Here ill add a couple things to the 100 list of things you could of said.


Get a cam, they onlY caust $20 today, your internet is more. Unless your on dile up and i really feel sorry for you


If you don't have a cam and your not sure about there pic. Ask them to take one with then holding a sign of what site this is. it can be paper a box anything. If they have nothing to hide it takes what 1 second to take the pic and what, like 20 seconds to load it and one more second to delet it when ther done. Hell i call out 10 people on this site that way and they left this site. OH! the good old days when you could call them out on the forum

That is why I firmly believe in forumites meeting sooner, rather than later. Like within 2-4 weeks. Interacting here gives a false sense of knowing the person. You never know what is real until you have met. Hell, you may not even know the truth until years later. Some people can be sneaky like that.

Common sense isn't all that common...

Shadow...what if the library, or the FedEx/Kinko's won't let them connect it up?

I'm not going to have a computer once my ex-girlfriend's disability comes through. She's moving out then. It's HER computer...I don't own one.

I suggest making up with her pretty quick!

Naw, it's back to going to the library...I can go HERE at the library, but they frown on AFF.

Common sense has been replaced by rashness and the need for instant gratification

I whole heartedly agree with the instant gratification part.

Hey, Peccy,

like the new pic...you look..."dapper".

Women go crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man.

way to many paranoid people out there
just gotta be smart about it
least the first 2 times meet someplace at least semipublic, and in my case when ive met people from the internet (2 dates & a group of guys for a big ass football game me n sum friends set up) i had a knife in my back pocket

Good point, for me though, when I meet someone in person, I can see their eyes and what goes on behind them. I've only been fooled once that way...

On line, you can do and say anything, and yes, I think most people have respectable intentions, however, the true character of a person can only be seen in time.

In person, I can usually read the body language which is 80% of the conversation, only 20% is verbal. Online all you have is verbal.

Humm common sense and gut feeling are very important but there are some that don't have the common sense. They believe anything anyone tells them.

Internet can be great or it can be your worst enemy.

Talk find out things about the other person don't be afraid to ask questions.

One thing for sure on the net the longer you talk to them the more you can find out about them.

If they don't talk about themselves there past ect..its a red flag.

To me if they live close it is best to meet within a few weeks of talking you can then know if you want to keep talking to them. There is so much more you can determine after meeting in person.

Always meet in a public place the first time for lunch etc or just a soda or coffee.

One never knows if the chemistry is there or not until you meet them in person. No matter how things are online you seem to get along with them perfect maybe. But then you meet them in person and well many times that chemistry is not there after all.

Regardless if any time you get a gut feeling something is out of place or does not seem right don't push those feelings to the side.

I think meeting someone online...especially if they aren't close enough for a rapid meet, you have alot more time to get to know that person and check them out. We have talked now over 3 months...might not meet for another couple months...if you were a serial killer, I think I would know by now

No one suspected Ted Bundy or BTK, or the Green River killer for a long time. Even the police were fooled for a while.

Aren't I a little ray of sunshine.

If someone is close enough, a meeting sooner than later, a pic is a given, no blue boxes.
I give my ph. to the woman because I know they are more security conscious. And I tell them I only have a cell. And yes please tell someone that you're meeting me, and where we are going to meet.

actually think common sense hasnt been replaced, it's been abandoned

Usually I can tell if someone has serious issues,the first time I met them, its in the eyes. I have asked people to remove their sunglasses for just that reason. I need real eye contact.

Its true, many say that those who hide the eyes behind sunglasses all the time have other things to hide.

In all my time online....and that might be a day or two lol...the most common mistake i see, is people not taking the time to get to know people.

Taking the time, and getting to know someone, is always a necessary precaution.

This is true in both worlds, online and off. Moving too quickly is probably the reason for so many failed relationships. I know it's hard sometimes to take it slow, especially when you really like someone, but it is the fair approach to both parties.

Basically i wouldn't call that paranoia, i would call it being cautious.