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Topic: How old is too old...
bobdesigns4262 Joined Sat 08/04/07 Posts: 2127	Fri 06/20/08 08:31 AM
I had just turned 42 when I had my last child. DANG, i thought you were in twenties! 44, baby!!! and looking fine

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 06/20/08 08:34 AM
ill say this... i had my last one at 28 the one before that was 23... and id take 23 way before 28 i noticed a big difference lol.. so im glad i was done at age 28! but 32 is a bit older and i think that is the oldest i ever could of gone myself

cdanny47 Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2328	Fri 06/20/08 08:34 AM
I had just turned 42 when I had my last child. DANG, i thought you were in twenties! 44, baby!!! And you ain't hit on me yet??? I am heart broken sweety

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Fri 06/20/08 08:37 AM
ill say this... i had my last one at 28 the one before that was 23... and id take 23 way before 28 i noticed a big difference lol.. so im glad i was done at age 28! but 32 is a bit older and i think that is the oldest i ever could of gone myself I was near 30 when I had my only one. My husband had a stroke when she was 2 months old. I had always wanted more kids, but was afraid to have any more fearing I would raise them alone. I was right, he died 2 1/2 years ago. So, there is a part of me that always wanted one. But, sometimes it just isn't in the cards.

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Fri 06/20/08 08:37 AM
I am 47 and still a fertile myrtle. But, I don't think it would be fair to have one at my age. It'd would be like I was a grandma!! But, others have done it and all was fine!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Fri 06/20/08 08:38 AM
ill say this... i had my last one at 28 the one before that was 23... and id take 23 way before 28 i noticed a big difference lol.. so im glad i was done at age 28! but 32 is a bit older and i think that is the oldest i ever could of gone myself I was near 30 when I had my only one. My husband had a stroke when she was 2 months old. I had always wanted more kids, but was afraid to have any more fearing I would raise them alone. I was right, he died 2 1/2 years ago. So, there is a part of me that always wanted one. But, sometimes it just isn't in the cards. youve still got time, if thats what you want

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Fri 06/20/08 08:39 AM
I am 47 and still a fertile myrtle. But, I don't think it would be fair to have one at my age. It'd would be like I was a grandma!! But, others have done it and all was fine!! Yeah, that is what concerns me. If I knew for sure I would remain in such good health for a long while and I knew I could do the things a younger mom could do, I would probbaly like one. But, it is such a big decision.

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Fri 06/20/08 08:39 AM
I had just turned 42 when I had my last child. You really are one really young looking over-40!! Just beautiful!!! When I grow up, I wanna look like that!!! Oh, I already grew up.... AND OLD!!!!

beachbum069 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 14325	Fri 06/20/08 08:41 AM
I had just turned 42 when I had my last child. DANG, i thought you were in twenties! 44, baby!!! You're very well preserved.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Fri 06/20/08 08:45 AM
Anyway...nothing seious at all in this topic. Peccy and i are TALKERS and we have a LOT of time to talk and all sorts of things come up when we do LOL This is just one of the things that did ...

grneyedldy1967 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2854	Fri 06/20/08 08:46 AM
Too old is when you want to have a panic attack or throw up at the thought of starting all over again with a baby That would be me... I'm 40 and have absolutely NO desire to bring another baby into my life! UGH

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 06/20/08 08:49 AM
ill say this... i had my last one at 28 the one before that was 23... and id take 23 way before 28 i noticed a big difference lol.. so im glad i was done at age 28! but 32 is a bit older and i think that is the oldest i ever could of gone myself I was near 30 when I had my only one. My husband had a stroke when she was 2 months old. I had always wanted more kids, but was afraid to have any more fearing I would raise them alone. I was right, he died 2 1/2 years ago. So, there is a part of me that always wanted one. But, sometimes it just isn't in the cards. i think there is and always be a part in a woman that will want more kids... i know i felt a huge loss after having my tubes tied.... honestly though i still think about it from time to time but not as deeply as i did when i was younger.... mostly when i was in your situation... once had a bf that didnt have any before...and once cause i wondered what it would be like to have a child with another bf....but when i hit about 42 or so i was thinking how grand it will be to have a grandchild... so far that hasnt happened yet though i realized after i had the bf that didnt already have kids that that is something that i need to think about before i date someone else that didnt already have children.. so i chose the path of not dating guys that didnt already have kids... that was just for me.. cause i would of felt guilty of taking such a beautiful thing from them to not be able to have children.... and to me i would of felt selfish... but that is just my feelings and my choices... ive seen it work out for others though

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 06/20/08 08:50 AM
furthermore i think its great you both are thinking about this... and communicating it..

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76412	Fri 06/20/08 08:50 AM
Well everyone is different in thinking what is too old all depends on the person. Myself I was 27 when I had my daughter. But myself I'm 49 now would I have one now hummm nooooooooo just got mine grown I want to enjoy life with me and another alone. Is that being greedy maybe so but to have one at this age. Sorry I can go get my granddaughter and enjoy her for the day if I want a child around. It all depends on what you want not want another wants. There have been plenty of women having kids in there 40's- 50's just not for me.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Fri 06/20/08 08:51 AM
Just my opinion, if your in your 40s and have had a child already. I wouldn't think it would be fair to have one, do to the fact that you wouldn't have that time or most likely the health of a young mother would. When i here things on the news like some 60 your old having one. To me it's just wrong.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Fri 06/20/08 08:52 AM
ill say this... i had my last one at 28 the one before that was 23... and id take 23 way before 28 i noticed a big difference lol.. so im glad i was done at age 28! but 32 is a bit older and i think that is the oldest i ever could of gone myself I was near 30 when I had my only one. My husband had a stroke when she was 2 months old. I had always wanted more kids, but was afraid to have any more fearing I would raise them alone. I was right, he died 2 1/2 years ago. So, there is a part of me that always wanted one. But, sometimes it just isn't in the cards. i think there is and always be a part in a woman that will want more kids... i know i felt a huge loss after having my tubes tied.... honestly though i still think about it from time to time but not as deeply as i did when i was younger.... mostly when i was in your situation... once had a bf that didnt have any before...and once cause i wondered what it would be like to have a child with another bf....but when i hit about 42 or so i was thinking how grand it will be to have a grandchild... so far that hasnt happened yet though i realized after i had the bf that didnt already have kids that that is something that i need to think about before i date someone else that didnt already have children.. so i chose the path of not dating guys that didnt already have kids... that was just for me.. cause i would of felt guilty of taking such a beautiful thing from them to not be able to have children.... and to me i would of felt selfish... but that is just my feelings and my choices... ive seen it work out for others though Well, I don't see it as selfish. Not if they are grown and have made that choice to be with you regardless. Making a baby should be something both partners want...not a gift to another. I wouldn't even consider it, if I didn't deep down want it myself. that would not be fair to the baby.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 06/20/08 09:18 AM Edited by buttons on Fri 06/20/08 09:20 AM
yep that is what i was trying to say anyway....... that everyone is different and i know some dont feel that way... but i did and that is why i chose that path and that old bf of mine he was 6 yrs younger.. he was 25 and i was 32... lasted 2 yrs that relationship he later met someone that could have children but already had 4 of them and she didnt want anymore... i guess that was all good cause they were together 4 yrs and he then got in a car accident and died so he never had the chance to have any children and ill add.... he was great with my kids.<good dad>.... sure made a memory in their lives....

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 06/20/08 09:30 AM
If you truly have to ask, then I'm almost sure you feel as though you've reached your maximum age limit

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Fri 06/20/08 09:31 AM
I think this is a totally personal decision between the couple ~ and their doctor. Everyone is different, health wise. Every pregnancy is a risk to some degree. There are a lot of factors to consider for each circumstance involved in this decision. There are always options ~~ surrogacy, adoption, etc.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Fri 06/20/08 09:34 AM
If you truly have to ask, then I'm almost sure you feel as though you've reached your maximum age limit Honestly...purdy darn close HA!