paperwork together. Any advise would be appreciated. I would feel totally betrayed. My sister-in law did something similar to me. I confronted my brother about it and told him about my ex-s abuse of my children. That put a stop to his wife being so 'chummy' with my ex. I know it hurts. Regarding custody, I can only speak for PA, but custody goes to the mother, in general, unless the paternal father can prove she is unfit. If the children are old enough, the judge will talk to them and base much of his/her opinion on the child's wishes. My divorce was violent, slashed tires, guns waived all over the place, threats to kill my show dogs and my kids, broken doors, phones ripped off of wall. BUT, the worse he got the closer I grew to the Lord and the stronger I got. NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER, let him or them know it is getting to you. Remain as calm as you can and as civil toned in conversation as you can. God Bless, Lindyy thank you, I'm doing the best I can to stay positive, and get through this...I appreciate your thoughts and wisdom.